>>507963988Following this:
>>507970655I should also suggest applying the good old "shit sandwich" principle. For that, just think of the give and take from a zoom out perspective on various points. Positives are gives, negatives are takes. For everything you need to "take", supply 2 "gives". The "Sandwich" happens if you do a give-take-give in that order. So for example, compliment them, make a critique, then give another compliment, all in quick succession like a run-on sentence almost. You'll get good at this (if its even new to you, sorry if its not) when you realize compliments aren't the only kind of positive, and critiques aren't the only kind of negative, to form a sandwich out of. Sometimes instead of a critique, it may be a request you need to make, etc - something you need to "get", not "give". So you sandwich it between 2 "gives". Thats why I started off saying its a give-take-give thing, and not positive-negative-positive. Here is a very loose example: "Kevin you've always been super helpful about X and Ive always appreciated your Y. I need your help with Z for me to N. If you can help me with that, I can offer to H and promise to J". Thats like a give give take give give pattern. Get it? I also call it buttering people up, and sweetening the deal. It works. It makes people feel like theyre coming out ahead at a negotiating table, and they perceptually are, but I also get what I want... it works. It often takes a little sacrifice, but thats how omelettes are made.