>>508622760>>508623063This anon knows what's up.
I've an average face, but am 6'4" and make good money. Even if it takes some effort, I've always been able to get dates.
Of course, I'm also a turbo-autist, so those dates rarely go well. Still, I thought everyone was in the same boat until my college roommate (he's 5'6"ish?) and I "swapped notes". It's fucking grim. The only reasons I'm not a virgin/"incel" are the genetic traits I was born with and put 0 effort into. Likewise, with social stuff/concealing my autism (also genetic, btw, just ask my dad, grandpa, and great-grandpa), even putting 999 effort into social stuff at most lets me keep a relationship for a period of time.
>>508626220>>508623599Look man, I can tell you're genuinely trying to help, and I appreciate that, Seriously, there's not many like you on 4chan these days.
I held a similar view to you when I was younger, but in my 30s, I'm kinda beaten down. Got laid off, and now I'm just kinda coasting till my savings run dry and I can peace out, permanently, guilt-free. Yeah, I know, I'm weak or whatever... Now, I would argue that even the ability to put in effort/grow from failure is genetic, too, but I think everyone has an upper limit on how many times they can be beaten down and get back up.
After that, they kinda just... lose their will to live? Sounds grim, but I think it's pretty accurate. If you can't expect (even a chance of) a decent outcome from your effort, eventually the certain pain/failure outweighs the possible(?) success. The adversity you mention... it's not worth enduring if all it gets me is better/more expensive escapism and superficial praise from people who don't even like me,