>>509070625That’s really awful. Yours is a tragic situation. It’s one of those subjects that speak to degrees and context. What you’re describing is pure abuse.
To that end, should one ever spank a child when they are having a bad day or are in a foul frame of mind? Never ever. If so, and the offense of the child warrants a spanking, put it off until such a time as there is no prospect for that episode of discipline to double as an outlet for your frustrations.
Sometimes physical discipline does blur the lines with some parents where it’s both a form of abuse and discipline. That’s also fucked up.
But, yeah, in your case, it’s just pure abuse. Especially layering on if insulsts and ridicule. Again, bro, I really am sorry to hear all that. Formative years are important. The best you can do as a parent is try and be a little better in the ways your own parents maybe failed.
I would say the trick to that is in not getting carried away going to extremes in improving what we perceive to be our own parents shortcomings. Forming your parenting strategy around the theme of righting your parents wrongs usually ends in disaster itself. It’s also a way of letting the trauma of the past control you.
Your dad sounds like a dick. There’s simply no excuse for stuff like that.