>>509328026This is the major issue. Something hardwired into your wife’s brain that made her choose you because of your protective nature and earning capacity will be broken when she is the breadwinner, even if you do just fine financially. She will never see your home labour as the equivalent of a job, especially since you didn’t birth the children. You emasculate yourself doing this. If you’re extremely masculine in other ways, it might be enough to cancel it out, but it’s unlikely for most men. You’d have to be jacked, and using the time to accomplish things- building stuff, culinary mastery, homeschooling, etc. to really demonstrate value.
Some relationships will survive it fine. Some others have no chance. Mine would last a few years but diminish over time…