>>509537008 (OP)The obvious solution is for her to fully embrace her colonized state, and agree/go along with the jokes. Racism is largely rooted in tribalism, and if you make it absolutely clear that you are with Tribe X, and will help brutally murder your original tribe if push comes to shove, most people will be okay with it.
The tension comes from when they want to be buddy buddy with white people, but also still retain their original ties.