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8/9/2025, 10:40:39 AM No.512600450
Social researcher and author Wednesday Martin has previously told the ABC at least six longitudinal studies — in total tens of thousands of adults in the age range of 18 to 70 — showed "consistently that in a long-term committed exclusive relationship, women stop wanting to have sex in years one to four".
Whereas men, she says, are "pretty happy having sex with their long-term partners for nine or 12 years without reporting boredom".
Women crave novelty and excitement in the bedroom, says Ms Waugh, and the burden of mental load doesn't help to increase their sexual interest, either.
'Sex that's not interesting enough'
Esther Perel, a psychotherapist who has spent years studying intimacy and monogamy, has been quoted as saying while men's sexual desire in long-term relationships declines gradually over the years, women's "plummets".
"It's always been translated as, 'Well, that's because women care less about sex', rather than 'It's because women care less about the sex they can have in their committed relationships, which is often not interesting enough for them.'"
One study from 2012 found for women only, lack of interest in sex was higher among those in a relationship of more than one year in duration. Research from 2018 found the longer the duration of the relationship, the more relationship quality could influence sexual desire in women.
And while a 2023 study found sexual boredom to be more common for men in heterosexual long-term relationships, they still had high sexual desire for their partner overall, whereas women's desire for their partner declined as their boredom increased.
Whereas men, she says, are "pretty happy having sex with their long-term partners for nine or 12 years without reporting boredom".
Women crave novelty and excitement in the bedroom, says Ms Waugh, and the burden of mental load doesn't help to increase their sexual interest, either.
'Sex that's not interesting enough'
Esther Perel, a psychotherapist who has spent years studying intimacy and monogamy, has been quoted as saying while men's sexual desire in long-term relationships declines gradually over the years, women's "plummets".
"It's always been translated as, 'Well, that's because women care less about sex', rather than 'It's because women care less about the sex they can have in their committed relationships, which is often not interesting enough for them.'"
One study from 2012 found for women only, lack of interest in sex was higher among those in a relationship of more than one year in duration. Research from 2018 found the longer the duration of the relationship, the more relationship quality could influence sexual desire in women.
And while a 2023 study found sexual boredom to be more common for men in heterosexual long-term relationships, they still had high sexual desire for their partner overall, whereas women's desire for their partner declined as their boredom increased.
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