Thread 512752435

I'm 34 so not a Zoomer but what the fuck does "socialize" even mean? Having retarded small talk with random people you don't give a shit about where the music is so loud you can't even hear your own thoughts, and moving your body for no reason at all whatsoever while drinking drinks that taste like absolute shit and cost $10+ each? I've never understood the appeal of parties or socializing. Like, what's even the point? It sounds like the most miserable experience imaginable. I'd rather go to the fucking DMV.

>>512752435 (OP)
>millennial
>struggles to understand simple social behaviors
checks out

>>512752435 (OP)
>what the fuck does "socialize" even mean? Having retarded small talk with random people you don't give a shit about where the music is so loud you can't even hear your own thoughts
Generally it means to get to know the people in your community and build relationships with them.
But there are no communities anymore, everyone is atomized and trapped in their screens.

>>512752553
>Generally it means to get to know the people in your community and build relationships with them.
That doesn't sound too bad. But I don't see how you can do that at a party.

>>512753239
Typically a party means meeting with your friends and talking. loud music is optional, alcohol is typically not. But you should know this

>>512753239
>I don't see how you can do that at a party.
That's because you don't do that shit at a party. You get wasted and have dirty promiscuous sex with worthless whores at a party.

>>512752435 (OP)
The whole concept of nightclub is confusing.
Alcohol sucks.
I wouldn't want to fuck someone I know nothing about anyways.

>>512753326
>>512753239
>>512752553
>>512752485
All cocaine is fentanyl. The drug scene is finished until they legalize everything.

>>512752435 (OP)
how are you 34 and this inexperienced at life?

Anti socialism in gen Y is due to increased number of germanic birthrate from the previous gen.

I'm 34 and my gf is 16. It's really fucking easy when her peers are trannies that are too shy to talk to women.

Clubs were great when cocaine was great. Everything else is a pitiful caricature.

>>512753492
> I wouldn't want to fuck someone I know nothing about anyways

that's gay

> I'm 34 and my gf is 16

surprisingly, this is also gay

>>512752435 (OP)
I do all my socialising at a nice little baptist church, I'm do glad I aged out of having to go to pubs/clubs to have both my ears and kidneys damaged in order to try connecting with people I no longer speak to anyway.

>>512752435 (OP)
Based.
>>512752485
Cucked.

>>512752435 (OP)
I always struggled with it too. I was fairly social in my 20s, but in retrospect (didn’t realize it at the time) my light autism usually made me somewhat awkward, which is probably why deep social experiences like parties and concerts never really clicked with me. I hate to admit it, but many of my friendships in my youth were subconsciously transactional for social proof with women. I’m 41 and only have two friends I see maybe a dozen times a year now. One is a divorced normie who is sort of a failure like me, so I relate to him quite a bit and enjoy his company. Another is a recovering addict who is completely subservient to his wife and highly feminized due to such. I find him kind of annoying and mostly hang out with him out of inertia and feeling kinda guilty since I crashed at his place alot in the past and kinda used him for social clout (he was a good looking dude who usually had girls with him). My other friends I rarely see anymore are married normies with good jobs, mortgages and shit and I don’t really relate to them at all anymore. They used to be sort of red pilled dudes back in the day but are now in normie blue pill marriages and such. I’d highly recommend young men to hone their social skills because its brutal as you get older and you really need a tribe to be successful. You have to completely savage or a total Chad to truly be a successful loner in life, otherwise you’re more than likely going to be a failure to some degree.

>>512754780
a pattern i see here and in young men in general is a neurotic desire for connection and genuineness. The guys who succeed don't really do this. Their natural behavior is limited to an area of acceptibility mostly and if they step outside that its just sexual or physical aggression, nothing weird or creepy

The guys who succeed tend to be pretty much write-only, don't really listen much, just do what they want and naturally don't alienate people through neuroticism or obsession or broadcasting self-doubt

If I could go back to my youth and tell myself anything it'd be don't listen to all the hen-pecking women saying extroversion and boyish behavior is bad or wrong

You have to realize all of these institutions and social pressures exist for women's benifit

>>512756066
>don't listen to all the hen-pecking women saying

This. I made the mostake of actually treating women like fellow human beings whoch i wont make again.

>>512752435 (OP)
>I don't get going to a bar
Bruh not my problem to be honest. Blame your disability (autism)

>>512753492
>I wouldn't want to fuck someone I know nothing about anyways.

Yeah no shit but women can just "feel" your "vibe" and fuck chad within a couple hours

>>512752435 (OP)
It's the meat matrix. It's the most retarded thing ever and it's controlled by even bigger retards and they're evil. There's no use. People are fucked. Whatever this experience is means nothing now. There is so much being hidden from everyone.
They're all just acting. I promise you. Nothing they do is real. It's just an act.

>>512756066
>a pattern i see here and in young men in general is a neurotic desire for connection and genuineness.

Nailed it bro

>>512752435 (OP)
We have a description in Ireland for people like you.
>Dry shite

>>512753842
>16
A little old but still very nice

>>512756133

THIS, nigga
I wanna make a bit and spam this post everywhere nonstop

>>512756066
See pic related.
>88DKR

>>512752435 (OP)
>I'm 34 so not a Zoomer but what the fuck does "socialize" even mean?
What you call “socialising” is, in its modern form, a degenerate parody of what human beings used to do when they gathered. Historically, social gatherings were about reinforcing community bonds, transmitting culture, arranging marriages, discussing politics, forming business alliances — in short, building civilisation. The tavern, the village feast, the hunt, the gentleman’s club — these were functional spaces with a hierarchy, a shared identity, and a purpose beyond getting inebriated while shouting over bad music.

Today, the point of most “parties” isn’t fellowship, it’s consumption. It’s noise, spectacle, and self-display — a simulated experience of connection without the actual responsibilities or shared values that make connection meaningful. People go because they’ve been socially conditioned to believe that “going out” is proof of being a normal, desirable human. The drinks, the music, the forced proximity — these are props in a ritual designed to produce conformity and keep you comfortably distracted from the emptiness of the thing itself.

The bitter irony is that you are sensing something real: this sort of “socialising” is alienating for anyone with a functioning sense of taste, intellect, or historical awareness. You’re not imagining the absurdity — you’re just noticing it, which makes you the odd one out in a culture that’s taught to call nonsense “fun.”

>>512756066
Yea I think you are pretty spot on there. I was raised in a very weak father household to a feminist mother, and it’s no coincidence males I relate to almost always come from a similar background. I’ve always struggled to relate and fit in with more aggressive and masculine males, and as you get older you see more and more those are the guys that actually achieve shit in life. Strong males tend to form cooperative and homogenous camaraderie like a sports team, whereas weak males socialize more like women, with unspoken layers of jealously, competition and envy.

>>512752435 (OP)
>what the fuck does "socialize" even mean?
It means that the people around you just want someone to say hello to them, give them compliments or a simple "good job", and listen to them talk about their issues and opinions. You want to expand on the socializing then you invite them out to drink or a party or club or to play basketball or golf or take a road trip. Most people are pretty simple and will call you a friend they get really weird and uncomfortable when you don't do the things I listed or show much interest in doing them. People are trained to believe that they matter but in reality 99% of us (yes I include myself) simply don't.

Nightclub attendances fall every year. It isn’t about that and it never really was. They were always shitty and if you kept going to them after you were 21 then you had problems

Working men’s clubs, pubs, social clubs, country clubs, sport clubs, golf clubs, shooting clubs etc etc were where the socialising took place. The idea was you would have a common interest or background and bond with the other members over it. The fact that you thought people were doing this in nightclubs is bizarre

>>512752435 (OP)
I have no idea dn I'm older than you it used to mean taking drugs or getting drunk with people and combining that whith stuff like playing pool or dancing but as far as I'm aware people don't really do that any more becasue of coke heads and roid ragers and the third world making places like clubs and bars dangerous and shit, so they have all gone dark. Womn don't want to be around shit like drunk jeets for example (no one does).

Beyond that it used mean 'clubs' like model plane clubs, tennis clubs, chess clubs, dungeons amd dragons, karate etc but these have mostly all died and gone to the internet or become purely functional training and no hanging out in a bar after.

People are genrally awful and always have been, being slighly intoxicated used take the edge off it and nicotine helps moderate the effects of booze. Now everything is just shit basically. It is not just you. Things have changed massively. The only peole who go out where I live now are touists and I doubt they have much fun

>>512754373
>I do all my socialising at a nice little baptist church
If that's teh case and you'rre actually in Ireland you are
a)Foreign and probably from africa
b)Really not wanted in the country and part of a cult that preaches hatred against the indigenous Irisg Catholic people

Just letting you know. They will probably kill you or burn your house down if there is a big enough recession. You don't know any irish that's for sure.

>>512752435 (OP)
Old azz nigga

tk him 2 da bar lol