>>512839142
>Why do you consider an event with a cake treating him like a child?
It's the real reason why they're having the event, not the stated reason which is "it's Anon's bday".
Assuming the Anon's story is true, his parent's are aware he does not enjoy social gatherings and is bad at socializing.
So to celebrate his birthday, is going out to a public location with lots of people something anon would be at least comfortable with?
Obviously no, something nice would be having a less extravagant meal at home with just the family.
They wanted to go out and have a fancy meal and get together with others, and they use anon's birthday as an excuse to have this event.
No consideration about what he wanted to do, which was probably just stay at home.
>>512839279
They're aware he doesn't like these situations tho, so why force it. Not everyone enjoys going out to have these meals with nothing to do other than eat and probably have no friends/people around the same age to chat with.
I've had this happen before with my parents, go out to a meal and it's just them, my aunties/uncles and grandparents. I can speak a little bit but 99% of the time they're off in their own little world chatting away and I've nothing to contribute to the discussion, so I feel awkward and just want to leave (usually spend half the night smoking outside)
Hence why I usually don't go to these more than once a year, and my parents are fine with that. I get along with them fine and speak with them daily, but in larger groups I easily get drowned out.