Thread 512998693

AMA I work in older adult protective services.
If you worked a 30k job and never went beyond that you're probably going to be getting 1200 a month social security check.
Hope you got a 401k.

>>512998693 (OP)
What’s their biggest regret? what race handles death best? R u in a nursing home

>>512998693 (OP)
Social security is going to run out of money before I get to retirement age.

>>512998985
I'm not in hospice. I don't really see them.
Its not what race handles death the best.
I can tell you that "the system" chews up old people a whole lot.
I don't work in a very culturally diverse area.
Many of the "non western" cultures here form enclaves and keep to themselves.
I visit nursing homes often.
I get alot of calls when theres no one around on night shifts and the old people shit their pants leaving the day shift to take care of the business. theres also few careaides that get snappy.
alot of old people i deal with have a hard time accepting wat limits are forced upon you in old age. like not being able to move so their house falls apart around them leavng it to be condemned and some developer to slurp up, or driving a car.
boomers fucking LOVE driving their cars

>>512999212
most old people now are heavily relying on insurence like meidcare or medicaide which they use to buy groceries, and pay their utilitiy bills.

>you WILL get old
>you WILL forget to make your house payments
>you WILL get your check drained slowly through hospital bills
>you WILL get penalized for trying to hide assets from the US government

>>513002088
Your story failed no one over 80 knows who Taylor is.

>>513002241
im talking about the old people of the future.

>>512998693 (OP)
That's hilarious that you think this country will survive long enough for people to retire in the future.

>>512998693 (OP)
optimistic to assume social security will still exist when this generation 'retires'

>>512998693 (OP)
I have a buddy near Boston who has been desperately trying to get help for his dad.
>90+
>alzheimers
>dementia
>diabetes

My bud is also an AP calc teacher so he is at his wits end. Do you have any advice for him? Thanks

>>513003950
KEK

Not taking your medication is the solution. Death is inevitable.

>>512998693 (OP)
>you're probably going to be getting 1200 a month social security check.
fuck yeah

>>512999767
English is hard for you?

>>513003835
it depends if how he is at his wits end.
if he's burnt out caregiving for his father, he should consider sending him to a skilled nursing facility.
if not then there always home health care nurses.
I'd definintly suggest you vet these aides before hand though, becuase home health care agencies are a joke, have difficulty covering shifts. and will steal from them.
If he's looking for homecare agencies, ask them about their employment practises, how many people they have working, and how they plan to fill in and cover shift for aides that callout or no-show.
You gotta pay a premimum for quality service.

If the dad gets a monthly check thats really good then a skilled nursing facility would be the best best. Though usually they need to have specific dementia units becuase the people wander.
Alot of assisted living is pretty much being akin to a CO in a jail.
If he is looking into nursing facilities, ask them how often they do rounds on the floor.
if its anything over 30 minutes rounds its probably not well run.

If he's looking into skilled nursing then it might be a big possibly that his father would quickly decline.
Getting old sucks, and it sucks a whole lot for the people who take care of elders. Theres alot of stress.
If he's got other family, make sure everyone is on the same page. There alot of power of attorney fights the belie divving up daddys stuff that tears families apart.

Theres alot of people that put cameras all over the place in their elders homes.
If he hasn't he should contact his local area agency on aging. its a federally mandated that every state has one.

>>513004798
Thanks anon, Ill tell him

>>513004284
After dealing with Elder Abuse for about a year now. I think im going to kill myself or go to Canada for MAIDS.
You drown in debt from hospitals ,ambulances, and everything else. And as an enfeebeld old person you are easy pickings for the vultures and scavangers of society.
It would be better to just give my social security payments to my nieces and newphews,instead of spending my retirement going from low income shithole from low income shithole.

>>513004767
I just don't proofead or edit my posts.

should've... LEARN TO JEW

>>513005012
i don't jew.
i think im physically incapable of it.
I take Immanuel Kants maxim by hear.
I will NEVER treat another human being as a simple means to an end.

>>513003835
Go to the senior center let them know you need some resources info on getting dad some help either in home or at a day center (yes that's a thing). They can at least give leads. FB marketplace for a lift chair, a lift aid for getting out of bed and safety rails. Adult wipes. A bidet. Meals on wheels so at least lunch is covered. Meal prep so only cook once a week. Hire a housekeeper at least every two weeks for laundry and dusting and vacuuming so he doesn't have to bother with deep cleaning. CBD gummies for sundowning issues. Chirp alarms for doors so he doesn't wander and you not know. Never leave keys out in open. Medicare should have a provision for an in home caregiver at least a few hours a week so he gets a break. He's 90 it's not like he can do a lot physically but the basics get really difficult so routine is everything. A nursing student might just come spend a few hours a week for the experience if he has a few bucks to spend. Maybe go inquire at the college, post it on the msg board. A good walk if he's mobile will wear him out every day. Just don't let him fall. A sitz bath thing highly recommended with the long handle sponge thingy. Lots of gloves.

I am going to bed
Got work tomorrow
hopefully ill get fired

anyways. Getting Old sucks. its better to do something now while you still can .

>>512998693 (OP)
This is what SSI is telling me now.