Thread 513851538

why am I so goddamn angry all the time? how do i master it without saying hurtful things to people? how pathetic is it to come here asking advice lol, i just seem to have nobody to talk to about it, i enter into a rageful fit often hurting the ones i love the most (with my words), its uncontrollable and i think deep down that i enjoy it, if anybody has a way to calm their rage it would be much appreciated.

anytime a loved one disrespects me I believe that I must correct that, its so idiotic that I only realize it afterwards. All my life I have been through shit, enough shit that I could pity myself in essence, but all I do with that is make myself a worse person, I talk to losers online ranting like some pussy to nobodies because I cannot talk about this to somebody. I can feel people moving further away once they get to know me and see i'm empty within.

>>513851538 (OP)
Faggot.

>>513851538 (OP)
>why am I so goddamn angry all the time?
Because you know something is wrong and you can't fix it.

>>513851647
you're probably right anon, a non homosexual faggot, im a real piece of shit.

>>513851684
Yes you are. But we still love you. Faggot.

>>513851659
Yeah you're right, but I think i'm broken on the inside, happened when I was a kid and just didn't recover from it.

>>513851684
You bitch like a fucking woman wtf

>>513851750
nah just bein honest, its pretty lame to blogpost. If I was a woman I would be blaming you for the way I am kek

>>513851538 (OP)
I always went off alone, got drunk, listened to music for hours just walking around town. Sometimes I would walk for 6 hours before I calmed down enough.

>>513851538 (OP)
Stoicism

>>513851823
yeah I might do that too without alcohol, im a mean drunk.

>>513851810
You're going to have to find your own way like every man ever has or go to a church and get child molested.
I'd take you fishing but you would scare away the fish with your talking.

>>513851538 (OP)
>why am I so goddamn angry all the time?
Because you don't like where your life is now. You hurt those who are close to you, because you know they will care.
I know, because I used to be in that place too.

>>513851923
Sober is best then, I am lucky in that alcohol makes me sad and depressed. But it is the act of taking your thoughts and just walking them until they are too tired to assault you any longer, then sifting through them and dealing with them once you are calmer.

>>513851957
yeah I guess I do, I just always take two steps forward and two steps back. Even with your bants, I might pick up fishin again.

>>513851988
>But it is the act of taking your thoughts and just walking them until they are too tired to assault you any longer, then sifting through them and dealing with them once you are calmer.
yeah I think I might do that, I just get stuck in that anger man, it fuckin sucks, when im over it, its like theres a voice telling me to stay angry and I get into a loop of being calm and being angry.

>>513851538 (OP)
Low testosterone and depression. Hit the gym, eat healthy, pray if you believe in something and stop lurking imageboards. This will not fix your life but it really helps.

>>513852029
You'll be ok anon.
It's just a bad day not a bad life.

>>513851538 (OP)
Anger comes from a lack of understanding. You need to empathize with other people more. Think about what caused someone to be the way they are, and know it isn't their fault.

>>513852099
nah im a healthy dude everywhere but my mind, i go gym pretty often 6 days out of the week, my T is pretty high too, dunno if it could be that too.

>>513851538 (OP)
Go for a short walk to calm down.

>>513852151
>Think about what caused someone to be the way they are, and know it isn't their fault.
yeah i never thought about it like that, I should be a bit less narcissistic I guess. Thanks anon

>>513852082
Just remember that anger is a strong emotion, it reacts to being confronted, but without fuel it is impotent. The longer you can go without reacting to it the more control you gain over it. Not reacting may not be possible and that is why alone time worked well for me, I could let the anger sit and burn me as long as it wanted to and if there was nobody else around there was no release for it, and eventually it breaks and recedes like the tide. Just be the sandy beach that absorbs the wrath of the sea, it is your anger so let yourself be the one to experience it.

>>513852121
thanks anon

>>513852271
>Just be the sandy beach that absorbs the wrath of the sea, it is your anger so let yourself be the one to experience it.
I like this image, I want to be more like that, anon. I honestly appreciate the advice anon.

>>513852342
You are welcome, I had a long road with my anger. I wish you well.

>>513852162
Do you drink caffeine

>>513852381
yeah I do, a bit addicted to it too if I am honest with you.

>>513851538 (OP)
WRONG FORUM TARD BOY

>>513852151
>Anger comes from a lack of understanding
Lmao imagine believing that. My anger comes from being the smartest man around and everyone else acting like a retard

>>513852372
I wish you well also anon! If you believe in a higher power I would appreciate any prayers.

>>513852276
I've definitely been there and still go there.

>>513852423
Go cold turkey off it for a month. Caffeine makes me rage when I come down from the high. Now that I’m consciously aware of it I can control it better

>>513852562
I might just try it out, or drink green tea, heard the l theanine in it can help with this shit.

>>513851538 (OP)
you’re angry at yourself because you see yourself as weak/a failure. These feelings probably started in you quite young. If 10 year old you who’s angry at the world and feels too small and weak to do anything is stood in front of you, what would you tell him?
>suck it up, man up, life is tough, get over it
or
>life is tough, yeah, and at 10 you’ve already been through your fair share, but you’re tougher, I’m proud of you like you wouldn’t believe
you gotta learn to forgive yourself, you’ve done nothing wrong
>t. not a woman btw

>>513852816
yeah I would help little me, but I would also probably beat the shit out of past me from 5 years ago. Have to go to sleep but I appreciate you all, thank you for your advice, I will try to apply this in my life.

>>513851538 (OP)
Because the world is shit and it's going to hell in a hand basket quick this third dimension is hell and you intrinsically know it

you have borderline personality disorder

>>513851538 (OP)
My honest reply

> too much screen time

You burn your neurons out, esp prefrontal cortex with suicidal media and Netflix and chill.

Go to forest or mountains. Preferably what is closer to your location

>>513852256
>i never thought about it like that
You're exactly the sort of person who should read Meditations and other Stoic works.

>>513852423
>>513852667
You can supplement l theanine to help with caffeine anxiety. Reducing (or eliminating) your dosage will help once you get past the withdraw symptoms.

>>513852162
>i go gym pretty often 6 days out of the week
What do you actually do in the gym? Standard strength training is important but intense cardio, HIIT, and combat sports do more to keep my head on straight.