>>518694740 (OP)
I don't tie them down I let them struggle. I kind of have a knack for it so I'm aboe to kind of play them like a musical instrument and force their body to contort and maneuver into positions I want them to without them realizes that's what I'm doing. I like to get them really worked up, then land a hard spank on their rump to kind of shock their system.
When they get too worked up I cuddle them and rub my palms across their skin to settle them down then start again.