>>519023796 (OP)
>It seems like the so called "love" between men and women is just another cope to make life seem more whimsical and interesting than it actually is.
Yes. But it's not just a cope, it's simply a choice. Your life is a sum of choices, same is true for everyone. Whatever you choose and whatever you refuse to choose will determine how your life looks like. If you lead a lonely loveless life it's because you either refuse to choose it or you chose it with the wrong person.
>It's on the same level of aliens, astrology, chosen ones, gangstalkers, etc.
No, because love is built, it's mutually created between people. You can create love, you cannot create aliens, astrology, gangstalkers etc. That is to say you cannot make them real, but you can make love real at any time.
>I think women only love themselves and their offspring. Hell, sometimes not even that.
They don't love themselves. That's been a big modern vanity agenda since whenever new-age horse shit arrived in the west. All this "love yourself" stuff is garbage, it's just women buy into it more than men. Some men try that too. We aren't created to love ourselves, we're created to love the other. The other will receive self love for being loved, just as you would receive it for being loved as well. It's supposed to be a reciprocity.
Most parents will always love their kids. But not every day, let's be realistic. You were a kid once, you remember having days where you were mad at your parents and you didn't love them? Sames true for parents with kids sometimes kids will piss them off especially teens. Makes it hard for a parent to show love for the kid. But a good parent chooses to do it anyway even in anger. Because that's again the bottom line if what love is, it's a choice.
If you spend your whole life chasing love like it's a feeling, you'll be in for misery. Understand it instead as a rational choice and it becomes so easy.