nobody told me that even when a man loves you, he never stops being attracted to other girls, nor does he ever stop thinking about having sex with other women. my bf told me this. he said that he is attracted to and wants to have sex with tons of women, but that i am the only one he has feelings for, so i should be happy. i asked my guy friend if this is true and he said yeah even when guys love a girl, it doesnt mean they stop thinking about fucking other women or watching porn of other women. why did i ever think that men can be monogamous, just because i work this way and dont think about any other man sexually when i am in love. im devastated and think i need to dump my bf now. nobody ever told me before that men dont get true oneitis the way us girls do. why is the world so cruel.

>>81466698 (OP)
Crystalcafe has all the answers you need.
Thread hidden btw.

>>81466698 (OP)
I didn't read that any of that shit, but I'm happy for any discomfort and misery you might feel.

>>81466698 (OP)
>thinking men are capable of love
Rookie error.

That's not true at all lol, it's not love if they're still coomers

>>81466698 (OP)
>i have a loyal boyfriend
>time to break up because i am retarded
Get out of here with your teenage normie problems

>>81466698 (OP)

Does it matter if the guy is still making the effort to be committed to you?

Also I don't know why you think you generalize girls with this oneitis quality, I've seen plenty of instances where that did not happen

>>81466731
no its true. i even went on reddit and stuff to ask normalfags and they agreed with my bf. i want to kms. why did nobody tell me that men are like this before.

>>81466745
>i want to kms.
Please do.

>>81466698 (OP)
People of all genders will still feel attraction to others, being in a relationship is committing to not act on that and redirecting that energy towards your partner.

>>81466733
Not OP but watching porn and simulating having sex with other people does not count as commitment. He is intentionally tricking his brain and dick into thinking he is cheating on her. If your gf was getting off to Chads and rubbing her clit to them while dating you then you would be crying like OP is.

>>81466698 (OP)
Retardniggertrannyrapist

Unless you're willing to let me use your holes 5 times a day/7 days a week, then I need to have another booty in line, you have to understand that. I'm hypersexual and constantly need pussy. You'll be my princess and I'll love you, but I still need another pussy to fuck when you're sore or being a bitch.

>>81466755
i genuinely dont feel attracted to anyone else when im in a relationship wtf why did i think everyone else is like me. im so disappointed i will never know true love.

>>81466776
You'll probably find someone attractive at some point. Then the question is having the good character not to act on it. Women cheat all the time

That's like thinking because you have a favorite movie you just stop liking every other movie forever.

Attractions don't magically stop. You should be more concerned about if he acts on them. You don't get to decide how people feel since it's not even something they have control over. Their actions, however, they do have control over.

>>81466868
No. People arent movies. Men are just evil. No wonder women dont want marriage or kids anymore.

>>81466745
>i even went on reddit
>i want to kms
go ahead

>>81466745
we are sexually stimulated by shapes and visual things. Its not a choice its a biological response. Do we act on it? No basically never.
And that says alot that your man only acts on it with you it probably means he sees more in you which means he lubs u <3

You need to get over that lust does not equal love. Men and women find things sexually attractive even when in relationships. Can't just switch off that part of your brain.

>>81466698 (OP)
If loyalty was just a switch that turned on when we fall in love it wouldnt be a virtue.

The virtue is in the fact that he knows other women are attractive and could see himself having sex with them, but still chooses you.

>>81466706
lolcow has more traffic

>>81466698 (OP)
you should find a true Christian man who has overcome lust and lustful thoughts

>>81466776
this is out of my ass but like 70% of all men AND women have the capability of cheating
its not a man only thing at the very least

>women obsess over one guy at a time
For like 30 seconds, if even that.

>people giving this shitty bait sincere responses
I hate this place

Damn this thread made me hate all men. Maybe being forever alone aint so bad.

>>81466710
>>81466752
>>81467051
you could just say u r single


im sorry anon chan i understand the pain
i want so badly to fall in love and give my mind body and soul to someone but ill be haunted by the idea that they could easily shatter my heart regardless of how much love i have for them

but in all honesty i dont think he loves you as much as he says he does. i think this happens with both men and women but if youre in a happy relationship it should be rare

>>81466698 (OP)
Sounds like you need a new bf. diovsseldne on discord will never think about or look at any other woman besides you.

>>81466698 (OP)
Modern day women brought that upon themselves

>>81466698 (OP)
This is one of those things that is true, for both men and women, but should never be said out loud.
Your bf is retarded for saying it. But you're also retarded if you genuinely didn't get the memo that men want to fuck lots of women.
And you're also a liar, cuz this:
>i work this way and dont think about any other man sexually when i am in love
just isn't true.

>>81466698 (OP)
are you stupid?
1. they are being monogamous. i hate to break it to you but women think of other men far more than men think of other women
2. i don't "want to have sex" with other women when i'm in a relationship with someone i care about. i can think someone looks attractive or pretty and still not want to stick my penis in them because i only want to stick my penis inside the girl i'm with
3. porn is not real, it is not another person, you can see this very plainly. i could jerk off staring at a fucking wall instead, or a poster, or a magazine, there isn't a difference, it just makes the process easier. but if you have a gf who wants to please you anytime you need, you don't even need it. the only reason men in relationships jerk off to porn is that a) their woman won't do x/y/z that they want at that particular time, or b) that their woman is unwilling to engage in quickies or non reciprocal sex. if the guy has to spend 40 minutes pleasing you every time - and this is fine sometimes but not all the time - when he just wants a quick 5 minute relief, then he's gonna prefer to jerk to porn than deal with that 40 mins of effort on his part every time
any woman that says to her man "i will suck or fuck you anytime you want" will find that her boyfriend does not really consume much porn

>>81466945
Explain how women cheat if they aren't evil.

All the times I've thought about other women to climax when I was with my ex ....

>>81466698 (OP)
Have you considered judging people by their actions?

>>81466776
>i genuinely dont feel attracted to anyone else when im in a relationship
you haven't been in a relationship long enough, because it is inevitable
saying you've never found anyone attractive at all is absurd, because for example the famous people and actors you found attractive before getting into the relationship you will still find attractive
you boot up underworld and ask me if kate beckinsale is attractive, i'm going to say yes every time
but if i am dating a woman, i will not want to fuck kate beckinsale or cook dinner with her or sit on the couch and watch tv with her, i will desire to do that only with my woman

>>81466698 (OP)
>men dont get true oneitis
wrong. It is just then when (I will use myself as example) I do, I get gigaburned and left out to dry by the woman.

>>81466698 (OP)
Men will always have the sexual wants to fuck every attractive woman he sees but he is willing to restrict himself because he loves you. That is how love and relationships work.

>>81466698 (OP)
>nobody told me that even when a man loves you, he never stops being attracted to other girls
That depends on the person. I've been in love with the same woman for several years and I don't find any other woman even slightly attractive. She'll never reciprocate and I know that, doesn't matter to my brain.

>>81466698 (OP)
It's currently magic mushroom season
In the next few weeks, I have to gather a years supply
So far, I have enough being dried to guarantee me at least 2 5g trips 6 months apart, that's all I need to keep me off other meds
You think the next time it rains I'm not gonna be scanning the ground as I walk?
If I gather more than I can use I'll just give some away, better than leaving it to rot in the grass
This is the hard-wired pattern of hunter-gatherer behaviour that underpins all our sophistication.
You think just because Grug has a deer being turned into jerky already that he's not gonna throw his spear at the pig by the tree?
Don't take it personally ffs. You have a house full of shit and a wardrobe full of clothes but I bet you'd love to go shopping right now wouldn't you?

>>81467936
she must be the luckiest woman alive. thank you for having a soul, anon.

>>81466698 (OP)
Expecting someone to be pure in thought is a tall ask, it's how they react to their thoughts and desires that matters. Do they indulge in or entertain thoughts of infidelity, or do they just come up sometimes like if you're near a ledge and imagine yourself jumping off? Because you can't police someone's thoughts you can only really know through their actions whether they're faithful or not. Does he stare at other women, does he flirt with them, does he assosciate with women beyond acquaintence, worry about that instead of worrying about someone's inner life and inner desires. Furthermore, it's likely you have a shadow side as well whether you're honest or aware about it.

>>81468295
reminds me i want a wholesome farmer husband, not a hunter gatherer nigger

>>81467688
Not op but before I met the person I could actually love I never felt sexual attraction to anyone at all. I could admit they are attractive but it did not "awaken" my pussy and made me want to have sex with them. I have had sex before but not because I was attracted but because I was bored and they just weren't outright repulsive and that is all. I have had sex before, but never desired anyone before I loved. Never had an urge to see anyone naked, to touch them. As a woman you can just let men do everything and space out yourself and not care. Not a single celebrity do I ever found attractive.

I hate men that take that painfully honest crap too far. If you are going to date me you have to be nice to me and tell me that I am the most beautiful woman in the world or I don't want you. I'll kiss your ass you kiss mine that's the deal. I don't need brutal honesty I get that shit enough from strangers. Christ

>>81468462
I AGREE ANON THANK YOU

>>81468432
someone please tell me which group of men has the least hunter-gather whore dna so i can date them :D

>>81466698 (OP)
Seems to me like a severe case of grow the fuck up. Women do that too. Sometimes i forget women are children mentally

>>81468432
>>81468474
Right, so you 2 both decry shopping?

It's the same thing with women always lusting after Chad, even when they are partnered, you stupid cunt.
If only you were all as insecure as we are, since fuck apps and social media ruined everything.