Are there any ways to cope knowing you're becoming an adult when you don't feel ready for it yet?

I've been a NEET ad hikikomori for many years, so this year I tried to be someone and tried to go college but flunked out 2 months after starting the freshman year of CS all because of crippling anxiety.

I've returned to this shell kind of being, where I'm useless in every single responsability, chores, financial, romantic. I need to get my shit straight because I've thinking of suicide lately but I'm not a fag and that response would be cowardly. I know I can only help myself, but I'm so unprepared to normal adult life, I feel like I was born just last month and barely learning on how to do things.

Any help?

>>81488383 (OP)
I used to be be just like you and got my shit in order.
Look, I'm just gonna be real it takes a fuck ton of work, via small changes (I mean TINY) on a daily basis. Then over years they snowball.
I was gonna give a detailed list of what to do but everytime I do fuckers here try to fight me so I'm nit putting in the effort.
But I will say this, visualization meditation (over years) basically got rid of my anxiety. Anyways good luck.

>>81488443
Even if it's a quote or a tip for everyday life, dealing with stress or something that is not obvious, it would help. Thank you, anon

>>81488443
i agree w/ this anon. for me, it was about convincing my brain that i could be responsible, and more importantly, keep a promise to myself. ive done this by maintaining a list of two-ish goals that i work on at a time. each task is small, and when i was getting started i intentionally chose things that i was pretty much already doing, but could be more consistent about. i'll use flossing as an example. i set a goal: i will floss every single night. i was essentially already doing this, but ykno, every once in a while id get home late, be tired, and skip, saying, "bahhh its small. one day is no big deal". now, i instead say, "ahh its small. i'll just get it over with real quick." it was a very small change to my lifestyle, since i was already pretty good about it, but the extra bit of consistency helped convince my brain that i was ready for more responsibility. i've worked up to bigger things over time, but i think starting small is what enabled that

>>81488452
Ok, it's like what >>81488575 says he kind of explains it. For me I started in spring 2018 by just making sure my dirty cloths were in a basket, then making my bed, then showering everyday, I think thats all I did for about year and a half.
In 2020 I stared mindfulness meditating which eventually gave me what I call "soldiers mind"(I don't what else to call it) where I still get anxiety but my mind is like a rock that overrides it (unless I'm sick). Just make sure to do mindfulness properly or you won't get results, that is noticing things and specifically noting distractions.
Then I started going for walks, then fasting, then reselling and budgeting, then going back to school then learning how to talk to girls (not red pill just being able to talk to them). My point is the more you accomplish the better you feel.
So for example:
>I no longer get (or it's very reduced) negative thoughts that other people are judging me or mistaking things they say as insults
>I no longer get depressed or suicidal anymore.
Anyways I gotta go to bed. I hope it helps.

>>81488383 (OP)
>when you don't feel ready for it yet
Ignore this feeling anon. You don't have time.

>because of crippling anxiety.
Get meds for it if you need, but beyond that you need to stop retreating into your comfort zone all the time. I almost ruined my life because of it, plenty of people here ruined their lives because of it. You're young so you feel like you have time to waste woeismeing and navel-gazing, you don't. Life is largely a race. Or maybe think of it as an escalator. If you're not walking up the stairs, you're not staying in one place, you're actually regressing. You have to consistently make the right choices, which are almost always less appealing than the bad ones. A plate of vegs/meat/legumes instead of ready-made goyslop. Hanging out with people instead of staying home playing vidya and touching yourself. Working out instead of being a couch potato.

>Any help?
Like most humans you're probably looking for a quick fix, something that will let you dodge discomfort and suffering. There is no such thing. You have to endure the pain, the discomfort, the grueling work, in time you'll get better at it, but you can't dodge it. If you do, you will end up in a place worse than anything you can imagine. You CAN get your shit together but you have to stop feeling sorry for yourself. Also in my case the incremental changes and mindfulness/meditation whatever thingies never worked, what worked was raw discipline, quitting bad stuff cold turkey and sticking to it. There might be other approaches than these you have to find what works for you, but don't get discouraged if something someone suggested doesn't work, find another strategy.

OP gave up ig. sad