Thread 81489486

How do you respond to your friend group leader calling your girlfriend hot?

>>81489486 (OP)
Brag that I get to have sex with her and he doesn't, and that makes me more of a man than he'll ever be.

>>81489493
Why start a dick measuring contest over a compliment? Especially to your group leader, you're asking to lose at that point.

>>81489537
Because it's important to always demonstrate your dominance over lesser men

>>81489486 (OP)
Friend group? GIRLFRIEND?

>>81489570
t. bottom of the totem pole

>>81489570
Growing an ego just because you have a girlfriend is stupid. He's the group leader for a reason. You're lucky he lets you have a girlfriend in the first place.

>>81489577
Use your imagination. I don't have a gf either, I've had friend groups in school though.

>>81489672
If my friend "let me have a girlfriend," I would cease to be his friend

>>81489709
He's probably the only reason a dweeb like you could have one in the first place.

>>81489486 (OP)
I ask if I'm still allowed to have sex with her or if it means I'm demoted to emotional bf as he takes over the sexual bf duties, of course. He's the leader, after all, he gets to decide.

>>81489672
>Use your imagination.

why would I want to imagine my friends openly lusting over my girl?

>>81489734
Alright that's going too far too. Just because he says your gf is hot doesn't mean he'll have sex with her. And you'll come off weird asking your friend that so directly. I can get behind honoring your group leader but in moderation, jeez.

>>81489744
It's a normal thing that happens? Guys share nudes all the time. I think it's a social validation or exhibitionism thing.

>>81489486 (OP)
Doesn't exist. If you're friend group has a "leader" it sucks ass and is outright pathetic

>>81489905
>I can get behind honoring your group leader but in moderation
Like what? Sharing nudes?

>>81490012
Yeah wtf is this faggot on about. No friend group has a leader. And if one of my so called friends disrespected my girlfriend like that wed have a problem

>>81489734
why is his dick so far down bro got that 2 meter torso tf

>>81489486 (OP)
I don't have a "friend group leader", sounds gay as fuck
But if one of my friends said that my girlfriend is hot I'd thank him for the compliment
Is complimenting someone for pulling a hot chick considered an insult?

>>81490304
Maybe his dick is just really long and really curved

>>81490012
>>81490084
Yeah you say that but you all look to the same guy for approval whenever anything happens. Even if you're unaware of it your brain internalized a hierarchy.

>>81490056
Not what I had in mind but fine between friends I guess. At least it's less strange than asking him if you're still allowed to sleep with your gf.

>>81490312
I feel like a guys reaction to that is super telling to their personality and world view. Some will get offended while others get excited

>>81489486 (OP)
It depends on the context. For example that was said to me when I showed her insta to them, they were kind of congratulatory to me. None of them would make a comment/pass like that because it would be disrespectful to us both.

At the same time, if someone made a comment about her ass or something/catcall that would be taken very differently.

>>81489672
>>81489905
>>81491087

Listen dawg idk where you got the concept of a group leader from but outside of school that shit doesnt happen. After you graduate you need to be intentional and put effort into friendships, so the whole 'leader' type thing doesnt really happen. At most you have someone who is kinda at the 'bottom', and someone who is proactive/okay with planning things.

Plus, a bunch of you will probably have GF/wives and do double dates and so on, increasing that connection within the group.

>>81489486 (OP)
>friend group leader
lmao what the fuck is this

>>81489486 (OP)
That's just a compliment, if he tries to talk to her, that's when you start to plan his death.

>>81490312
talk this shit is just some cuck fetish shit
friend groups don't have leaders. the girlfriends are part of the friends groups. you can tell a woman she looks great without making it weird. That's what I do, I give all my friends compliments, both men and women.

>>81489486 (OP)
>friend group
>leader
are you in a gang?

>>81492075
Indeed. Assuming she isnt a bpdwhore or otherwise repellant to your friends, they will be a part of it. Plus, once one guy gets a gf, most of the others fall like domino's so you dont have to worry about her being the only girl

>>81489493
this
>>81489537
because he likely said this shit infront of the group somethings shouldn't be said it is just known and out of respect we don't say it. If your girl has a nice fat ass. Any straight man will notice but jackass that doesn't know when to shut his fucking mouth about it especially in your presence needs to be checked regardless of rank. It already sounds like OP might not have the leaders respect and did this shit with impunity, by not standing up and rightly checking the jackass you communicate to the group to disrespect you as well. My overall advice would be get better friends but at least with these types you know who's a snake in the grass easier because they're retards who give themselves away.
>TLDR dont be a cuck

>>81492008
Wrong just because you don't consciously notice doesn't mean there isn't a group leader (that just means it probably isn't you). This dynamic develops within minutes of any group forming through subtle interactions. We still have hierarchy mammal brains desu.

>>81492030
The person you look up to in your friend group. The one you look at for assurance if something funny or embarrassing happens.

>>81492075
Girlfriends join sometimes but they aren't part of the friend group itself

>>81492151
Thank you for being the only one to admit that friend group leaders are real but no I've never had to deal with that situation because I don't have a gf. I would never want to make a big deal out of it though, just makes me sound insecure and ungrateful.

>>81492395
There were 'group leaders' in the past, in school, where you were forced into social situations with random people. Once you grow up and arent forced to interact, that shit stops. Sometimes there's someone who knows an area or plans more than others, but thats really it. Also, once everyone has their own lives, its not the same group doing everything. Sometimes someone doesnt make it, or brings along one of their friends/siblings/family. If the group leader isnt present, what happens? Does everyone just up and cancel? Does the first mate take over?

The kind of situation with someone lusting after your girlfriend happens at PARTIES, specifically 'ragers' which is what you often see in media. At times like that, your friends will back you up and help you and her out. If the person doing that is your 'friend', then its time to find new ones.

>>81492529
We're mammals bro and we still have le ape hierarchies in our brains. There isn't a magical moment where hierarchies stop existing because you can choose who you associate with. If the group leader is missing the person with the second best social skills and a domineering personality will take over. Look up emergent leadership.

>>81489486 (OP)
>friend group leader
lul all my friends were sigmas including myself

>>81489486 (OP)
>Friend group leader
Where do friendless people get the weirdest ideas about friend groups?

>>81492782
I think OP just has a cuckold fetish and is trying to be cute about it, which I appreciate compared to the guy who just spams gay threads about it

>>81492753
In my high school all the guys seemed to have a limited number of skill points to distribute. Everyone that was tall, charismatic, or athletic, was also ugly. The only guy who was tall, handsome, and athletic was also introverted and conservative.

>>81492801
>The only guy who was tall, handsome, and athletic was also introverted and conservative.
you say that like it's a bad thing but I bet he's doing great right now

Thinking your friends have a leader is homosexual

>>81492841
no it's not, you're just a friendless incel

>>81492765
There are sigmas among sigmas

>>81492782
This is literally a proven thing, a part of human nature. I was in several different friend groups due to switching schools a few times growing up and they all had different leaders I can to this day distinctly point out.

>>81492795
How do you even get that idea? I think you're confusing me with another guy in the thread

>>81492801
If I had to predict the leader I'd say it was the one that had the best stats in social intelligence and dominance/extroversion

>>81492841
>I'm a homo cuck because I acknowledge something no social psychologist would bat an eye at
Ok.

>>81492753
I agree with the idea of emergent leadership, but it isnt to the extent of "lol im the group leader im gonna hit on your gf"

>>81493251
It kinda is though, one of the middle schools I joined was a smaller class that had been together since grade school and my group leader had a dating history with literally every single girl in class. Extreme example obviously but thinking of a more conventional scenario: if you introduce a girl to your friend group she will be able to tell who the group leader is because it's instinct and the hierarchy is real.

>>81493413
lmao it's middle school you're overthinking things weirdo. "dating history"

>>81493413
anon where do you live and how old are you? you seem kind of dumb and inexperienced

>>81493463
He's not dumb he's just horny and involving all of you in his fetish

Sounds like you won't do shit and he'll start banging your whore girlfriend soon lol

>My group leader
God that's pathetic

>>81489493
Anon, he's already fucking her behind OP's back.

>>81493596
why do you think the "group leader" is banging anons fake gf behind his back?

>>81493445
How am I overthinking things? I know he didn't frick them but as a mammal experiencing that totally puts you on a different level confidence wise.

>>81493463
Austria, 21. I only seem dumb because I'm ESL. Intelligence wise I am fairly average.

>>81493596
I literally said I don't have one multiple times

>>My group leader
>God that's pathetic
??? Why is everyone giving me shit now?

>>81493756
>Austria, 21. I only seem dumb because I'm ESL
LOL so you're a brownoid. grim

>>81492120
Have you never been in a friend group where there's clearly one guy who stands above the rest?

Friend group..leader? OP, are you 12?

>>81493413
As I said before, in school this sort of thing KINDA exists, but not outside of it. In middle/high school any gf you get will not be srs/long term anyways unless you knock her up

>>81493765
Correct, how'd you guess that?

>>81493935
No.

>>81494117
It does though. We're hierarchy animals. It happens in schools because it's part of our nature. And middle/high school is a pretty essential phase for psych social development

>>81494175
It isnt the same as in school because the social context is different. I hope you can see this because viewing the world that way is bad for your mental

>>81494175
>Correct, how'd you guess that?
it's pretty obvious. you have a brownoid view of the world which is why these sheltered white westerners don't understand what you're talking about. plus you lust after white girls which is an obvious tell

>>81494250
You think so? It's not like I resent my friend group leader for playing his role. How would it harm my mental health?

>>81494269
>you have a brownoid view of the world which is why these sheltered white westerners don't understand what you're talking about.
Mmh I don't really share this view with my parents though and I grew up around whites too

>plus you lust after white girls which is an obvious tell
I can't deny that part I do put them on pedestal

>>81494436
>Mmh I don't really share this view with my parents though and I grew up around whites too
you may say that but you clearly do believe it subconsciously. that's what this thread is all about, in fact.

>I can't deny that part I do put them on pedestal
as you should

>>81494549
Well yeah I believe that stuff but I don't think my parents do. They're both artist types. I wonder how I picked it up, being the only non-white kid does automatically put you pretty low on the totem pole and I definitely have my share of complexes.

>>81494681
>I wonder how I picked it up, being the only non-white kid does automatically put you pretty low on the totem pole and I definitely have my share of complexes.
I mean you answered your own question.

>>81494794
Lel I typed as I was thinking about. I'll go to bed now. This was a fun thread, good night!

>>81489486 (OP)
>friend group leader
?
What makes him the leader? I can probably kick his ass if I wanted to since I'm a construction chad who lifts and is over 6 feet tall.
Not that I have more than one friend