Thread 81512881

>talk to a guy on discord for a very long time
>he is always super kind to me and listens to what I have to say
>we hit it off really good
>I start to believe he hates me for some reason and ignores him and becomes dismissive
>I ghost him entirely and unfriend him
Why do it have to be like this? :(

>>81512881 (OP)
What's a long time?

>>81512894
Several months

>>81512901
Are you polish and do you study music

>>81512915
>Are you polish and do you study music
No, sorry if you thought I was someone else...

>>81512881 (OP)
>Why am I like this?
Because you didn't appreciate him. You got bored. There is no sugarcoating it, he is now off to find someone who does care

>>81512881 (OP)
You have fucking bpd you silly bitch

>>81512881 (OP)
Because you're a bitch

>>81512881 (OP)
because youre a b1tch

>>81512881 (OP)
apologize and attempt to correct it if you can. learn from this and be kind to those in your life, you never know when you might lose them.

>>81512881 (OP)
i'm in the believing he hates me stage right now, trying really hard not to BPD out and unfriend him

>>81512996
How do you prevent this from happening? I don't have anyone, I'm just asking for the future

>>81513025
i feel like the healthy thing is just telling them about your feelings or doubts but what i do is i just try to ignore it and minimize my feelings until it's eating me alive like right now

>>81512881 (OP)
fuck you for doing this i had a friend too who did the same shit and i was devastated because after years of not having any friends and she was nice and always wished me a good morning and good night and it broke my heart dont ever get intimate with a person again you pieceo f shit

>>81512881 (OP)
>i ruin men's ability to trust women
You go girl

>>81513063
>healthy thing is just telling them about your feelings or doubts
You're probably right, but I meant as the other party. How do you bring that out in someone?

>>81512927
are you by chance a compsci student in jordan

this happened to me a couple of times, but then there was this one time where the person i deleted was really hurt, then i realized how bad i could be hurting people because there were people out there that would genuinely care about me.
i stopped doing it, and ironically, people ghost me very often now

>>81513102
you prevent it from happening by asking how they are or how they're feeling about the relationship in a nice way if you feel them pulling away. then it's up to them to tell you honestly and have a conversation about it.
>How do you bring that out in someone?
different things for different people, mostly by giving them no attention or not being emotionally there as much as that person needs, it all depends. you have to ask them

>>81512946
>>81512971
>>81512990
yeah thanks
>>81512991
idk... he probably dont want to speak with me anymore and it has gone so long now anyway...

>>81512881 (OP)
why do you feel the need to ghost them? does replying to them feel stressful for some reason? has this happened with other people? are you going through a depressive episode?

>>81513266
> does replying to them feel stressful for some reason?
yes, feels like I have to perform or they hate me and then I dont bother to reply at all
>has this happened with other people?
yes
>are you going through a depressive episode?
maybe

>>81513183
>he probably dont want to speak with me anymore and it has gone so long now anyway...
this retarded brainrot thinking is why you are in this situation in the first place. do it.

>>81513291
>yes, feels like I have to perform or they hate me and then I dont bother to reply at all
this is pretty common, it usually happens when you have self esteem issues. where are you in life right now? are you a neet?
>yes
did you meet all of these people on 4chan or online?
>maybe
yeah i dont think this issue is related to depression, its probably a consequence of convincing yourself you're bad and you don't deserve friends

just don't ghost

>>81513329
>this is pretty common, it usually happens when you have self esteem issues. where are you in life right now? are you a neet?
yes...
>did you meet all of these people on 4chan or online?
mostly online yes, but it has happened irl before

>>81512881 (OP)
you have abandonment issues

>>81513377
ok so the ghosting is not the problem per se, the self esteem is. you need to tackle the self esteem issues, at least partially, before you can completely fix the ghosting part.
i would like to ask you if you know the root of your self esteem issues...?

Funny, I had a girl I really liked ghost me out of the blue - She was cute, and bubbly, and had insightful commentary on media we both consumed, reminded me a little of Casca from berserk. I really did like her, I even wrote her a love letter one time when she asked me to. I remember her reaction and how embarrassed I was to make someone feel like that.
And then one day she ghosted me and I never spoke with her again.
That was a year and change ago. I still miss her sometimes.

>>81513424
she getting piped by big griffith cock bro

>>81513430
Well she's Muslim so it would've been an arranged marriage if that was the case. I'm sure she's some kind of happy now.

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>>81513441
depends where from im talking to a muslim and she can marry whoever she wants

>>81513416
>i would like to ask you if you know the root of your self esteem issues...?
idk, never had good self esteem in my life, and were pretty lonely growing up and I never had a mom at home.
>>81513457
sry you didnt get any replies in your thread anon

>>81513705
>never had good self esteem in my life
yeah... what happened to your mom, if i can ask?
working on your self confidence is a slow and long process anon. what is the thing you like the most about yourself?

>>81512927
are you possibly a kazakh cultural anthropologist

>>81512881 (OP)
Add me on discord, I don't mind being ghosted for the one millionth time.

>>81512915
wait a minute, I know someone who's polish and studies music
have they ghosted you too?

>>81512881 (OP)
Girly dont go looking for boyfriends on discord. I promise you its better to meet them irl and naturally. Youre less likely to get screwed over

You're most likely lying to yourself, you didn't fear he hated you you just found out you had no more reasons to be in contact or something.

It's discord, it's bound to fail unless you are really committed to it