>>81521727 (OP)depends.
>be me>my GF really loves foot massages, long ones 20+ minutes, multiple times per week>I'm not a footfag and it does nothing for me>if anything its kinda bothersome because my hands get stiff and tired, I'm not into it, and its at best kinda boring and I'd much rather spend the time just cuddleing or play vidya or do anything else I enjoy more really>BUT>I love my GF>I want to make my GF happy>And I know how much she likes her foot massages>so I still do them because I care for her>yes sometimes when I've had a stressful day or I'm tired or my hands hurt I'll say not today, thats okay and I'm sure she'll understand>But Imagine the following, If I were to refuse to give her foot massages for weeks, months, and everytime she asks I give another excuse "my hands hurt" "I'm tired" "I have a headache">I know how much she likes her foot massages, and yet I deny her>I know that my refusal hurts her feelings and yet I deny her>the only reasonable explaination I could deny her repeatedly over a long period of time would be because I don't care about her anymore>It is a direct red glowing neon sign announcing that I don't love her, that I wouldn't sacrifice even a bit of my own personal comfort despite knowing how happy it'd make herThis is basically describing the situation of women that for one reason or another stop having intimacy with their husbands and then put on the suprised pikachu face when they get divorced and complain on reddit that all their husband ever wanted in the relationship was sex, because he divorced her when she stopped providing sex.
But its not about the sex. Its about what it represents.
That refusing intimacy multiple times in a row for no apparent reason is equal to admitting you don't give a fuck about them.
TL;DR unless you date someone who's asexual aswell, I think its your duty in a relationship to also sometimes have sex, weither you enjoy it or not.
so it depends on your stance on sex.