>>81536564
>Don't feel guilty, she's making her own choices and is responsible for the consequences
the guilt exists regardless of this fact, because it stems from the choices i make and their consequences
>wouldnt identify her feelings as love if she wasn't dropping her other relationships to go monogamously
i don't mean to try and argue, but i want to at least expain my point of view as you've given yours
i don't believe in the idea of soul mates, that we're destined by the stars, fate or gods to find the 'one'
i believe love is the result of forming close bonds with someone, bonds built upon shared experience, communication, attraction etc.
i've felt love for more than one individual, but i've felt the most love for her
love builds, it fades, it changes
a good relationship is one which survives in spite of hardship and change
it requires communication, cooperation, evolution
i think with all of the complexities of life it's silly to expect nothing to change and for everything to be perfect forever
if you're never challenged, how will you ever learn the extent of your love?
i feel as if their existing relationship is being challenged
and i don't think he's managing it well
i think he's giving in to complacency and people pleasing behaviour instead of fighting
he's being left behind
i think you can easily love more than one person
i believe it's difficult to maintain more than one relationship though
i know that it requires effort from both parties for a relationship to survive
i feel like he's choosing to not put that effort in
that he's choosing to give up
i don't like feeling like i'm the catalyst that's going to bring an end to the relationship that's lasted for more than a decade
i'm the only other person she's ever been in a relationship with
