why is it that after 3-6 months of a relationship women stop being grateful for all the things you do for them? does it just become normal to them and they forget how much effort it takes?
my current gf is going on 6 months and im just waiting for the point where she stops valuing me anymore.
>inb4 not a robot, im autistic and socially inept but lucky enough to be attractive

it's a real thing called limerence which when it goes away causes a large chunk of relationships to just evaporate
this is why ill never get in a relationship, a lot of people are literally biologically hardwired to lose interest after a while

>>81573851
i thought limerence only applied when you cant actually obtain the person?
i used to suffer from it lots now im much more detached but i havent given up

>>81573821 (OP)
its cause she lost attraction to you nigger! she got bored of your boring ass!

>>81573857
no it happens in regular relationships all the time, that's why a lot of them only last like a year or two, if that

>>81573821 (OP)
Trying to build a long-term relationship with foids is pointless. They're emotional, narcissistic, unstable and refuse to take accountability so they're flaky as hell. Even the pop media they consume is all about spontaneous irrational fleeting love.
Just pump and dump, never let yourself get too invested.

Relationships are easy in the beginning, when everything is new and the chemicals go brrrr.
But to maintain a relationship, it takes effort from both sides. Anything done enough many times loses its meaning if you don't put in conscious effort to recognize it because, as you said, it becomes the norm.
Some people know to do that, others do not. That's why one sided effort turns into grander and grander gestures which is unsustainable and a recipe for disaster.

>>81573821 (OP)
Anon, you give too much, withhold giving, that's why they don't care anymore, it's expected it's no longer special or scarce.
Women will consume you and when you're already drained will ask for more, your job is maintaining frame and giving them just enough.

>>81573964
unfortunately i think all people are like this. which sucks, because i like giving ):

>>81573821 (OP)
Yeah all my relationships seem to last 8 months, with the last couple being pretty shit.
It's almost like you're supposed to get them pregnant and put your kid in them for 8 months. Very strange

>>81573821 (OP)
>>81574007
Yeah same. After about 8 months with my last one she started sperging out, lying, trolling, cheating saying she was bored of this situation etc. Yikes was fun. And I was cuck enough to keep going for almost another 8 months.

>>81573979
Call me fake and gay. I mostly agree with you on this anon. I used to always pay for my bf's meals and rejected his offers to pay (even my parents felt this was strange because I was losing my value being so easy to get). I would travel to him all the time on weekends with public transport, taking about one hour each trip and stay until 10pm. I bought him gifts without prompting, when he said he was sad. Bought him cards that were difficult to find, gifted them to him even though I couldn't really care less about trading cards. When I went somewhere I always got desserts for him, saved my sweet treats so we could share them together. Helped him with his school work when I could. Accompanied him home. I even bought the condoms. When I asked him to get a drink for me, he didn't do it, and tried to give me his half-finished drink. While he offers to come over to my place, it's usually because he wants to buy something around my area (I recall only two or three instances this did not happen)
When I'm angry he never does anything but "what can I do for you". I dislike it, because I really can't understand how it is that he doesn't know how to express his love for me and I have to do the job of teaching him. I couldn't bring myself to stop even though I was tired because I wanted to show him that my love for him triumphs my own self interest. I was so desperate to show him I was his ride or die, because that's what I wanted too. Frankly, I was working for his self-interest, and not what was good for the relationship at large. It was my mistake.

Clearly I am still highly resentful over this. Even now I feel a little guilty for writing this and speaking poorly of him. There's a high chance I'm in the wrong because I did have really bad breakdowns when I got really angry at him like yelling at him in public and hitting him. I have no friends too. I admit I have some form of nascent BPD probably a very low value woman and need to be contained.

>>81574207
No I do belive you women always give everything for chad but would not even look at an sub 8 autistic guy. It is always like this. He never valued you because why would he? He can simply get another girl in a few days. This is why I only laugh at women talking about being treated bad by their bf.

>>81574207
seems like a bad guy if he barely cares about you, did you stay with him for a long time?

>>81573821 (OP)
you're not autistic, even autistic women don't want autistic men

>>81574207
I knew a few women exactly like this and all of them ended up suffering pretty badly as a result.
It's legit insane to see a girl basically bend over backwards for some mid loser embroidering pillows and whatnot only to be thrown away over and over.
Wish I had the balls to ask them out at the time, but I guess being friends with women was already more than expected.
Don't get me wrong I'm a schizoid piece of shit too.
Two people like this together would be interesting to see. I feel like that's the ideal so many romance manga tries to depict.

Is he really attractive though? Again I already see one anon replying with "muh chad", but I literally saw 3 different women do this exact same behavior for some mid manlets one of which started balding in high school.
I think these women are just fucking broken for some reason to begin with and then imprint on the first guy that gives them their time of day like some lost baby duck.

>>81573821 (OP)
>after 3-6 months
It's called the devaluation phase, women don't really see you as a human being, like they don't actually feel that you're a real person with the same or similar feelings as they have. They can only process females as human beings on account of them being female.

It's a complicated topic and it involves evolutionary psychology.

>>81574207

I don't know how old you are, but you need to quit wasting time investing in people who don't reciprocate.

I am 33 & 10+ years of giving to people who effectively spit in your face, that resentment has been engraved into my soul to the point I find it extremely difficult connecting with anybody. if/when the time ever comes where I find someone who appreciates & reciprocates my giving nature, they're not going to get the best of what I could have given because of my distrust & apathy.

TL;DR protect yourself or you will be jaded when the right one comes along

>>81573821 (OP)
I've been with my wife for over 10 years now and we constantly express gratitude for each other. How often do you express your gratitude for what she does for you?

>>81574040
Yep if I had stayed she would've gotten worse. She ended up literally cucking the next guy and cheating on him. He was also a piece of shit from what I gather but all her promises of communicating and discussing shit went out the window. They need to be entertained and the only way to do that is to be a " high value" male, i.e. someone with a bunch of friends and especially someone that other women chase frequently. If you're not that, you're fucked

>>81575553
>They need to be entertained and the only way to do that is to be a " high value" male, i.e. someone with a bunch of friends and especially someone that other women chase frequently.
That's a part of the reason why they like criminals so much, they love the wildness, unpredictability, and instability. Females are literally mentallty children that constantly need to be entertained.

>>81575589
Funny you'd say that, cause as shitty as her next bf was she ended up getting with a dude that's a literal serial groomer who talks to fully underage girls (12-15). He's a literal straight up criminal. It's actually insane but then again she might be a special case with her bpd.

I met another girl today on some Vidya who was talking about her 5'6 boyfriend and they seem happy together, plus she doesn't seem like a dumb bitch so I guess it's possible

>>81575619
There are some females out there who are genuine good people who want to support their male. Problem is, that's like 5-10%. 90% are superficial Chadsexual whores who only see the bottom 95% of men as either subhuman filth or at best worthy of paying the bills and sex once a month. I do feel bad for the very small minority of females that are actually interested in romance and commitment beyond mere physical traits, but they're such a small minority that for practical reasons they don't exist

>>81575759
I see plenty of women with non Chads when I'm out. I think you just have to be a normie. That's all it is

>>81575790
Most of the time when a female is with a non-Chad it's because of one of these reasons
1. She's genuinely one of the good ones
2. She's already ridden the cock carousel and is ready to SETTLE DOWN
3. She's using him for something/as a stepping stone to a different guy

>>81573821 (OP)
does she shave? does she do anal? does she swallow cum and piss? how often do u fuck? how quick does she cum? do you eat her out? where's she from?

>>81576166
based gigacoomer

>>81576166
HEEEEES BAAAAAAAAAACK
Where tf have you been Der coomer?

are there a lot of people you enjoy spending time with? why would anyone feel that way?

>>81573821 (OP)
How would you want her to show appreciation? What are some of the things you did for her?

>>81574207
>I admit I have some form of nascent BPD
You're supposed to randomly lash out at him and threaten to kill yourself. Lesson for next time