Anyone else /done/ here? As in, done with the idea of ever getting into another relationship/situationship/"F.W.B." or even just dating? I'm not talking about considering being done. I mean 100% unequivocally and undoubtedly done with ever again making the conscious decision of chasing the idea of the possibility. You don't necessarily have to explain why. Just make yourself known ITT. I can't be the only one on this board that has made the choice to remain single indefinitely and will very likely be for the remainder of my life. I'd love to hear from anyone who cares to share their own personal experiences that has influenced their decision to be /done/!

bumping out of interest

One more bump out of interest...maybe I am the only one...

yeah im the same. nothing bad really happened to me to make me feel this way i just stopped thinking about it and lost interest altogether

I'm a volcel for life. Relationships aren't worth it and I was lucky enough to see and understand it by the time I was like 16.

>>81582850 (OP)
This is my situation. I think it was one of best choices I ever made, maybe even the best choice ever. It seems like I see or hear something everyday that makes me glad I'm committed to staying single.

>>81582850 (OP)
Volcel because sex is too painful for me. I tried having it and it hurt so bad I couldn't hold it. I'm too sensitive.

I had already accepted that no woman is going to feel sexually attracted to me and then around my late 20s is started suffering from a certain medical condition that causes my penis to become sensitive to the point that sex would be painful.
So yeah it's 100% over for me

sounds like a cope for having too high standards, no game, etc

>>81583528
Sounds like you should kys

Why is it so inconceivable that someone might prefer to stay single?

>>81583545
most people are so bound to their desire that they think anyone who wants something else is insane or a failure

>>81583531
no u
>>81583545
because all it takes is meeting the right person and your facade shatters

Single by Cope General
>>81583545
Because its never the desirable chad with many options that "embraces" the solitude. You know that yet you actively chose a comfy delusion.

>>81583578
You're a braindead subhuman and you should kys.
>>81583611
You're a delusional junkie.

>>81583630
I know the truth hurts sweaty but no need to lash out

>>81583611
Should an ugly dude be respected for having the self awareness to realize this? I know i am gonna swimming against the tide i am far from being a Chad. I am just gonna settle into my corner instead of being bitter

>>81583630
You should understand that accepting reality for what it is is better long-term than lying to yourself.
You weren't done with them.
They were done with you.
It feels like a knife twist, but eventually you'll grow numb to it. Because its reality and reality isn't evil. Its just like that.

>>81583649
Respect is often not given for fair reasons.
But I'd say yes

>>81583611
I know where you're coming from, but as a sub-5 who has been in some relationships, I don't think the juice is worth the squeeze. Women feel they settle for you and actively let you know you're not Chad. It's all so tiresome.

>>81582850 (OP)
No. Rationally I know it's over, but there's no point doing anything without hope of ascending

>>81583639
Kys troonster.
>>81583659
Nice try to demoralize, faggot. I am a volcel Chad. I have options. Always has been. Reject all of them. I choose solitude over human companionship.
My mere existence proves your drug induced degenerate rants factually wrong. It feels good to laugh at you. Kek.

>>81582850 (OP)
Yes, if the relationship I'm in now fails I think I'm done with relationships unless I find someone naturally. The emotional turmoil just isn't worth it, I'd rather be alone with 5 cats

>>81583668
Its on a scale.
The reason behind your choice is faked in this thread due to it being more comfortable for your egos.
But yes it is definitely your choice then.
>>81583682
The sooner you ease your ego, the easier it'll be to live

>>81583698
Just accept the reality, junkie. Your pseudo intellectual ego bullshit is empty. Weed has turned your brain into mush. You can't even separate fiction from reality and you thought you can school people on their rational choices?
lol.
lmao even.

>>81582850 (OP)
>I'm not talking about considering being done. I mean 100% unequivocally and undoubtedly done with ever again making the conscious decision of chasing the idea of the possibility.
Nope.
If I was, I'd be dead.

>>81583712
What made you make that rational choice, anon?

Meh I just accepted my circumstances, being a borderline hiki and a NEET who isolates constantly wouldn't provide much opportunities to score a partner. It's not that I'm chucking a tantrum because I've been rejected I just don't act or care at this point. I've got porn and even though jacking off is mundane it's enough to satiate me, why bother when I'm not even outside majority of the time? I've accepted my fate for now and don't really care to pursue a relationship until I'm ready

>>81583863
I grew up in a chaotic country, that was healthy for development, and I'm not delusional about violence and power.
As I looked around I saw the worst of human nature and so I knew right off the bat the fairytale are bullshit.
As I was becoming an adult and getting older and older I just saw more and more examples of females suing males as means to an end and temporary conditional marriages to achieve goals.
Why would I ever be a part of it? I've had my own fantasies and dreams and goals even ever since childhood and those never included females. Ones fascinated by science, space travel, tech, computing machines, video gaming, and so on. Life is great anyway.
And now we have the overpopulation and immigration and so on
TL;DR: There is a very long list of reasons to stay single as a man in 2025. I'd argue your life is better while single.

Sometimes I'm about to message someone and then just don't. I think of what I have to do and how exhausting it is I just end up doing something else. Part of me wants to, but a larger part of me realizes it isn't worth the effort.

>>81583964
>just saw more and more examples of females suing males as means to an end and temporary conditional marriages to achieve goals
All these things happen when a female isnt attracted. When a female is settling.
If you are truly a chad, like you've said, you can avoid experiencing this, guaranteed - get a girl thats attracted and make it hard for her to get you.

>>81582850 (OP)
interesting one. i got divorced at 35 and i've just not bothered since, but if you say this all you get back the other way is idiots screaming COPE SEETHE REEE. My life is comfy and i have more money than god, what do i need another relationship for? appreciate my position is different to most on here but the end result is similar.

>Single by Choice
You are only saying that because you are a failure and cannot get laid.

TFW not really 'single by choice' (moar like incel as fuck), but even I can see how miserable dating and relationships are if they are not mostly based on constant fucking. I just don't want to deal with the bullshit.
I'd even happily plow and creampie an old woman who can't get pregnant anymore; that's basically the only 'relationship' I want. Yet I still can't get any. Even the old women who match with me high hand me and are never DTF, or they ghost anyway. So much for the meme of older women being less trouble, and being better/willing fucks. FML.

>>81582850 (OP)
Let it be known that guys catch just as much hate for disregarding relationships as girls do.

Still, the kystards ITT are inept at gaslighting and vastly easier to ignore than a nagging spouse.

>>81582850 (OP)
I hate women so much it's retarded, but I already have a gf and I'm anxious about conflict so I can't do single by choice

>>81583611
That's literally me. And I've already had two 5+ year relationships where I was engaged so no thanks. I have to fight off so many whores at my jobs and friends of friends it's so annoying. I started wearing a wedding band at work thinking it would get women to fuck off and leave me alone. Instead they treat it as competition and I get even more female attention. Awful

>>81582850 (OP)
Sorta. I refuse to start a relationship with somebody unless we really truly know each other first. But that'll never actually happen, so I'm effectively "done."

>>81582850 (OP)
I'm only single because my life currently has no direction and I don't want to rely on someone else for my happiness. And besides that, people are generally very short-sighted and heartless. It'd take a while to find someone that isn't just settling for me and bottling up their grievances.

I would try again with a girl I know was interested in me, but I am done putting myself out there.

Tbh cba, not even ugly and 194cm tall. I'm just 30+, minimum wage job, no license and technically homeless so no point really in trying to participate.
Just gonna save up, rent a room somewhere, save up for a kickass pc and play rust while working my wage job until I expire.

>>81582850 (OP)
I somehow managed to dip my toes into it and got into a rather brief relationship. It was a total disaster, i felt like i was following a script of what i had to do instead of it just coming naturally. She had a rather nasty temper which meant she got mad at me all the time. I also realized i need a lot of space and she always needed to be with me. Of course she realized i am a retard and left. This experience truly soured me on ever trying again

>>81582850 (OP)
yes. tried once and never again. all of my effort wasn't enough to be desired, so i know it's not in the cards. i don't feel like adding anything to anyone else's life anymore. i see interacting with women as refueling them for the people they actually care about, so i don't anymore. seeing happy, attractive, or connective people outside ruins my day so i don't look at people anymore. trying to keep my head down until i die

Every relationship I had was garbage
But now I know they were all neurotypicals and Im neurospicy so I get why it wouldnt work

Now I search for my sperg gf
If needs be ill take one off some stolen valour normie who dares to take our women by being a so called nerd extrovert

>>81587070
>i don't feel like adding anything to anyone else's life anymore
>i see interacting with women as refueling them for the people they actually care about
>trying to keep my head down until i die
This guy isn't lying. Particularly the part that mentions "refueling". People in general need to vent sometimes, but women like to abuse men as emotional dumps.

>>81582850 (OP)
Yea, I never even tried. As a teen I was too shy around women. As a young adult I had no status and no money and was still anxious when talking to women. As a 30yr old now I have money and status but I want to spend that money on myself and my hobbies and I'm still not completely chilled around women. And in my 20s I also realized I never want to marry or have kids, which basically deletes 95% of women my age from my potential dating pool.
So what's the point? I'm a coomer so my sexual needs are covered. I'm very introverted so I thrive in loneliness and probably couldn't deal with having a woman around constantly demanding attention from me. I have a couple of friends who are much more interesting and funny than 99.9% of women. And on top of all, not having to care about attracting a woman and having kids results in a massive saving of money, so much so that I'm likely going to retire early. I hate having a job, so there's really noting I want more than dropping out of the rat race in my 40s.
I just don't need women in my life and I never have. Typical relationships look like a ball and chain to me. Sure it would be nice to have some sort of FWB situation but I'm neither good-looking enough or rich-looking enough to afford that. And I lack the extroversion and social skills to flirt. So around 29 I made peace with this situation and it didn't hit me as hard as I was expecting. I think many incels here would benefit from talking to normies in relationships. A big part of my acceptance came after getting my 1st job and getting to listen to normies talking about how expensive and demanding women are. They're all basically working an extra job just to maintain very mediocre relationships with all kinds of roasties. It's absolutely not worth it in any way and they are all victims of their weak character and fear of loneliness.

>>81584057
>All these things happen when a female isnt attracted. When a female is settling.
No, this is bullshit. You think baseline blackpill is all you need to explain it, but blackpill itself is bullshit too. Whores never stop and females will never be satisfied with anything anyway. You can be the ultimate gigachad of the solar system and you will still get divorce raped and bitches will still try to demolish your reputation. Females don't see you as human as an individual in 2025. They demand everything and give nothing in return. You are means to achieve their current goals, it doesn't matter whether financial, sexual, reputational, social, or whatever. You will be used and tossed aside. And you'll be lucky if there will be no accusations and you'll keep all of your money to yourself.
>you are truly a chad, like you've said, you can avoid experiencing this, guaranteed
Richest AND most handsome men on this planet were divorced and females attack their reputation non-stop too. You're delusional.
>guaranteed - get a girl thats attracted and make it hard for her to get you.
and get accusations in an attempt to manipulate me. thanks, no, thanks. Life is amazing without a female, there is so much stuff to do and enjoy. For instance, I can take a nap whenever the fuck I please. And I have all the weekends to myself too. You only live once and wasting your existence on some kind of an ungrateful vampire, a professional resource drain, is simply stupid. You must have your own goals and be content with yourself as a man. If you're a weak minded slave to a pussy - you're no Chad in the first place.
And also, you don't need a female to achieve greatness, these are all lies and societal bullshit propaganda. Great men achieve because they're turbo autistic about and are obsessed with their own goals and interests.

>>81582850 (OP)
Yes. At this point any relationship I could get would be too much effort for what I would get in return.

>>81587242
Trvthnvke. When you think about it all the talk about career and ambition we have to listen to from a young age is based on the presumption that you
>are going to have a family and children
>are a woman that will probably want to spend money for travelling, beauty and all the expensive shit women want
Most men generally have require way less money and are content with a few things, but of course spoiled manchildren still exist. So if you plan on remaining a volcel you could even have a content life with an average job and enjoy your peace.

>>81582850 (OP)
I just go for the lowest hanging fruit when I can no longer contain the horny. Banged some 50-something year old broad last week in the parking lot that I met at the coin laundromat.

>>81582850 (OP)
>tfw 25
>live in a rural southern town where theres really no women who share my interests
>dating apps only really exist kill my self esteem
>most girls arent really willing or serious about long distance over something like discord
i wouldnt say im done with attempting to date but i think im just kinda done going out of my way to find someone. even on the rare occasion that i find someone interested in me i have too much emotional baggage/anxiety from relationships i had through middle school and high school even though i know how dumb it is. i dont even care about being a virgin and i have no problem just jerking off when im horny. ive slowly come to terms with my need for "a girlfriend" actively harms my mental health and view of self worth, so ive learned to just have fun by myself in recent years through picking up hobbies and other things to occupy my time with, whether its art, cooking, or learning to fix my car.

>>81582850 (OP)
Raised by divorced parents general more like

>>81587816
Small towns suck if you are a sperg
If you want love move to a larger town or otherwise be happy with your lot

I'm done looking for a partner... And I never even looked! Hah take that society

>>81587882
All the generations of my family were full families. But this isn't 1950's communism. It is a dystopia in 2025. There is no need for a family, esp, a traditional one, therefore, there is no need in a female. A life destroying onahole with the bonus of producing babies. Whenever the babies are out of the question, because a man like me, for example, just doesn't want to have children, the entire female sex becomes highly irrelevant. And factually even detrimental.

>>81582850 (OP)
I'm a bit sick and feel like a sack of shit NEETing, I never tried my hand at dating and I don't think I ever will.