Thread 81584041

do any robots struggle to connect with others? even people ive talked to for years dont really consider me a friend since im not really capable of "opening up"
if thats what being a friend is i dont think ive ever really had one
is it possible for a robot to have a friend?

>>81584041 (OP)
people connect with me easily, but i cant connect with them, so i have a lot of acquaintances

>>81584048
people tolerate being around me to hang with me, but never anything more really since im not enough of a normalfag to be able to just talk about my feelings freely like they are (i dont really know if they do that but if i try people are just uncomfortable)

>>81584061
more than talking about emotions, people (normalfags usually) like hanging out with people who are fun, loud, laugh a lot, extroverted, etc. so if you aren't like that then they just hang out with you if there is nothing better to do

>>81584041 (OP)
yes l have autism

>>81584041 (OP)
i never understood how to make friends and so i've just given up and accepted a life of solitude. i don't understand how everyone just speaks and keeps speaking, how do you just have something to say 24/7?

>>81584068
they are not really like that, they are more introverted and are not really "normalfags" in that way but they are not like me because i am a neet or for some other reason, i dont know if that is why i feel alien to them but it is usually a point of contention

>>81584071
do you struggle to connect with other autists as well? i dont feel very much like an autist since i can interact with people including normalfags perfectly fine and even need to occasionally because of needing to talk to others

Honestly desu I just seized on the hands stretched out to me in 8th grade and held on for dear life. Boys cooler than me were like "I like you" and took me under their wing and now we're best friends to this day

>>81584096
I don't have much experience with this cause I didn't get diagnosed until 20s. Nevertheless, I get the idea that autistics tend to repel each other unless they have a strong interest in common.

This is a thread I posted recently about how there are 2 main types of high functioning autism, not just assburgers and that I am the less common type, which someone pointed out used to be called "pervasive developmental disability-not otherwise specified" before being lumped in with general autism. Maybe you are too take a look.
https://desuarchive.org/r9k/thread/81109043/

>>81584122
i see, do you just struggle with the start of friendships then? i can do that alright but i am too alien to connect with others

>>81584041 (OP)
It's hard for me to open up or to fit in. And I'm not exaclty sure that I feel my own emotions particularly well - I suppress a lot. I learned not to open up or share much about myself because of the combination of shame and assuming that other people don't care, or that whatever I have to share isn't worth listening to. Sometimes I'm not even sure I want to connect, and talking to others makes me exhausted so I tend to retreat to the comfort of solitude. Wherever I go, I'm an alien that doesn't add anything worthwhile to the space

>>81584041 (OP)
i think the definition of friends varies depending on the person anon, so what might be a friend for you might not be for someone else. if you enjoy being around someone and they make your life slightly better just by existing around you then thats a friend in my book. do you consider anyone you know a friend?

>>81584137
I have the opposite problem, people think I'm a faggot weirdo at first but then like me over time

>>81584180
i do not consider anyone a friend since i cant ever be honest around them, its always just constantly pretending to be more normal than you are

>>81584133
I sort of fit into the latter category but not really

>>81584195
>i cant ever be honest around them
why do you even interact with them in the first place then? if you have to fake being someone else at the time, there's no point. i'd understand if you HAVE to interact with these people for work or whatever, but if you're looking to make friends then you have to find people you're comfortable being yourself around. dont try to befriend normies, dont try to befriend people that you know wouldnt like you if you started being yourself.

>>81584041 (OP)
I have friends at uni but out of like I big group of them I know I can talk to there, I only talk to one outside of classes / breaks and that's mostly to play video games. I don't really know how to meet up with people or talk to more people and I feel like I need but just don't understand it

>>81584041 (OP)
>im not really capable of "opening up"
What is there to open up about?
How does one do it?

>>81584290
Me on the left also I'm actually diagnosed with autism(it's so over)

>>81584041 (OP)
what a retarded question to ask on this board lmfao
grass is green ass question

>>81584041 (OP)
Yes, some people get the world, and other people's are just a slave to society. Some people get it, but most don't. I'm not a 5 percenter, but their philosophy behind 85% of the world being dumb, deaf, and blind as a borderline slave class to the 10% who control them, whereas the 5% are in the know. Some people spend their whole life chasing a dream that dosen't exist, completey ignoring the wonderful gift of a beautiful day that's in front of us. People who always live in the future or the past, never enjoy today. I can only vibe with those who see the beauty in today.

>>81584290
i have never met someone i feel comfortable being myself around and i dont know if that person can exist, im just too messed up and alien for it

>>81584041 (OP)
It's a fairly recent development for me, but yes, I feel disconnected from everyone.

>>81584041 (OP)
"Opening up" is a meme and a trap and a lie. Do not do it. DO NOT EVER OPEN UP. Everybody will hate you for opening up, especially women. You were born a man, which means you have to stuff that shit down and bottle it up until the day you die and ever ever ever NOT EVER open up unless you want to end up hated and alone.

>>81584041 (OP)
>do any robots struggle to connect with others?
Of course. I'm an autist social retard that took enough social rejections to never bother with people again.
Everyone who loved me is now dead. I have no chance of finding replacements.
I have two friends left that I barely have contact with. I almost always leave it to them to initiate.
Same deal with my remnants of distant family.