hey /r9k/

My gf has had me locked in chastity on and off for 6 months, but recently it has been basically always (with the exception of supervised cleaning)

She is a bit of a fujo with a real attraction to femboys/effeminant men. She is really into the idea of turning me bi through the frustration of not being able to get hard and cum.

My question for you all, is what should I do? Are there any ideas that you all might have? I am not sure where I would find information on stuff like this.

To give you all an idea of how this relationship is I'll list some examples of the types of things we have together:
-She always big spoons me
-she LOVES to grope me, I am not supposed to wear underwear and she gropes me a lot
-most of the "sex" we have are where I have to dress up for her and give her head, and then she pegs me
-she eventually wants to involve other people, have me get tattoos for her, get smaller and smaller cages, and maybe even start an OF.

I would like more ideas of how I can better play into this dynamic for her, and what I can do to rewire myself. I cannot express in words how bad I want to jerk off, but I know I am not supposed too

>>81593751 (OP)
>-most of the "sex" we have are where I have to dress up for her and give her head, and then she pegs me
why is sex in sneer quotes? that's exactly what sex should be.

>>81593751 (OP)
>have me get tattoos for her
I think it would be cute for a couple like this to get matching heart-shaped nipple tats together, especially if they got it to commemorate an occasion like making the boy suck cock at a glory hole. is she into that tattoo?

>>81593751 (OP)
>maybe even start an OF.
great idea, if I were her I'd have your faces blurred at first to get you comfortable with it and then eventually have them unblurred :3

>>81593751 (OP)
she should give you a rule where you have to whimper a little every time you catch yourself thinking about cock; doesn't have to sound like anything in particular or be loud enough for anyone to hear except you, but you have to react visibly in some way. if she's fucking and teasing you properly this should do a lot. also she should encourage you to masturbate by playing with your nipples while sucking a dildo, especially one that's suction-cupped to a mirror.

>>81593751 (OP)
literally just listen to bambisleep or other hypno, that should be all it takes.

Ask her to insert a foley catheter, then cut a new peehole behind your balls. After it heals the only way you can pee is sitting down. If you ever get to ejaculate again the cum won't exit through your penis.

>>81593954
wtf is bambisleep

i tried some hypno but most of the actual hypno doesnt seem my thing. particularly the stuff that is like AI voice and/or way to chaotic and loud with flashing lights doesnt seem to be my thing.

i like stuff that is captioned with instructions and compilations of other people in chastity though. i wont lie im still about embarrassed about anal masturbation, my family is very jesuit-catholic and hate fag stuff.

>>81593957
that seems a bit extreme. we have a flat cage but currently i am wearing the one in the pic.

>>81593820
she wants me to have either just a padlock above my cage or the queen of spades.

>>81593890
i already whimper a lot, and it is pretty embarrassing and completely involuntary. so i dont think that would work. my nipples have always been extremely sensitive ever since i was a kid, and she already is trying to get me to masturbate while recording it and sending it to her via dropbox

>>81593860
Not to reveal too much, but she already has a large following on fetlife, as being a woman who is pretty much only a domme will get you a large following. I didn't know that about her when I met her.

>>81593781
I mean idk usually the man penetrates the woman. She does frequently have me wear the strap-on and fuck her though.

>>81594005
this image does not survive contact with catty twinks but im happy you're happy anonj

>>81594028
well you should bring up the heart nipples to her and see if she likes it; also consider the french maid ribbons.

if you do get the queen of spades, it should be somewhere visible so you have to cover up the Q with some body paint to make it look like a normal spade in public, then maybe have like a star and a butterfly next to it to make it look more innocuous. although the midriff is kinda the best spot.

>>81594059
so if she could have any sub she wanted, why did she pick you?

>>81594059
did she make a fetlife page for you yet? that could be a good start, you should be getting horny messages from guys. or a grindr.

>>81594070
wdym anon? does not survive contact with catty twinks? also thank you :)

>>81594084
she wants a tattoo above the cage area or so, or where tram stamps go. i will ask tho.

>>81594093
well, we are both basically the same age, we live very close together, she thinks that i am cute, she likes that i am very innocent (i am a year older then her and ive had plenty of pussy in my life already, but its all usually been thrown at me in spite of my autism) and really likes to corrupt me. she has said numberous times "i cannot wait to ruin you more and more"

>>81594129
do you cum from the pegging? eating each others assholes could be a good thing to do, because you both have one so it's one of those things where experience giving makes receiving feel better and vice versa.

>>81594099
i made one after she told me too, yes. i mean like tbqh i am like pretty straight. she already has one of her friends who is also like a fetlife gal but pretty much only a sub, but she voluntarily solicited a 3-some where they both dom me. she wants to ease me into being used by other people by having it at least be femme people at first. i was hoping there was some way i could get used to this myself if possible.

>>81594129
to add to this, i forgot she said i have the "ideal body except that im a bit to tall". I have always been pretty skinny, i am 6'2 and 150lbs.

>>81594160
she doesn't really like having her ass eaten. personally i can say it was a weird sensation when she did it to me.

>>81594005
can you afford laser hair removal and stuff like that? that could be a fun step.

>>81594196
we are both college students and I am super poor while she is able to afford small things here and there.

i do have an electric razor and have learned to deal with the razor burns. she demands that I stay shaven in the area around my underwear constantly. my skin on some of my body is...weird, super sensitive, like my back, thighs and butt.

maybe we could afford more clothes and toys and just stuff for this if we started selling content. i already have many of the videos of me anally masturbating and cumming while doing so (sorry >>81594160 forgot to answer this, here is a pic she took from me cumming during pegging) that i could sell but i dont know what they would go for and am super worried i could be identified despite trying to keep my face hidden in them (just in case)

>>81594234
she should make you suck her tits and pretend that it's a dick with lots of hair pulling, slapping, wiping the saliva off on your face, taking a break for kissing then making you get back to work, pinching your nose shut so you're gasping on it, etc. and dragging your head back and forth between each tit so you can pretend you're sucking TWO dicks.

>>81593751 (OP)
please fucking commit suicide, yes, you op, and also everyone who's giving him serious advice in this thread, in fact just kill everyone in this thread who's posted above me

>>81594289
but she already has me suck the strap-on and stuff...

>>81593751 (OP)
start listening to Peaches, she has a lot of good songs about turning boys into sluts.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Zm1h23phvj8
this one is good too (different artist): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y9tPWwCCU0s

shit that most definitely happened: the thread

You ruined this with racial QoS shit.
You should be an equal opportunity faggot and race baiting bullshit stereotypes are for retards.

If this is real she's a coal burner. If it's not (most likely) die, jew.

>>81594350
why is it so hard for you to believe that people on this board have sex and gfs?

>>81594356
I don't know, it could be the mare pic in your OP? Just strikes me as a 60 year old faggot sitting in front of his PC naked, wearing a chastity cage.

>>81594350
i mean you can believe it or not, those pics are of me
>>81594355
she is black, see pic.
>>81594336
I want to see stuff that is more expressly like, porn or whatever.

>>81594450
is her strap-on also black?

>>81594463
she has one strap that is black and another that is white. since we are both college students, we arent well off, and she only has the white one as she couldnt find a black one which vibrates.

>>81594450
A QoS is usually meant for BBC adjacent shit. If she's a domme she should be original instead of using that.

>>81594005
What seems a bit extreme is only for her to decide. Extreme would be her amputating penis. Peehole relocation is a very minor procedure that can be done with half a vial of lidocaine. Healing in this region of the body is very quick because of the high blood flow.
You really owe it to her to at least mention the idea of peehole relocation. I think she would like it. She would be disappointed if she discovered you were purposely hiding things from her.

>>81594669
Genuinely kill yourself you're encouraging this bastard permanently destroy his body for MILD sexual gratification at best

>>81594669
i mean this is to say that what you are suggesting is a bit more far along, and it would come after many things. Like i said, we have a flat cage but it is extremely uncomfortable after a couple hours. surely you must understand that. how am i ever supposed to wear a flat cage without severe discomfort, let alone do what you suggest?

here is a pic of the flat cage.

>>81593751 (OP)
Stop this. I mean it. It is one thing to have complexes, but it is an entirely different beast to play into the complexes of another person. She doesn't love you. She loves that you behave exactly the way she thinks you should. If you ever drop this persona she will drop you and find another. That is not healthy love. But worse than that is the fact that you are exchanging your one true chance in life to find your true self for this. Transient pleasure and a feeling of belonging. This is not worth it. This is eternal struggle.

>>81594727
She's 100% got a racialized fetish for denying white men. When she's broken you and gotten you to fuck a black guy and irreparably damaged your sexuality, she'll leave you or open the relationship to get another white man to sissify.

Please notice this before it's too late.

>>81594765
thats something women do as a hobby? Sissify men and leave them when they're completely broken?

>>81594811
Not a large percentage of women but there's entire circles of domme women that get off to these. Saw a girl like that that was a massive white supremacist sissify and advocate for immigrants to Rape and destroy European white women because white men were too weak now and weak Europe deserved it.

She was called Broken Evropa or something on Twitter.

>>81594681
It could be surgically undone almost just as easily. Fix the new hole and he's peeing and cumming out of his old hole again like nothing had even happened.
>>81594727
During the healing you would not be able to wear any cage, at least six to eight weeks, but I'd suggest 12 weeks before playing with cages again. If the chastity cage is a major part of the relationship I think I understand why it may be a problem to do this. I kind of assumed that it would eventually be a goal that you got to a point you no longer need a cage, your mind and body accept her dominance and will that your penis is not used sexually. Not used even to urinate is the next step.
I can't really think of any safe solutions. Done correctly banding can cause numbness and inability to obtain an erection for a few days. But the margin of error is a bit too small for my liking to condone it. If you don't band long enough then you can still get erections. Done too long and it may cause long term damage to the nerves.

>>81594765
i know this girl, and i can tell you she doesnt really have a specific thing for any particular race. i live in an extremely white majority are (90%+) in Washington. like your presuming a lot about this like people are cartoons, sometimes they are but that is rare in real life.

>>81594820
lol, thats really funny if its true what a group of dumb bitches

>>81594911
dawg you are very clearly wanting me to cut a whole in my cock bc you prob get off to it. a catheter/sounding cage like you said originally is a flat cage design usually. yeah she gets off to frusturating me like i said originally.

>>81595037
I'm both the first replies. I hope you're right, otherwise you'll have a horrible time.

How are men into this, but more importantly, how are women into this?

>>81594319
that's great but it's not the same because it doesn't respond like flesh. I think it sounds great; I would definitely enjoy inflicting that on someone if I had tits.

>>81595045
she literally has a hesitation with the qos thing bc she doesnt like being fetishized overtly nor does she fetishize me for being white. she fetishizes me for being a "natural twink". she is most certainly a fujo before anything else this girl plays genshin impact.

>>81595078
the point would be to get me accustomed and trained for doing that sort of thing particularly with not gagging. a breast, no matter how big, i can't imagine it could make you gag.

Is your gf looking for any more natural twins or are yall happy (i mean this with respect if she's open to taking more femboys but I don't wanna ruin balls relationship)

>>81595053
why is anyone into anything fetish wise? Probably cause our brains are more complex than animals. They just fuck to breed. Humans turn it into a series of strange games, including games that don't lead to procreation.

>>81595477
It's no different than a dog beginning to paddle when you suspend it a couple feet above water. The dog is trying to swim even though there is no buoyancy and the paddling while being suspended has no effect on locomotion. See water, do paddle. Humans are the same. See chastity, do sexual arousal. The reason behind it is not complicated. For the dog it has been exposed to water and quickly discovered paddling helped navigate the terrain. Exposure which elicits a learned behavior in response to the same or similar stimulus. Op had some kind of exposure which led to the sexual behaviors he now exhibits.
Though I suppose you could also say it is more like an animal trained to do tricks. Roll over, get treat. Eventually the animal will roll over on command even without being rewarded.
Maybe it's some combination of the two. I've seen my dog hump a toy or guests leg often enough to know that it's not reproduction that drives animal sexual behaviors. Reproduction is merely the result in certain scenarios. Toys and legs can't get pregnant, but a bitch in heat can and often does.

>>81595333
i mean we are like dating in a normal way. we get along quite a bit outside of this dynamic. i make racist or awful jokes and she laughs at it. we actually enjoy eachothers personality, and I cannot say that would be the same with some other mfer. anybody who would be brought in wouldnt be any more central then either of us.

>>81595631
no i have always liked dominant women, literally like 70% or more of all my sexual encounters have been women i would say most people would identify as attractive approaching me for sex and making the first move. pretty much all of them, even if they aren't dominant, are sexually dominant in the bedroom around me most of the time

as for the sissy femboy chastity thing, as far as i see it theres basically two paths for men into dominant women. there are the ones into the old school dominatrix where you are a trad male and shes a le sexy lady with long hair and theres a lot of leather and whips and clamps.

then there is the more new school idea where the male is the bottom in sex and is usually more effeminate, either naturally or he is made to be that way by the girl. usually there is a lot more emasculation, a lot more gender bending and role reversing, and its usually way hotter imho. i get off at my gf lusting after me and letting me know who is in charge by groping my cage under my pants when we go out to eat.

i like being a slut, idk. i really dont find masculine people and cock to be my thing, but if my gf locks me up and wants me to by fucked by a real man while my locked up cock bounces around, then that sounds pretty hot.

its honestly not that hard to cum in chastity too, at least for me, and i leak a lot which girls seem to like. its the forced acceptance of anal being the only pleasure you receive that gets it for me. thats why i couldnt be into this if my gf was trans as i like pussy, but she will not give it to me

>My gf
lol. LMAO.
"your gf" is just using you to get money/drugs for her real bf, Chad, and planning on stealing anything of value you have. If you tell anyone they stole from you, she'll say you raped her

dumbass normie

>>81596445
least obvious rage bait 2025. what happened to this board man. people used to have some actual spine and not just say buzzwords to upset people. either that or the nword or calling people fag.

Lucky bastard
I want that

>>81593751 (OP)
Im both jelly of that but also scared of it since such relationships can turn into a big wreck pretty quick and are basically such trauma reenactment

>>81596862
I mean hey she hasnt done anything crazy yet. She does seem to have been through a lot of these relationships and dynamics since she was a findom (not like she was fucking any of these guys, even if she did idc).

i mean who knows if she even really likes femboys, this could just be me and whatever vibe i bring. not that this is like, me being some sex or great guy, literally its stuff outside of my control, like every woman ive met thinks how i smell is really, REALLY good. I tell people this but i dont think they get it. My gf's friends will like ask to smell my armpits several times.

sorry for that tangent blog. yeah obv it could go wrong but she hasnt thrown any red flags yet. other then being a bit sadistic sometimes, she isnt emotionally unstable and that is a rarity.

This guy is with a genuine sadist that wants to subject her man to homosexual rape, emasculation, denial of his personhood and the demon subjecting him to these abuses gets a free pass.
I as a man with exceptional levels of compassion have written a few times about how I intend to make my future wife undergo amputation of her clitoris as penitance for not having virginity to give to me, the rightful owner of her virginity. It is an act of deep devotion and very symbolic. She is completely putting herself under my dominion, protection, and benevolence. I would never try and make her engage in sexual acts with other, neither regular or homosexual. Such a powerful gift and display of trust and obedience means she is a woman I can fully dedicate myself to loving. Not just loving, spoiling rotten. She gives me her clit and that makes her special, so I value her accordingly. It is well known that nonvirgin women are completely worthless. By getting the cut she regains some fraction of the value of a virgin. I will provide for this woman for life, risk my life to protect her, and we will be buried next to each other on my family's land.
But somehow I'm a bad person for wanting a wife I am faithful and her caretaker for life. Op's mistress is only with him until twink death, she wants to subject him to the most abhorrent things that can happen to a man, homosexual rape and an adulterous partner. The denial for op carries no meaning. The denial is where she derives her pleasure in ruining poor op. At isolated and vulnerable man so desperate for affection he willingly goes along with it. But she's not evil, she's hot. Nice they say upon learning that op is in a sexually abusive relationship.

>>81597038
>twink death
You are gay

81597038
such obvious ragebait

>>81597038
I don't understand. My plans are guided by love, understanding, and acceptance of my future wife. She was initially reluctant but lately has started to talk about giving me her sin in a positive light. I will avoid trying to determine if she sees it as a ticket for free ride. Usually when he brings up me taking her sin she talks about what kind of ring she wants, wedding dresses, honeymoon, all that weddingbee pinterest type ntuff. But to be fair, that is also how I proposed the idea to her. As an intention to marry her, virginity being a requirement, and clitoris amputation being accepted as a substitute. It is a crucial part of the process. Clit comes off, engagement ring goes on. A few months later is the wedding. It makes me happy that she has accepted, even if she has thought about it some first to decide if it's worth doing for me.
Legally it is tricky. It must be aan elective procedure she wants. I want any risk of falling in trouble because of the many laws surrounding this. I said our prehoneymoon will probably be in Egypt. She has exchanged messages with a Dr who is willing to perform the procedure, and the cost is surprisingly low. She is even understanding of aesthetics when I asked how the procedure is done step by step in detail, and mentioned I want it to look like she never had a clitoris. Complete removal of tissue with only a barely visible little white scar.
So how am I the bad guy again?

>>81597060
/r9k/ is infiltrated by agents pushing the homosexual agenda. I learned their lingo.
81597075
Not baiting or trolling. Just genuine confusion and frustration why this batshit crazy nonsense is waow cool, but my much milder plans has me treated as the second coming of lucifer.

>>81597038
>>81597110
this is borderline schizophrenic what the fuck lol. i guess this is england time zone so this is when the muslims come in and educate us whities about how a woman should yoink her clit off.

also i dont bald (no bald men in my family), dont drink and stay in shape. i still look underage and im in my mid 20s now. twink death has been evaded until my late 30s at least.

>>81597139
>I learned their lingo
Because you are a homosexual man

>>81596933
Not this guy but I also play with chastity with my gf, but she loves my dick to much, so the longest she kept me locked was 2 weeks, and normaly its 2-3 days. Also im not neeting atm so i dont do 24h as much as I did before.
From my own expirience, I can write you what we do (14y togheter, around 7 of her being domom in bed, altho i still dom her from time to time)
>facesits me for hours and i worship her ass, I especialy enjoy when she rides my face to hard music
>rp with me, mostly mommy, mistress or handler
>pegs me/use a lot of toys on me
>edges me with wand, ballslap or just with hand when she unlocks me but still puts me back in cage.
>give me instruction when I fuck her (when I can move, if I can stick it in/how deep, start/stop command,)making me her toy.
>wearing her clothing, mostly sexy/cute stuff.
>i serve her with long massages and we cuddle up a lot.
Frankly if you dont enjoy feminization/anal its a bit of tough to devise other ways to make another step/more intersting. Its ethier this or servitude, if you really dig the vibe of being a slave to her.
My gf is a bit to lovely/caring for me in bed for my own sake, simply because shes very empathetic and im just a masohistic degenerate that needs to be put in my place. Also as I mentioned, with normal job and other activities its a bit hard to make this a fetish that you can do on a daily basis, so just try to appriciate it when you can induldge in it.
And i now that you mention you dont like anal, but let me tell you, it doesnt matter how blueballed am I, after a prostate massage/a session with her toying me/pegging I always feel fantasitic, its like some form of hunger that she sates. It doesnt matter if I cum that way or not, im still horny and can have sex, but at the same time I feel spent, like from very aggresive and great sex. I am addicted to her and if you want to be better sub for her, just try to get addicted yourself, i wouldnt do this for some random girl or short relationship tho

>>81597249
idk where you got the idea i didnt like anal.

i mean its just different. sometimes it looks like i basically cum from anal and stark leaking and dribbiling everywhere, and i feel nothing.

other times im moaning and cumming for like 3 minutes. it can be great.

>>81597188
It is the time in America when people who work in hospitals get off. 12 hour night shift. For most Americans they have been awake for a few hours. For me I'm about to go to bed. But that is irrelevant. I just feel it is strange that someone doing something much worse gets a pass, but a woman willingly giving me her sin to atone for not being a virgin somehow makes me bad. All I can do is bring the topic up, I'd never force or even pressure her into it. If the does this I want it to be something she sincerely wants to. Her acceptance of this means she also accepts me wanting her as my wife.
>>81597199
Your kind are, the ones who coined the terms. I begrudgingly adopt your language in order to communicate with people below me. I think your sexual perversions are wrong and that you will go to hell for having them. But you homos are far from clever. Your secret language is easily cracked.

>>81597388
>I begrudgingly adopt your language
only a spineless faggot would do that

>>81597388
dude you are gayer then i guy who commits a crime, just so he can go to prison and be raped.

there is no way you dont have some euro flag and aren't a second or third generation muslim. literally no other group of people, even the most Christian people dont want female circumcision because it, just like normal circumcision is fucking barbaric.

female circumcision is like really bad. clearly you havent engaged in much pussy getting, but like lopping the clit off is basically like loping the head of your cock off. it makes the rest of sex not nearly as satisfying for life. just to impress you and somehow to prove she is a virgin

this truly is the most curious ragebait ever

>>81597395
Please suck a dick or something. You get cranky when it's been too long since your last foray with sodomy. I speak Spanish to mexcrement when needed, and I speak homo to you faggots when needed. You act like it's an incredible feat that I know your language, but it's painfully simple. Anyone with room temp iq could master it in a couple of hours. Homos are not complicated. They like sodomy, little kids, and catching stds.

>>81597447
>even more gay cope
Does it hurt? I bet it does

>>81597303
Maybe I just assumed it when you wrote that you dont enjoy rimming so much, dunno, or maybe it was someone else that wrote it.
Yeah, its strange, sometimes I pent up/spasm and dont feel that much and sometimes I cant stop coming. Anyway it feels amazing afterwards in both cases.

>>81597488
yeah cumming in the cage makes it not satisfying but im still pretty horny after it.

>>81597441
Both sides of my family fought in the Civil war, and I have red hair. I'm pretty sure I'm of mostly English stock with a heavy dose of potato nigger.
I don't care about circumcision or any of your weird religious stuff. I just want her to show penitence and atone for her wicked past and cheating on me before we even met. Giving me her sin adequately fulfills the requirements I have in order to settle for a nonvirgin. It's not enough to earn her a diamond ring, but she can get any size moissanite she wants after this.
Once her sin is removed her sexual function is not impacted. She can still get pregnant, she still has a pussy I can cum in. She could even do oral sex or engage in heterosexual sodomy where I ejaculate into her rectum. She suffers very little. The cut will be done under local anesthesia, so she won't even feel it.
>>81597456
I have no experience with homosexual behavior. I imagine it would hurt. That's part of why I find it odd you enjoy your wicked lifestyle so much.

>>81597531
>Both sides of my family fought in the Civil war
Of course you're an Ashkenazi jew

>>81593751 (OP)
I have nothing ti contribute, I just want to say that I love this artists work, especially the penis sleeve and chastity sex stuff

How did you get a girlfriend ? How did you keep a girlfriend?!

Kinda unrelated, but I find chastity and feminization so fucking hot, but it's almost always related to cuckolding, which I hate. Especially when it also involves interracial.
Which is why I'd never actually partake in it in an IRL relationship. Hell, it's hard to even enjoy it in porn without getting constantly jumpscared with interracial cuckolding shit that I don't wanna see.
Feels bad, man.