>>81631130alright, let's break this down, because you are listing off every excuse like a greatest hits album. yes, you hike, great, but if you hate the gym, that's on you. hiking alone will not fix everything, and you know it. if you want different results, you have to push into different habits, even ones you dislike.
about your office job: many people struggle with low pay, but declaring you'd need 8 years of uni and giving up entirely is defeatist. there are certifications, night courses, remote gigs, and side hustles that don't take 8 years, but you dismiss them out of hand.
regarding surgery, no one is forcing you to blow $80k. smaller changes, skincare, dental work, style, posture can help, but you act like those are impossible too.
you complain no young women are at your hiking or salsa events, that is your cue to branch out, travel, or explore other social spaces, not sit there sulking that no woman under 55 appeared for your convenience.
on approaches: if you really approached a hundred women with zero results, maybe your delivery, energy, or expectations were way off. people sense bitterness or desperation, and that destroys attraction. instead of reflecting, you quit and decided dating is a rigged game, which solves nothing.
now you say you work 50-60 hours a week and live where there are no women your age. that is difficult, but again, you still have choices: relocation, online dating, new social hobbies, but you immediately rule them out.
the pattern is clear: you slam the door on every idea the moment it involves risk, discomfort, or failure. then you declare yourself doomed. that mindset guarantees you stay stuck no matter how much you hike or how many classes you sign up for. blaming your environment is easier than actually changing, but it also leaves you in the same place. if you want a better outcome, you have to change how you think and act, because no one is going to parachute a perfect solution into your lap while you complain online.