>>81636717
to me, sex is something extremely intimate.
To be comfortable sharing this experience with someone I'd have to fully trust them and have a strong emotional connection.
I'm not even religious, but for me to make the desicion to sleep with someone is basically equivalent to getting married, because I would only loose my virginity to someone who i'd want to spend the rest of my life with.
If someone doesn't share that viewpoint about intimacy with me and has no problem sleeping with a bunch of random people, I don't think we'd fit together anyways.
>>81636740
Well yes, I am actually a diagnosed autist and english isn't my first language, thank you for noticing.
I don't think its much of a standard though if its something that literally every single person on earth is born with.
Refusing to date e.g. an (ex-) heroin user isn't a standard either, no one is born a heroin user, NOT using heroin isn't something you have to work for, and you have to actively go out of your way to achieve that status.
So e.g. wanting someone to be of a specific height or having a specific bust size or something is a standard.
wanting someone to have certain accomplishments like a university degree or a high income, those are standards.
But requiring someone who has NOT deliberately gone out of their way and done a specific action in the past that you dislike? I think thats so low a standard that it barely qualifies as that.
I do have standarts, including "unfair" ones that are regarding genetic traits that not 100% of the population are born with.
Maybe they are to high, maybe they aren't, but I think everyone has those and thats normal.
But I think wanting someone to be a virgin is (theoretically) so low a bar that it doesn't or shouldn't even qualify as a standart, literally every single person was born meeting that standard and they had to actively decide to do something to loose it.
