>been changing how i've been living my life
>slowly but surely entering normiesphere
>finally feel confident about myself
>mom still wants to keep me as her pet
i feel pathetic for even posting this
i'm almost 30 but my mom still asks me where i'm going, who i'm going with, etc.
i spend more time with her than anyone else and i fucking hate it
>inb4 "you'll regret it when she dies"
i dont fucking care, my parents were the reason why i'm here in the first place

Shut up.
https://www.reddit.com/r/raisedbynarcissists/s/0YRPQG1Af3
Scroll it and see if that community fits you. In lieu of flowers I'll send an acceptance note of my the confirmation of your departure how glad I am that it has finally ended. Your mom isn't your mom that's a progenitor. You cant be without that in this system. Consider you're an orphan ? Maybe that might be the trustest aspect you've ever known. That you have more in common with the day you were born and not the people who raised you. And this isn't a +- four issue for our ages would be within that gap. You have stolkholm syndrome. Use your feet and walk. Tough love isn't real love. Sometimes it'll hurt more to do what's needed for your growth and development. And when you accept you're not real to her then Itll be easier to understand they have sacrificed your life in exchange for temporary comforts.

>>81644098 (OP)
there's a middle ground between cutting her out of your life and living under her thumb, you don't have to run from one extreme to the other

>>81644297
i know that place and i hate that i see the traits and events there happened in mine too - i've been trying and trying and FUCKING TRYING to claw my way out of her reach for the past 10 years - still no dice since she's got literally everyone on her side

>>81644311
if there is one, i've never seen it nor have i heard any stories about it
she's too far gone, man... more so since my dad died

>>81644393
It'll be okay to be alone. It's okay to restructure when you're defeated and down. What did they expect you to do? Wither and die. Maybe try to push yourself snd challenge yourself. Find a city board and make some friends then make a group of roommates and move there. Somewhere you can't be stalked or followed and that was vetted by you. I just would hate to see and know you're stuck in this forever stage of being a victim your life is worth more than theirs. It takes a lot of them to attack you.