Thread 81677284

im always there when they need someone, i change my plans to accommodate theirs, i give so much of my time to them, i work my ass off in order to have a future together, but no one ever does that much for me. for a reason or another everyone either just wants to be friends or ghosts me for no reason. god im so fucking tired of giving so much to give but never getting anything back. WHAT MORE DO YOU WANT ME TO DO???????

Can you please hug me?

>>81677330
it's the first thing they tell you but now it has to actually be good

You need to stop prioritizing others and respect yourself, stop being a subservient doormat. You deserve respect in general.

>>81677284 (OP)
people hate me

>>81677342
I hate you too, anon-kun

>>81677284 (OP)
I am the exact same way, it's a major problem. This might be of interest to you: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Atlas_personality if you are much like me. Despite knowing it's a problem I don't think I will change it, I want to be a force for good in this world even if it hurts.
>>81677330
Sure you can have hugs.

>>81677330
i'd love to anon, but i cant do it through the screen
>>81677336
i do respect myself. i think i deserve the same amount of love i give and thats why im so mad at people. i dont do the things i do because i want to appeal to others i just do them because i like being kind.
>>81677342
i dont
>>81677352
>I want to be a force for good in this world even if it hurts
same. i want to be kind despite everything because i know the world needs people like us
but man its hard

>>81677392
>i do respect myself. i think i deserve the same amount of love i give and thats why im so mad at people. i dont do the things i do because i want to appeal to others i just do them because i like being kind.

I wish I could give you some love as a friend. I can feel that you deserve it.

>>81677284 (OP)
I'm such a subhumans, kids who watch alpha male videos are probably unironically more successful and capable than me.

Sorry about your frustration OP. Maybe try understanding what the other party wants and be more manipulative next time.

>>81677284 (OP)
Yup. Never put in more effort than the other person. Some people (ie most of them) do not deserve unconditional kindness so save your energy for those who do. Pearls before swine.

Let me guess- you are a man with low genetic value
I realized already in highschool that people don't care how well you treat them, they care how valuable a person you are. If you are high-value you can treat everyone like shit and they will still be your friends and partners and simply ignore your faults. Be kind and polite and accomodating but low-value and people will treat you like trash or ignore you and never value your friendship

>>81677496
thank you anon. i just wish people cared more about eachother.
>>81677502
>kids who watch alpha male videos
its subjective, but to me anyone who watches that kind of content and takes it seriously stands in the worst type of humans category
>>81677519
>for those who do
but i mean, if i really like someone i cant really help but be kind, i just want them to like me as much as i like them but it never happens.
>>81677550
that doesnt mean i should be a bad person just because thats what other people expect me to be or treat me like i am one

no, i imagine he got embarrassed and restarted

>>81677392
>wants to be kind
>actively spends time with retards that don't recognize your kindness and make your life worse
You're not being kind you're being a moron. Kindness doesn't exist if your recipient doesn't care for it. It's like if I gave you a can of beans and you threw it on the floor. Did I really give you a can of beans. Find people that care about you and return your kindness, otherwise you're wasting your time. Being stressed out by these people lowers your lifespan too, you're decreasing the amount of time you can be kind to people by being kind to the wrong people. You wouldn't be doing this if you were so kind. Always with this shit I swear you people are hopeless. You have all this kindness to give yet conveniently you trap yourself in these cages that hide you from the rest of the world. You funnel your kindness into a circle of shitheads and get yourselves killed. Mental illness incarnate.

>>81677730
>Did I really give you a can of beans
yes, you did its the other person's fault for not accepting it, you did a good deed still
besides thats kind of a stupid metaphor but whatever
>being kind to the wrong people
there's no wrong people to be kind with, its the amount of effort you put in them that matters. i put too much effort in everyone i like because i hope they like me back eventually and foolishly think they're like me. if i didnt, i could still be kind to them its not like they're terrible people. even if they were, what good would being a dick to them back would do? id just stop talking to them and its what i do when i meet someone i dislike.
i do agree that i stress over this shit too much and its killing me. its not their fault, they're not bad people, they're not making my life worse, i am doing it to myself.
>Mental illness incarnate
well im here for a reason lol

>>81677730
>You funnel your kindness into a circle of shitheads and get yourselves killed. Mental illness incarnate.
Literally me, and then I have mental break from being overwhelmed and left to rot. Then they think I am suddenly scary now when I am not. The alternative though is being mean instead of assuming good intentions. I don't want to be mean to people.

>>81677809
i wrote the twist as a fuck you to women

>>81677677
Why do you feel like noone wants to put effort into a relationship with you op?
I will agree though that nobody today wants to compromise on anything to make stuff work. The default response seems to be "if you don't like a few minor things I do or if you think I can change a few things, you must not love me for who I am"

>>81677809
Did a good deed from your perspective maybe but to the person on the other end it meant nothing. What good did that really do. If it changes nothing about their life, nor how they think of you, nor how they think of anything, your goodness amounted to nothing. You do good things to make the world a better place. But the good things you're doing aren't changing anything. Your kindness stems from wanting to be liked. That isn't good. Don't call yourself good. You don't need to be good. But don't pretend to yourself and others that you are.

>>81677284 (OP)
If the first reason you do this because you want people to reciprocate, then stop.

Only do this if you want to do it regardless of what happens.

>>81677284 (OP)
haha nerd what a geek loser you are. add me on discord and i will talk to you during the times of 10pm to 10am est

>>81677902
>Why do you feel like noone wants to put effort into a relationship with you op?
i dont know, because im not doing enough, because they dont like me enough, because everyone is so centered towards themselves nowdays. i think it mostly might be because of my mental illnesses though.
>if you don't like a few minor things I do or if you think I can change a few things, you must not love me for who I am
yeah that sucks. i wanna be loved for who i am but i feel like everything i do is wrong and i need to change in order to be liked
>>81677910
>If it changes nothing about their life, nor how they think of you, nor how they think of anything, your goodness amounted to nothing
this is not true. it amounted to me being slightly happier and to me being true to myself. i like helping people, i like being kind, it makes me feel better. i dont care if someone doesnt accept my kindness. their loss
>You do good things to make the world a better place
i do good things because im happy when i do them. im no one and i will never change the world no matter how many good things i do, i dont need to worry about "making the world a better place". if doing things that make me happy slightly improve the world for people around me, then thats a bonus.
>>81677932
its not the first reason why i do it, but it would make me feel a lot better if others reciprocated
>>81677953
sorry anon i do not use discord

>>81677284 (OP)
Oh, "giving so much." What the fuck do you give, exactly? I'm guessing one word responses.
>Wahhh I sacrifice myself by giving you barely enough energy to keep a conversation going!!!
Quiet, moron.

>>81678124
>i wanna be loved for who i am but i feel like everything i do is wrong and i need to change in order to be liked
This is what I don't get. Are tiny minor actions somehow what makes you "you"? Imo your values and beliefs are far more important.
And how can you say noone wants to build anything together when you don't want to compromise even a little? I'm sure you expect the other person to compromise for you in some ways

All I've ever wanted was to build a life with someone and do everything together but that's less realistic than ever.