This woman ive been hanging out with for the last 6 months finally gave me her answer today after refusing to give me a yes or no since november. She admitted she doesnt think shes ready for a relationship and shes worried that she`ll ruin her friendship with me if we start going out. She doesnt want to turn me down and admitted she doesnt want me to go looking elsewhere but doesnt feel like its fair to me to ask me to keep sticking around.

>>81687232 (OP)
The cuckzone

>>81687232 (OP)
Leave faster than the speed of light, for the love of god please do

>>81687232 (OP)
anything that isnt a hell yes is an extreme no. if you keep sticking around hoping to turn this no into a yes you'll never respect yourself again. you will spend decades pretending you do but your soul will know it. this one decision will make or break you. choose wisely. hint: choose yourself

>>81687232 (OP)
Haha you're a cuck. Hey yall look at the cucky cuck

>>81687232 (OP)
just let her go, man
whats the fucking point

>>81687239
>>81687253
>>81687440
I mean she aint fucking anyone else, part of the reason shes worried about things going bad with me is that im basically her only friend, shes practically a neet except that she shows up to university.
>>81687333
Its not a no, she does alot of things that dont really make sense if shes not interested, and even during this conversation she admitted that she wants me to wait for her but that she doesnt feel right asking for it. The main reason it took so long to get an answer is that she really doesnt want to reject me outright.
>>81687442
The point is i like her and she likes me its hard to move on when im not really interested in anyone else at the moment

I hate neurodivergent women so much it's unreal

>>81687667
Nigger she doesn't like you, she's just pathetic and lacks self esteem like all women do.
She would date you in a heartbeat if she wanted you. What she wants is for you to stay around and make her feel good about herself, to continue being friends and to receive that emotional validation.

Tell her to fuck off and get some friends. Life is too short to be bothered with people like this

>>81687667
>she likes me
If she liked you, she'd date you and not keep you around as her little attention farmer.

>>81687667
>The point is i like her and she likes me its hard to move on when im not really interested in anyone else at the moment
its a stalemate basically
someone has to make the first move whether they like it or not

theres a chance this might not go over well, but invite her over on a date but dont call it a date
ask her to hang-out and do something fun together

>>81687667
she's being cruel to you even if she doesn't realise it. you have to make it clear how this extreme indecision is affecting you.

>>81687692
If she wanted him she would have had an entirely different reaction.
He needs to stop trying

>>81687679
Because neurotypicals, who are literally what incels think women are, definitely are so much better.

>>81687719
love at first sight doesn't exist, anon - that's called lust
from OP's context, it's clear they both have feelings for one another, they're both just scared to shoot their shot

>>81687733
Yes, as an autistic man I would think that women on the spectrum are cure and derpy, but no, they're insufferable cunts just like 99% of other male sperglords.

>>81687733
Honestly? Sometimes.
I have dealt with both and right now I am dealing with a bitch who is histrionic and ocd with a shit ton of trauma and it's kinda hellish compared to when I was dating Stacey's.
They were high maintenance and shallow but at least I knew what to expect and didn't walk on eggshells

>>81687679
unfortunately i kind of have a thing for them. Normie women are kind of boring and lack interests and girls like this one hang out and play video games with me and go on rants about hating DEI
>>81687685
I think its a bit of both to be honest, she for sure wants the validation and has all sorts of self worth issues, but she shows interest in other ways as well. She goes out of her way to make sure im doing alright when she thinks im upset and leaves me be if i tell her i need some time to myself even if she wants to hang out.
>>81687689
Shes just comfortable with how things are and doesnt want to rock the boat basically, shes had a ton of bad relationships and shes scared to get into a new one.
>>81687692
>invite her over on a date but dont call it a date
I invited her on a date back in january, she aggreed to go on it but we couldnt ever find anything worth doing and then we both got busy. About 2 months ago she invited me to go to a concert with her and so me and her kind of had a date then, I figured she didnt realise how it came accross and that was confirmed when we met up and she explained that she was surprised her parents kept calling it a date. We both had a pretty good time but she for sure doesnt realise that it basically was one.
>>81687694
Yeah i said as much to her which is why ive gotten a definitive answer now, although desu i knew this was the situation months ago she just wouldnt say it because shes scared of any answer changing things.

>>81687753
>love at first sight doesn't exist, anon - that's called lust
it does. happened to me but i was like 14 at the time

>>81687769
it might just be called lust if racism needs to exist

>>81687753
I'm not saying it does. She doesn't want to ruin a friendship? That's called an excuse, or a get out of jail free card. He needs to lose her, quick

>>81687767
>go on rants about hating DEI
Lucky. My mentally ill girl is a radfem who lectures me whenever I say a slur. I might hate them less if she was like yours

>>81687232 (OP)
shes abusing you and boosting her ego by keeping you in the orbiter zone. You arent her friend youre an emotional wet towelette to be tossed aside every day. Stop simping and look for a girlfriend somewhere else

>>81687232 (OP)
>Fell for the it's not you it's me
>Fell for the "I'm just not ready for a relationship"
>Fell for the "but we're just such good friends"

read everything you typed out loud

>>81687767
> I think its a bit of both to be honest
No stop being a fucking simp

>>81687767
Give her an ultimatum. Invite her on a date, call it what it is, and if she gets flakey or weird about it call her out and stop taking to her.

You're gonna have to have this conversation rather than tiptoeing around her manipulative shit forever

>>81687767
>she was surprised her parents kept calling it a date.
"it seems like we've both got autism, haven't we?"

>>81687775
idk about you man but i'm staying hopeful for OP
>it works out - OP gets a gf
>it doesn't - OP learns from his mistake and decides to leave her
win-win imo

>>81687232 (OP)
lets be honest. think objectively. if you saw another anon make this exact post you'd know the answer. you just think your situation is special for some reason. when a woman is into you you 100% know and dont have to force anything

>>81687845
what is life like when you know women don't want to suck your dick all day?

>>81687775
>>81687793
>>81687802
Ive been with far worse women who have been far more manipulative and used me for their own gratification. This girl is genuinely just an idiot.
>>81687783
Shes more right wing than I am desu. She has genuinely told me before she would give her rights back up if she could be a stay at home wife without worring about finances.
>>81687803
I call her out on her bullshit all the time and set boundries with her. I give her alot of leeway because shes younger and tistic but i dont let her do whatever she wants. If shes being a pain i call her out on it which is exactly how i got an answer in the first place.

4chan keeps picking this post up as spam for some reason so im splitting the post in 2

>>81687907
part 2

>>81687809
Yeah ive thought about it but trying to force a relationship when she isnt ready probably wouldnt work out in the long term anyway.

>>81687828
Honestly i think my plan is just to keep friends with her and start looking elsewhere, if she changes her mind then we can go somewhere with it if she doesnt then i havent wasted my time. Im mostly just unsure how she would react because desu i dont think it would go over well, and im not sure id end up being into anyone else atm anyway.

>>81687845
maybe im too lost in the sauce but im not sure what i would say to said anon desu

>>81687914
If she's too much of an autistic retard, do you see yourself with her in a year? How about 5? I don't know how old you are but man, I used to do exactly what you're doing so much, got hurt so often and I don't like to see other people doing this

Like some other anon said, imagine being an outsider to this situation and what advice you would give

>>81687942
Im not really sure how long it would take her, i kinda expected she would be ready by now. I could honestly see myself with her tommorrow if she wanted to be. Whenever she wants to do something im the first person she thinks of, if shes upset she comes to me first, she talks to me about all sorts of things shes not comfortable talking to anyone else about, she gets annoyed if im too busy or dont feel like spending time with her, she hates seeing me upset and tries her best to make sure im okay, she calls me pet names all the time. She doesnt want me to be with someone else, but also doesnt expect me to stick around. She doesnt want to reject me but has openly and quickly rejected like 3 or 4 other people ive seen hit on her. She likes our relationship as it is and that basically already involves us going on dates or spending a ton of alone time together. She pushes me to do my best and gets annoyed when I dont stand up for myself. She obviously likes me shes just being weird about it.

If you were attractive she wouldn't give that shitty answer. Would you think she would say the same to young Brad Pitt to lock him down or fumble like this?

>>81687232 (OP)
Wow you aren't dating ten chicks at once? You know she's seeing ten guys and many are blowing her out as we speak right...?

>>81687239
Doh!
/Org

>>81687232 (OP)
>hanging out with for the last 6 months
People often know within 6 seconds.

>>81688059
>She obviously likes me shes just being weird about it.
She's probably not going to get better anon. Just bite the bullet and move on. This is costing you time and emotional investment, you won't ever get those back.

>>81687667
Then shut the fuck up enjoy your pussy bullshit and get off my board.

Only real answer is to drop that time wasting shit. Just a huge red flag. "Oh no I like her so I'm going to stay. Didn't actually want help with this problem at all."

>>81687232 (OP)
>Waiting 6 months for that answer
Learn to jump ship earlier.

>>81688059
Ah inexperienced men making up bullshit to cope. It's not getting better. She is not attracted to you. She just wants that boyfriend energy without commiting to you.

Do you guys ever wonder how many guys waste their prime by being lead on by foids? It should be a crime desu. Imagine if another 6 months go by and OP goes bald and no one wants him anymore

>>81687232 (OP)
>and admitted she doesnt want me to go looking elsewhere
Lol. Lmao even.

>>81687767
>shes had a ton of bad relationships and shes scared to get into a new one.
Oh no it's just bait

>>81687767
>shes had a ton of bad relationships
bro just leave her please
stop doing this shit to yourself

It's not like I don't understand what your saying guys, and yeah I am going to start looking elsewhere, it just sucks because I know she's not being intentionally malicious about it and genuinely likes me. I just want to vent that she's being so unreasonable about it I guess. In an ideal world she'd either have turned me down earlier on, or actually given me a shot, but she's just too lonely to risk losing me I guess. Honestly she kind of has now anyway because I for sure won't be putting up with her shit as much anymore.

>>81689214
It takes 2 people to be led on. If you don't respect yourself enough to allow yourself to be led on, you're partially causing it. A bitch can't forcefully lead you on.

>>81687232 (OP)
Shes ruining your friendship by NOT going out with you, ditch her ass

>>81687232 (OP)
dont join her harem man have some self respect

>>81691335
men just keep falling for it

>>81687232 (OP)
>she doesnt want me to go looking elsewhere
So do that

>6 months
It's over

Ask her what can you do to improve

>>81687232 (OP)
If you aren't 16 years old then you deserve what's coming to you dude.

>>81687232 (OP)
This is pathetic. Please have some self respect dude.

>>81687775
What are you talking about? The friendship is clearly fucking ruined already it's not a friendship at all honestly. It's a parasitic relationship. she feeds off your validation and you just become more of a husk loser than you already are. You're clearly in mental anguish and too stupid to fucking realize it. I honestly hope both of you kill yourselves.

>>81689337
This is the perfect picture to explain OPs situation lmfao.

>>81691286
If she genuinely liked you she wouldn't make you feel this way. Simple as. Go be a fuck ass retard somewhere else dude honestly leave r9K get the fuck out of here