Thread 81703687

This is a genuine cry for help how to get a gf as an autistic man. No being tall and white does not help.

You are more or less fucked unless you are fine being with an exchange girl who barely speaks English and is mostly using you for a work visa.

>>81703687 (OP)
Why would you ask this shitty board?
Also "protip: be yourself" is good advice, but you need to consider it against the background of what women find attractive. Women desire security.

>>81703716
I am not from an english speaking country and I don't want to be used like that.

>>81703736
"Be yourself" never worked for me. What do you mean with security? I have a job.

>>81703687 (OP)
If being tall doesn't save you and you can't even jbw maxx with ethnic hoes, it's gonna be impossible

>>81703776
Women don't care about height. I don't know what I do wrong. I hate being autistic.

>>81703687 (OP)
How tall are you? If you are really tall you should learn that girls coom their panties when you stand next to them

>>81703799
Just tall as in 189cm (6'2) not super tall. Also girls don't do that.

>>81703687 (OP)
If I could give you a gf I would, but I haven't even had a gf myself and I'm tall as well

>>81703687 (OP)
I believe you. You have to be autistic to ask r9k for dating advice

>>81703832
That would be too much you have to think about you first. Also you can't just gift gfs this is not how it works. She has to love me as well.
>>81703848
I don't know where else to go. I know I am stupid for that.

>>81703825
Not quite tall enough for instant female orgasm but definitely a good trait nontheless. Could you say which general area you live in (germanics, balkans, etc)

>>81703881
Central europe, germany to be exact. Again women don't care about height.

>>81703687 (OP)
If you are tall and white all you have to do is be skinny and have a trendy hairstyle. Put your height in your bio and wait for non-white females to like you on Tinder. I suggest waiting until you get a lot of likes then buying Tinder Gold so you can see who liked you.

>>81703687 (OP)
Be masculine
Be smart (ladies love men who read)
Be stylish
Be charismatic (present, aware, awake)
Be healthy
Be humble
Be sociable
Be a man

>>81703919
I am working on getting skinny, still have some fat. What do you mean with trendy hairstyle?
I get zero likes on tinder, but I don't have my height on my bio just on somewhere else there. I doubt that will work.

>>81703900
Being serious, attraction is just proximity + sometimes bossing her around. As a thought experiment, imagine you were stranded on a island with a woman your age, you two would obviously have sex before a month had passed

>>81703944
Explain all of that a bit more. I don' think I can be charismatic. I do read but mostly about history women don't like that.

>>81703948
So you mean I should go outside and try to meet women there?
Maybe but that will never happen.

>>81703966
If you have any friends, get very drunk with them and go to town

>>81703991
My only friend lives 300 km away and I don't drink alcohol. I would also not meet the type of woman I want who can be gfs.

>>81704011
Alcohol is usually necessary for germans/north europeans to get out of their shells so you might want to reconsider, although one should only drink socially. What type of girl do you want, describe her personality

>>81704058
It tastes bad and I don't want to lose control of myself. Also it is very unhealthy and will make you fat and stupid.
>What type of girl do you want, describe her personality
Shy autistic girl who is nice, has nerdy interests like me, is caring and sweet and grounded.

>>81704122
The girls you are describing are usually within female hobby spaces such as sewing, knitting and tend to act a bit older than their years, you can also find them in scouts organisations (they do all the work) but i assume youre a bit old for that. Try finding local facebook groups and doing a bit of stalking

>>81704196
It is super hard to find this type of girl I know that. Yeah I guess I am too old for that.
>Try finding local facebook groups and doing a bit of stalking
What do you mean by that. I don't have a facebook account. Do you mean I should make one and then try cold hitting on this girls? This will never work.

>>81704196
also, alcohol genuinly isnt that bad for you if you drink clear alcohol without too much sugar and no beer, also take a (i dont know the english word but) rehydration pill before you go to sleep

>>81704219
I mean that you can identify girls in your area and your age that are somewhat suitable partners, hitting on them online is a bit iffy

>>81704229
So you are saying I should force myself to drink something that I don't like just to get into a state where my inhibition is lower to get a gf? Listen I will only meet girls there who want to that every single week or so, I don't want that at all.
>also take a (i dont know the english word but) rehydration pill before you go to sleep
I know what you mean. Also it is fucking bad will look old af by drinking alcohol. It is a stupid normalfag drug.

>>81704219
Also try finding local art events/constellations, by art i mean stereotypical female hobby things like earlier stated knitting and sewing, check if there are any women your age there

>>81704254
Oh okay, I am not sure if girls my age use facebook but what should I do once I know that? Try and join somwhere where they go or what?

>>81704280
And then cold approach them? I guess I have to do that but that sounds so scary. I am not into and knitting and sewing myself. Would that be bad because I don't share their interest.

>>81704292
If they post, butter them up in the comments, everyone and especially women likes positive attention, also try to make them talk about their hobby or other things, people like talking about themselves

>>81704310
None of the rich fucks buying paintings for millions can paint, the artist and art community in general loves having them around as they give attention and prestige to them, you cant give prestige but your attention will probably be appreciated

>>81704330
Hahah now you are telling me I should be a comment guy? Listen even I know that won't work ever. I already try that when I get the chance to talk with a woman but they usualy don't want to talk with me.
>>81704343
Are you sure? I guess I can try at least thanks.

>>81704369
Another option would be to read a couple of female romance novels and try to imitate (within reason) the behavior of the male lead, then approach the frizzy hair acne girl at the bookstore

>>81704424
I am terrible at acting, I have the feeling you are starting to pull stuff out of your ass by now. I mean I appreciate everything you post but I am not 100 % sure if that will even work. I would simply fake my personality in that case.

>>81704451
The only way i've gotten close to getting laid was through alcohol but you discarded that idea, then i thought about a girl i knew like you described and described how one would reach her, at this point my recommendations are just cuz i've seen (on youtube shorts) some girls talk about standing around in bookstores to be approached.

>>81704493
Sorry about that I know I am not easy but alcohol is something I simply can't do. I try some of the things you said and will report back after some time. Might take me some months because I am very bad socially.
>cuz i've seen (on youtube shorts) some girls talk about standing around in bookstores to be approached.
That is simply content slop nothing more. It is like when onlyfans girls post how they care so much about men.

>>81704535
Maybe it is just content slop, altough one last thing i want to tell you. When women complain about being asked out or men being creepy she is almost exclusively talking about men 20+ years older than her. If you are the same age and ethnicity as her you can get away with almost anything, if she recognizes you from somewhere even better.

>>81703687 (OP)
Be realistic with what you can achieve. If you're an autistic manlet, the best you can probably get is a chubby or obese woman. If you're a 3/10, why do you think you are gonna get a 6/10?

>>81703687 (OP)
try being tall and black...and also less of a whiny faggot.

>>81703687 (OP)
It sounds like your problem is social skills. You need to find ways to practice them as your social software is bugged out or not installed. I know that some places have classes for autists to learn social skills and emotional reading but I have no idea how to go about getting into one. I can provide these tips on reading people though.
Focus on the eyes, mouth, and eyebrows. If someone is getting excited their voice will change pitch a little, their eyes will widen slightly, and their pupils will dilate (get bigger). The wide eyes and pupils can also be a sign of nervousness, fear, aggression, or panic so you also need to view their body. If someone is angry their eyes will narrow.
An excited person will face you squarely and keep their arms and legs open. They may cross their feet but the knees and elbows are the important joints to notice. A nervous or panicked person will become still and tense, like they are either freezing up or getting ready to fight, and they will tend to take a bladed stance and show their sides rather than their chest or back.
Furrowed eyebrows can mean either they are thinking or they are angry. Neutral eyebrows are a sign of pleasantness. Lifted eyebrows are either fear or surprise.
Hope this helps and good luck OP.

>>81704594
Okay I try to keep that in my mind.
>>81704606
I am not a manlet. I have no idea if I look good or bad. I think at least average? I would be fine with a 4/10 as long as she is not fat. She should just share some of my hobbies and like me.

>>81704646
I don't know either, I mean I can talk just fine with people, at least I think so. Just not asking out girls.
That is too much I even have problems to concentrate on what to say, I can't focus on this details.

>>81704701
You don't need to understand it all at once. Break it down into smaller steps and practice one at a time. Start with eyes, then mouth, then body, etc. Don't worry about what you are going to say, just listen to them and then you can respond when they are done speaking.
If your only problem is dealing with girls then you are probably nervous and inexperienced. Unfortunately all you can do here is practice. Just talk to a lot of people, men and women, and you will start to improve. Worst case scenario just tell them you are an autist and are practicing your social skills; most people will be fine with that.

>>81704777
No I already have to think what to say when they talk. Otherwise it will take too long for me to respond or I won't be able to say much.
Okay I can try that but it is very uncomfy, but I guess it is what I have to do. Wish I could just find a girl who is fine with me right now but I know this is just a illusion. Also cute cat. I like the neck thing a lot.

>>81703687 (OP)
>genuine
ask your therapist who has a monetary incentive to help you succeed. nothing you read here has skin in the game to help you

>>81704915
Wrong. Op is White, I'm White. Simple as.

>>81704902
Not saying much is okay. If you are tall, White and good looking or at least average you can come off as cool and mysterious. Taking some time to respond can also be good as you will seem intense and serious. Remember that not everyone will like you, everyone has enemies and rejection is part of the game. The game really sucks right now but we have to work together to improve it. Everyone has a part to play, even you OP.

>>81704915
I don't have one atm. Also I doubt a therapist could give me good advice with that.
>>81704977
>>81704977
But don't you have to say stuff to form a connection? And don't you need a connection to get close to a girl so she will become your gf? This is all very complicated for me.
>Taking some time to respond can also be good as you will seem intense and serious
I am not sure I always get very nervous when they look at me while I think what to say.
I wish I had someone who would kick my ass and force me because I am already getting afraid just thinking of doing that.
Saved the apu with the cat such a cute pic. I love apu so much he is just like me.

>>81705048
You don't need to make that connection right away unless it is a chance encounter ie: you probably won't see her again. If that is the case just ask for her contact info, snapchat works best I've found. If you are in a common environment like school, work, or regulars at the same places you can take your time to build that connection. Don't be down on yourself, Anon. I know this is confusing but doubt is the first part of defeat.