Thread 81713737

I feel like my relationship with my r9k femboy bf is crumbling. We don't do much together anymore, I don't feel loved anymore, affection is almost non-existent, every encounter always is arguing. It feels like we're just holding on because having "something" is better than nothing, but honestly most of the time now I feel just as lonely and depressed as I was when single. I'm reverting back to being completely apathetic and chronically depressed. It feels really really bad.

>>81713737 (OP)
Why don't you try a twink bf instead? i.e. me

I had this exact situation with my ex and she cheated on me

sometimes, i feel worse than if i was all alone. it feels like i am limited to the amount of agency i have in my own life because part of my energy is dedicated to being there for my partner. i feel like if i don't answer a message, it's like i'm throwing the entire relationship away. this means i can't have my own life and develop who i am. i am just an extension of them.

>>81713796
Do you live in Europe? Are you monogamous? Are your standards low enough to go for a manlet neckbeard? I don't have any positives besides being loyal and honest and having some spending money to simp my partner with. I'm not one of those normies who pretend to be maladjusted, I'm a genuine loser. That limits my dating pool a lot, I'm bottom of the barrel.
>>81713801
Being cheated on is my greatest fear. Especially since he's hypersexual and much more social than me. I know I don't have anything to offer and that he's just putting up with me. He could realistically do it anytime. He makes suggestive comments about others constantly in my presence - I try to ignore it and not be insecure, but honestly it hurts every time.
>>81713910
If only the effort was worth it, you know? Like, why am I being rejected and argued with almost every time I try to spend time with you? Aren't we supposed to love each other? I thought we cared about each other. I just want to love you and be loved and make each other happy and comfortable... oh man. It hurts.

>>81714058
How can you be such a loser yet have a femboy bf? I still can't get one cause they have such high standards

>>81713737 (OP)
>Posts on 4chan about it instead of communicating
Why haven't you spoken to him about it?

>>81713737 (OP)
are you two ldr?

>>81714058
>He makes suggestive comments about others constantly in my presence
Not worth it

>>81714058
>He makes suggestive comments about others constantly in my presence - I try to ignore it and not be insecure, but honestly it hurts every time.
Anon break up with him, he does not love you. Attraction to other people doesn't suddenly cease when you're in a relationship, but people who are in love with each other aren't gonna be imagining fucking other attractive people they see and certainly aren't going to vocally express how attracted they are to them.

>>81714105
I just got very lucky replying to one of his threads on here.
>>81714111
trips checked. I have talked about our issues for months, but there's never been improvement, just the same, slow decline.
>>81714148
Kind of. There's some distance, but we still live close enough to spend half of our time with each other.
>>81714186
>>81714208
It's a pathological quirk of his hypersexuality. I resigned and mostly accepted it by now.

>>81714289
>It's a pathological quirk of his hypersexuality
I understand you're lonely but that's very clearly bullshit. Stop settling for someone who obviously doesn't even like you.

>>81714289
Have you tried couples therapy?

Try breeding him desu

I NEED TIMESCALES

>>81713737 (OP)
how long has it been going?
>>81713801
how long did it last before that happened?

oh, my favorite show, "Narcissist/Avoidant abuse of a BPD/Anxious C-PTSD terminal victim"

you see another post like this every day on r9k and yet it never slows down, it's like the moment the love bombing starts you fold like a wet paper towel... have an ounce of self respect