Thread 81714483

I'm 29 years old. I feel like I'm 19 mentally. It's a very strange feeling. Being a manchild gets stranger and stranger as you get older and everybody else becomes more of an adult. The thing is, I don't even want to grow up.

im 19 and im 100% sure this is going to be me in 10 years

>>81714507
I have no advice for you, because I don't even really want to be an adult. Seems like it sucks but there's no resisting aging. Enjoy your youth anon, I didn't.

>>81714483 (OP)
>>short stature
>>I'll be older than you look
>>virgin (?)

Literally me.

>>81714483 (OP)
I never got this. I'm 26 and I feel 26. I've never not felt my age. And I say this as an anime obsessed gooner alcoholic sleazebag who's never had a gf. I still feel more mature than at least half the people around me. Maybe try to find some purpose in life, OP.

>>81715320
>>To be 19 is to be an otaku, virgin and foolish, believe me bro

>>81715376
What exactly are you trying to communicate here

>>81714483 (OP)
Yeah, same. And why the fuck would anyone ever want to be an "adult"?

>>81715409
I thought it was clear

>>81715287
>>81715376
I can tell this is the same anon in both posts. No, you are not clear in what you are attempting to convey. And I don't know why you are doing greentexts with double arrows.
>>81715411
Not that we get a choice, is it anon? If I could be an eternal teenager with only schoolwork and videogames to think of, I would. But attempting to act like that as you get older and older only gets exponentially more miserable.

>>81714483 (OP)
if you were thoroughly rational about it, you would fix it because they longer you take the more painful and destructive it will be; look at it like putting out a fire, you wouldnt just wait while your house is burning. this is undeniable.

>>81715651
>But attempting to act like that as you get older and older only gets exponentially more miserable.
lol
lmao
Look around you, dumbass. There's not a single boomer who isn't miserable.
They forgoed what they loved because society demand they "take responsibility".
And fair, in exchange they were given a social contract. A house. A wife. Kids.
You know what we get if we take responsibility? Absolutely fucking nothing.
So, no. I will work 24 hours a week and buy whatever escapism I can get my hands on.
And there's nothing anyone can do to stop me.

>>81715708
You aren't wrong. But there is still a middle ground I want to achieve. No, I don't want to be living in my parents house when I hit 40. I do want to at least experience romance. I do want to at least try and find a career that gives me some sort of purpose. I don't want to become a middle aged or old man and be sitting around playing videogames. Plus, there are practical considerations. Parents will die, state won't necessarily always be a reliable charity. I don't want to be homeless. I'm not aiming for boomer levels of servitude, but I want to try a little, because the alternative is bleak.

>>81714483 (OP)
>>81714507
I was mentally like 12 until I reached 25, 2 years later and I am much better. Stop eating garbage and start working out, put on some lean body weight, unironically the best advice i can give you. We are going to make it bros

>>81715320
What is your purpose then anon? Even when I have a purpose I still feel like a manchild. Mostly due to my inability to understand on a deeper level the motivations of adults or to even care about any of that stuff. Sometimes I try but I don't get far, and my understanding of the world rarely mirrors how people really think.

>>81715651
I wouldn't say that being a manchild is miserable relative to being an "adult" as long as you have things you enjoy doing (hobbies, interests, crafts, skills, not just consumerism btw). Modern adult life seems pretty soulless and draining. So much of it is about sacrificing ones own happiness to signal status to others. The only good thing I can think about it is having a family, which itself is difficult to maintain in the modern world, but at least it's worth it sometimes compared to all that other bullshit. There is also the social stigma of being a manchild of course, but that doesn't seem like a good enough reason to change.

>>81715698
There are a lot of things that keep me in my own little bubble. Social interaction is very difficult for me and is probably the main barrier to "growing up" for me. Also, whenever I try to interact with others I realize how unlike my world their world is. The nice ideas in my head about socializing go away as I realize the way other people socialize and see the world is not really how I do at all. Makes me feel bad, and I go back into my cave.

>>81715895
Thank you anon working out helps a lot for me too. But how do you start to enter back into society after years of "isolation" ?

>>81714483 (OP)
Being 23 I truly feel like covid stunted my adult development. I was a senior in 2020 and didn't get to do anything of the thing you are supposed to do (prom, graduation, etc) and got my diploma in the mail.
I didn't go to college because I thought the covid rules were retarded. Five years later I have a decent job with good pay but I still feel like that 17 year old that left for spring break then the world shut down and never went back to school.

>>81714483 (OP)
I will be 29 by the end of the month.

>>81715904
>What is your purpose then anon?
To live long enough to find a purpose. I know it sounds schizophrenic without context but it's a goal I'm genuinely working towards.
>understand on a deeper level the motivations of adults
Were you OP or were you the 19 year old? You're giving adults way too much credit. Most of them are genuinely not that bright and don't have any deeper meaning besides sex/status, which they eventually give up on in their 50s. You don't need to talk to a fucking dog to understand its motivations in live, and most people are like this. They aren't really even capable of developing any deeper meaning. It's sad, really, because in times of societal decline (like this), sex/status are widely unobtainable, which is why you see so many people dropping out of society. Of course, there are a lot of people who have genuine reasons to give up on live (e.g. horribly abusive parents, physical deformities, assorted trauma), but that is not my impression of most run-of-the-mill losers. Motivation requires the intelligence recognize the beauty around you, and most people don't do that.

I don't have any specific advice, but in general, I would recommend just doing something new or breaking your routine, as this may teach you something new about yourself. Interpret that however you want, it might be completely useless. It's what helped me, anyway.

>>81716668
Tell me, how does it feeeeeeheel?

>>81716851
I am OP. I'm happy for you, but I don't understand how this makes you feel like an adult? I too want to find a purpose, in fact I already have some idea of what I want to be my purposes to live. However, I still feel like a manchild. I recognize the beauty around me, although I could be more grateful for it as a lot of the time I spend depressed or ruminating on past traumas. Your advice is solid. But my "problem" isn't really that I'm depressed or sad or don't have anything going for me, it's that my motivations, habits and intuitive perception of the world is a very childish and naive one. It's very hard NOT to think that way especially when I dislike how most adults think and don't want to become like that.

>>81717843
>my motivations, habits and intuitive perception of the world is a very childish and naive one
Are they really?

>>81717935
I don't know. It feels that way. Other people treat me that way, sometimes.

>>81718081
Well, for the record, I've been socially isolated for years now. I don't know what people really think of my goals and I honestly don't really even care. I've seen people I love ruin their lives in the most stupid ways pursuing things that are "mature," and seeing people make the same mistakes over and over again has really just eviscerated any insecurity I have about my own personal goals. Maybe your family is more mature than my retarded family so you feel immature in comparison to them, I don't know. I get the feeling that people around me find me to be a deranged weirdo, so take whatever I say with a grain of salt I guess.

I wouldn't actually know what they think of me though since I don't really talk to them. It's not always a bad thing to feel immature, maybe that just means you're surrounded by high quality people and you should just keep learning from them.

>>81718136
How do you maintain your isolation, anon? I start to feel immature when I talk to anyone outside my family.

growing old just means taking some pride in yourself and what you do.

adulthood is just a concept.

>>81718383
I dunno about other jobs but I'm a researcher so I find it quite easy. My family's 2000 miles away, I'm in a city with no connections, I'm not friends with any of my coworkers, and I get paid like trash so I never even bother going out lest I spend $200 on a burger and 3 beers. Just be poor and have a job designed for autists and there's a high chance you stay autistic.

I would actually love to break my isolation and talk to people more. On the bright side though, the social withdrawal and meditative alone time have allowed me to consolidate my goals and beliefs, as we were discussing, I guess. Move somewhere where you don't know anyone if you really want to be alone, I guess. I'm not totally sure that will make you feel more mature though. It might though, what do I know.

>>81714483 (OP)
Is it Cute if ur a Girl

>>81714483 (OP)
Jesus christ you're old. Get your life in order before you end up like Chris-Chan.

>>81718441
That sounds comfy anon. I used to have a remote job, but I still had to deal with other people and it was difficult.

>>81718492
It's not possible for me to end up like CWC because I'm not egotistical enough to post any of my artwork online or care what people think about it lol.

>>81714483 (OP)
thas whats its gona feel like if u keep living the same life eveyday.
patice different routines maybe take drugs gets hospitalised for psyhcosis atempt suicide and fail and get hospitalise again Actualy nvm that will shave more year of ur life Yk what i mean do something That Psyhcocligcally affecs you. Memorable things, Like molesting a ch*ld, Or nvm u will get years shave off for that in jail..

Try mediiating and find a new sense of purpose with shrooms
the more u pull away From the mundane niger life the less yuoll feel attache to the ground and u will slowly ascend deeper into psychpsis
Actualy nevermind u Will Need hospitalise

Huhh,..

Ya idk

>>81714483 (OP)
>late 20s
>zoomette writes letter professing love for you
>feel flirty, realize it's all arrested development
>mfw

>>81714483 (OP)
Me at 19 but 16. I wish I could go back, I don't like anything in adulthood since I'm basically asexual. I just want to have fun

>>81714483 (OP)
Try being almost 39 and still feeling like a 19yo virgin, brah.
I'll never get over this arrested development. The ladder (to money and pussy) was pulled up 10-15 years ago and there's no hope left.

Jordan Peterson has good ideas on this. Growing up is sacrifice
1. to others, the community, your family, girlfriend etc
2. Sacrifice to some cause or occupation
So basically growing up is about sacrificing your time to some skill and other people and choosing a fate as well so you have to make your decision of what you want to do in life

>>81714483 (OP)
I know that feel, bro. I'm 33 and I still feel like a teenager. I'm an adult, I have a car and a job. I mentor younger coworkers. But I still feel like I'm the same ugly acne-ridden teenager I was 15-20 years ago. I think it's because I've never had a relationship. It's one of those milestones you need in your life.

>>81718952
Samesy