if im never going to find a guy with a personality i consider ideal (which means ill never truly love a man) isnt it better to just choose the richest and most generous guy whos into me? im talking with multiple guys rn and theyre all into me. i mean i could try to find a guy with a personality i like, but i end up stalking them and i find things theyve said that are immoral or questionable. it feels stupid to waste anymore time on it, its much easier for me to find extremely wealthy guys funnily enough lol

>>81717585 (OP)
>Personality
You means looks

>>81717585 (OP)
>im never going to find a guy with a personality i consider ideal
why do you think that and does their personality have to perfectly fit your ideal standards?

>>81717600
nah good looks are easy to find. it takes less than 1 seconds to determine if a guy has pretty looks
>>81717608
yeah i think its the only way i can truly fall in love with someone. most guys ive come across or simply observed have had pretty severe personality flaws i suppose.

>>81717585 (OP)
then what are you looking for in a man

Nope, it's better to find the one that ticks most boxes from your unrealistic ideal. Going with materialistic shit it's bound to feel hollow

>>81717585 (OP)
just have a genuine connection fucklord, your relationships will always be transactional bullshit elsewise.

>>81717689
>>81717740
but if i never find this, isn't it better to just go with someone to pacify my familys desire for me to get married years down the line? I've tried to form connections and it sort of works until they do or say something that ruins their character for me, and by that point I lose all feelings for them.

>>81717585 (OP)
>Lead on multiple people intentionally, compulsively stalk everyone and seriously consider gaslighting someone to get resources from them
>Ummmm... these guys like said something bad before so I can't love them... Ignore me doing much worse on active basis, I deserve love and money for nothing!
Just be honest, stop the bizarre "uh they're all evil actually so it's okay" cope and admit you're just a whore looking for free stuff.

>>81717833
you've never met wealthy guys I suppose? look man... if there are a group of people that love gold diggers, its rich men. look at the women they marry; they're all blatant gold diggers. the rich guys I've talked to (only revealed their family and personal wealth until after we got to know eachother) have told me they prefer women who "fit" their lifestyle. they look down on people who don't

>>81717864
look if you're ok with being cheated on and just want a provider then go for it. How old are you? If you're over 20 and you haven't felt a genuine connection by now then it's not gonna happen.

>>81717898
I mean sure he can cheat, I won't have feelings for him. I'll prolly cheat on him too. it'll be like a japanese marriage. I'm 18.5 so yeah

>>81717898
well, what's your criteria for a 'personality'?

what's wrong with loving someone just because he's rich and generous?

also, if you're just chasing a man, you're gonna get what you're chasing.

>>81717921
NTA but
>whats wrong with loving someone just because hes rich and generous
That isnt love. Thats just getting material things out of a person.

>>81717921
I mean I guess I have high standards for "love". I don't think you can love someone just for being rich.
it's hard to put my standards into words, but basically someone who doesn't do me wrong. no lying, no cheating attempts, no manipulation, no inconsistency, no contradictory behavior, no insults, acts mature (not to be confused with age, older men are often immature), transparent, respects me and my boundaries. I have usually dated guys with pure intentions until they started acting manipulative or I caught them in a lie and many other things. then I lost interest and walked away
>>81717942
hey thats what I was gonna say!

>>81717908
don't date a rich guy at 18.5 jesus you're gonna get turned out, it wont be like your fantasies. it's work and ultimately you'll have nothing for it but a few nice bags and some lingerie

>>81717585 (OP)
wtf lmao I was about to make the same thread
I have the same problem. Im talking with 2 guys I met online, both are pretty, sweet, homeowners, good families. The problem is that both are beyond unambitious. Their hobbies suck. Their life-plans suck. I keep comparing them to my ex who wasnt hot or tall by any standards but was interesting to talk to, had an iron will and the desire to eat the world.
How and where do I meet ambitious men?

>>81718010
one of the rich guy I'm talking to right now doesn't want to have sex until marriage bc he's Christian. so no lingerie (not that I'd care). he's also around my age but his dad owns a successful business

>>81718022
hmm maybe guys in the legal or medical field? a lot of lawyers dream of becoming the president and such lmao. good luck nona

>>81718042
For any nonas reading: never date a doctor
They have the highest rate of cheating of all professionals. Bad hours. God complex. Literally no upsides about it

>>81718033
why is this starting to feel like a bait thread

>>81718060
Idk man, I work in the airline industry and have never met a faithful pilot. Gonna say those guys are more unfaithful than doctors.

>>81718080
>>81718060
I've read that pilots are known for being unfaithful yeah. I wouldn't trust male nurses either. it's cool you work in the airline industry

>>81718075
I'm not, you can find this type of guy in rich, right-leaning/religious places lol

>>81718022
im right here bro hi

>>81718075
this is a bait thread
trash thread no one respond beyond my post or ill use guerilla warfare to derail it

>>81718086
Thanks, man. Its kind of a cool field. The corporate push to make every aspect of it shitty is the only real major downside of it. But yeah my friend is a nurse and she says all the nurses, male and female, are fucking around and they treat her weirdly because she actually wont cheat on her bf. Cheaters confuse me. I dont get it.

>>81718103
wtf I thought all women were whores or some shit according to incels and when I blatantly state I'm considering marrying a guy solely for money and family acceptance it's suddenly bait? what

>>81718102
I dont believe you. Terminally online men are the opposite of ambitious

>>81718130
it's just that I have actual experience with women and they tell me the landscape is nothing like this. They're all beautiful but admitingly autistic. I mean i assume you're all fucked up too or you wouldn't be seeking advice from here

>>81718104
Nurses are a ball of cotton sugar, glitter and puppies or deranged sexpests no in-between

>>81718201
>the landscape is nothing like this
bro what landscape? even my hairdresser complains about her boyfriends my older sister friends complains too. I only know like one woman who managed to get a guy she has no problems with and she's fat LMAO. most women seem to put up with bad treatment and complain endlessly to their friends

>>81718226
I'm talking about this
>>81718033

>>81718226
If she doesnt complain then shes scared of him, he beats her
Unironically

>>81718240
nah, they exist in more conservative but rich places

>>81718249
he seems like a massive simp and quite submissive towards her and she complains abt most other things so idk. so sad more men aren't at that level of simp

>>81718271
what conservative rich place is an 18 year old girl really gonna be hanging out in. are you 100 percent you're not just getting groomed by story spinners on discord or twitter

>>81718284
I found him specifically at college. but honestly you can find these men in fuxking south Florida. go golfing and hit on the younger guys with their dads if they're well dressed

>>81718318
>hitting on people in front of their dads
damn I'm not worried anymore, you must be completely dead inside fearless foid.

>>81718378
I haven't done this but hey its a good strategy. rich guys always go golfing lol. don't hate the player hate the game. I've gone top golf with the family of the guy I talked about too kek

>>81717585 (OP)
Well you're going to be alone forever. Everyone has toxic personality flaws

>>81717585 (OP)
you're not pretty enough to lockdown a wealthy man

>>81718550
desu rich men usually date more attractive women than the one they marry, and I've dated quite a bit without any problems. they usually tell me I'm extremely beautiful and give me gifts
>>81718522
well singledom isn't rlly an option here lol. it's more like I'll just go with the most generous guy who's pursuing me seriously

>>81717800
If you never find this the problem is your mindset and you're bound to be unhappy with whoever you pick, you will be prey or whatever rich guy wants to buy you until you fix that

>>81718611
I won't be unhappy if I date for money and get money though. I'm not even unhappy rn lol

>>81718630
Just date the most pathetic simp you can then. I'd judge you, but I'm dating my GF who I don't like because she's into me and gives me sex so whatever

>>81718651
yeah exactly. we aren't so different you and I. I wonder if many guys have your mindset. what makes you dislike ur gf?

>>81717585 (OP)
>>81718022
get a job bitch

>>81718678
She's just a bitch, a difficult person who likes to fight and argue over nothing, and gets cold over perceived slights to her ego for weeks.

I can't be bothered with it, I just tell her to fuck off when she's being like this, but it's less lonely then being single

>>81717585 (OP)
You can shape this sea monkey to your ideal personality but do you have a great personality

test
**spoiler**