How do you guys deal with having fucked up fetishes?

>>81756168 (OP)
I embrace them and refuse to feel shame for them.

>>81756168 (OP)
My guy Jesus

>>81756168 (OP)
well, as long as they stay as fantasies and you dont realize them then its all good

>>81756168 (OP)
I'm an incel anyways so it's the least of my concerns how unrealistic or weird mine are.

I'm not really ashamed and frankly find fun in drawing, writing and ERP bizarre fetish nonsense scenarios.
I'm just disappointed I'll never have a partner who also has weird fetishes, doesn't have to be the same as mine.
But I'll never have a parnet anyway so whatever.

>>81756168 (OP)
I never have a gf anyway so who cares. Also I don't think a woman would want to do the things I am into.

>>81756168 (OP)
Depends on the fucked up fetish. If it's something weird as fuck but doesn't hurt anybody > stop giving a shit and just be weird as fuck.
If it's something that requires harming others > do everything in your power to ensure these fantasies remain purely fantasies, don't beat yourself up for feeling the way you feel and contrary to your intuition, try to indulge in those fantasies in harmless ways via roleplay or whatever else instead of repressing them entirely or trying to simply lose interest in them. Also therapy.

>>81756168 (OP)
If I say that I like to see hot girls being raped or gang-raped, is that a fetish?

>>81756269
>requires harming others
It does, unfortunately. I'm not at risk of acting on it or anything but it still makes me feel awful. I have a therapist but I would never want to bring up the topic with her. I don't think that it'd go very well.

>>81756359
Well as long as you're not at risk of harming others there's no reason to feel terrible. Thoughts are just thoughts, your job is to ensure that they stay just thoughts and remain ultimately inconsequential. Which it appears you're doing quite well. So just focus on not feeling so much shame regarding the fetish.

You know you're anonymous here right? You can say what the fetish is.

>>81756168 (OP)
Honestly I just try to keep it a fantasy.
I have a sexual disorder, meaning my sexual fantasies are not always good or legal, coupled with intrusive thoughts it doesnt make the most comforting combo.
When I was a teen it did not really impact me, because anything and everything made me horny, but now I catch myself being unable to finish unless I am thinking about something bad.
Thinking about going to therapy before it gets any worse, but I am so nervous a therapist will rat me out because of fucking health and safety or some shit and I would become unemployable.

>>81756406
>now I catch myself being unable to finish unless I am thinking about something bad.
Yeah same. The older I get the harder it is to get off to anything normal. I'd like to talk to a therapist too but I don't think I could handle really talking about it.

>>81756168 (OP)
have you tried not watching porn

>>81756168 (OP)
It's okay, she'll tolerate it :3

>>81756514
Yeah but it doesn't go away. Pretty sure I was like this before I even found porn.

>>81756496
I get it dude, and I honestly feel like we are talking about the same thing. Trying to get over it yourself is fuckin hard, and takes a crazy amount of willpower.
Honestly my best workaround has been just not doing anything sexual, but my repression still puts me in awkward scenarios where Im delaying the inevitable.