>borderline insane neet
>come from rich family
>everybody moved all over the place and lives off their money
>im constantly getting flown aroudn from place to place and spending time with different parts of my family
>meeting extented relatives i dont really know and having to hug them and not being able to remember their names
>going to fancy restaurants and talking about how their daughter in law ive never met is moving to a new place
>family has split up from one another and are all vying for my approval as like the "innocent one" in the family
>sorta getting burned out and wanna live my own life but i've been a total failure in my responsibilities and dont deserve to ask for that
>can't find a job and the gap in my resume looks terrible now; no work experience out of college
it feels like such a schizo experience. i know my life is extremely privileged compared to other people but I don't even know how to navigate this situation. my grandpa died and owned multiple houses and i got offered to live in one of the houses but then id have to be closer to family and have obligations towards them but im with my mom and spending all my time with her now. things were a lot easier when the family was together but now my parents are divorced and my brother is estranged and my grandpa is widowed and im having to juggle so many people in my family that dont get along anymore.
i feel like a character from a victorian novel and i just want a chill loser nerd life. had to stop playing final fantasy cause couldnt do my weeklies and stuff

>>81775417 (OP)
well i got a mexican father who ruins his kids life, an abusive brother and two whore sisters.
i do increasingly desperate shit for moeny. if you ever kill yourself for some stupid reason you should give me all your money before you die.

>>81775663
i dont have the money myself im just a freeloader
im not going to kill myself but if i had money i probably would

>>81775417 (OP)
op we should date i think

>>81775417 (OP)
similar
you should get your own place and learn a few crafts, like woodworking, basic electrics and soldering, and something that gets you outside (I'm learning bushcraft). not trades per se bc you may just inherit enough money, but sth to develop yourself and relate to "poor" a.k.a median people with.

>>81775695
thats probably a good idea. i just like study history and science and read in my free time and write a book and i feel like such a tool for not overcoming the laziness.
working with my hands gets boring and i have a hard time keeping it up for more than a couple minutes and i realize how obnoxious it is to be like oh we can let the servants do it for some money but im legit just incompetent

>>81775417 (OP)
be grateful for what you have OP you have no idea how good you have it

>>81775769
i think i do have an idea how good i have it. thats why i feel so undeserving and gross for accepting hospitality in exchange for constantly showing affection like a validation prostitute. im like a house pet and life is so easy that i am totally insufficient as a person.

>>81775417 (OP)
>>come from rich family
Didn't read past it, you can't suffer.

>>81775719
>like study history and science and read in my free time and write a book
only covers the intellectual, not emotional capacity or physical
>oh we can let the servants do it for some money but im legit just incompetent
yeah that's isolating, that's why you have to pick something moderately physically involved and practical.
if you want to try woodcarving, all you need is a knife (just a pointy one to begin with, e.g. picrel) and then go outside and find a nice branch or twig.
>working with my hands gets boring
hmm idk how to put it but that means sth is wrong
there have to be physical, useful things of moderate intensity for you to learn to do.

>>81775814
>if you want to try woodcarving, all you need is a knife (just a pointy one to begin with, e.g. picrel) and then go outside and find a nice branch or twig.
i tried whittling and cut the edge of my finger off with the carving knife slicing off my skin. itd give my mom a heart attack to try again. i learned to play a song on the ukelele but id never perform to anyone because its too embarrassing.
>there have to be physical, useful things of moderate intensity for you to learn to do.
okay. i go for hikes in the forest but i probably need something productive. i suppose that i could try to spend more time landscaping the house. thanks for the advice

>>81775417 (OP)
This is the life of the average woman basically. It's like creative mode in Minecraft. You can't fail, there's no challenges, you just gotta entertain yourself.

>>81775842
huh. it'd be interesting to really know the lives of other people

>>81775417 (OP)
>>family has split up from one another and are all vying for my approval as like the "innocent one" in the family
Is your path not obvious, OP?

Your goal is to slowly, over time, get them to reconcile. If they actually value your opinion then start with at least being polite and finding some sort of common ground.

>>81775840
>itd give my mom a heart attack to try again
yeahhh well, maybe you *really* should then. then you'll at least have to parlay with your servants yourself, and not get FUD'd out of doing something with your life with your enabler mom.

>>81775894
>Your goal is to slowly, over time, get them to reconcile.
im trying but its hard. its like an insoluble situation
>i had a brother. when we were kids our parents drank a lot
>dad wasnt home because he was busy making money, drank all the time
>mom stayed home and drank in binges
>worse than dad and abused us
>her throat explodes and she almost dies
>gets Wenicke-lKorsakoff symptoms and forgets the time she spent binge drinking completely
>lotta bad memories get buried but my brother and i remember
>i forgave my mom and he hasnt really
>she ends up sobering up
>dad keeps drinking
>gets fired from 9 figure job because he was too much of an alcoholic
>refuses to quit alcohol
>mom gets sober and doesnt want him to drink
>he continues, and gets involved with the mafia and doing worse drugs
>ends up pulling a gun on my family and kicks my brother out of the house for taking the gun from him
>everyone moves apart from one another
>mom leaves dad, live apart for a long time and now divorcing
>brother will absolutely never forgive dad, dad also doesnt really care about apologizing compared to his pride
>forgive dad and keep trying to be there for him
>but different parts of the extended family have broken off into factions and im between all of them because didnt loosen my relationships with anyone
ive been trying to make everyone get along but i keep failing

>>81775927
>9-figure job
>involved with the mob
>factions within the family

>>81775902
i suppose so. im also just on the move all the time and my schedules are constantly overwritten with tea visits and dinner reservations like this summer its just all over the place. its like everything is so busy with the most empty sets of time

>>81775945
i know its really obnoxious at this point

>>81775946
yeah more distance would definitely be good. I'm vaguely acquainted with an older lady who came from such a family (like a big name family with old ties) and she's like a recluse living in a whole other continent now.
my family was a lite version of this but only when I was a lot younger, like around 10y/o. you need to have your own things.
personally I also study Buddhism and am trying for stream entry (the lowest level of being a "real Buddhist" and not just a fan / someone who read a book and donated a tenner to a shrine once) but such a thing may be yet more difficult to get off the ground than, basically, a practical hobby.

>>81775984
i dont really know how to do this though. like declining just makes me seem like a layabout freak. i cant really ask them to give me a break when im doing nothing and living from their hand
how's buddhism going? what inspired you along that path? i really like taoism and have read a lot but not a spiritual practicioner.

I suppose kevlar gloves could be helpful, there's gloves made to protect against minor cuts. I don't need them so I don't spend my money on them, and just had like 20 minor cuts in the first few months of learning to carve. but in your situation I might.

Portrait of a Lebanese Shia man during Ashura in Lebanon

>>81775992
one trick is to pick events / musea in other cities to visit / a book related to your hobby that can only be read on-site in a specific library.
this is a kinda fakery and costs money (obviously, just for transport alone) but it's a way to get out of the house for a day or two.
second is "everyday carry"-style craft materials, and fetch quests (e.g. with woodcarving, looking for stray wood in the neigborhood).

>>81775417 (OP)
>come from rich family
That's nice, anon. I wish come from a a rich family

>>81775995
oh and like, it "looks more legit". in reality it's over-done but it's a way to both signal "I'm serious and careful" and a bit of a way to peacock (brownie points, this cuts both ways).

>>81775995
oh that sounds super charming. ty for the rec. ill find that whittling kit
>>81776007
lebanon is an interesting place. very hard to get a hold on their culture.
>>81776013
ah i see. thats a good idea. i might go to the art exhibits when they come into town. maybe i can make some friends there as well. i keep striking up conversation with people and leaving without taking down their phone numbers

>>81775992
Buddhism is going alright, a mouse infiltrated my appartment and I haven't killed it yet. (this is in line with the most basic Buddhist precepts.)
I still kill flies lol.
I've a small library going and know a few cool Dhamma speakers, so I have something to listen to.
meditation isn't going fast but that's okay.
>>81776024
graag gedaan.
any empty pocket book is good as a contact book, that's an EDC thing too. I may do that myself, I have a small book for an agenda now but contacts in my phone, a book would be better...
also, workplaces. there's spaces where you can use a bunch of machines / have easy cleanup / knowledgable people around and do courses for a monthly fee. costs money but not much.

>>81776045
>Buddhism is going alright, a mouse infiltrated my appartment and I haven't killed it yet. (this is in line with the most basic Buddhist precepts.)
thats adorable. have you made friends with the mouse? theyre quite cute when you see them up close. theyre so much more delicate looking than rats.
carrying a notebook is a great idea, thanks. i live in the countryside so there arent really those things nearby. itd be a bit of a ride to go to one of those things.

>>81776024
as for a "whittling kit", you really only need one of the mora carving knives. from thereon you may notice that it's hard to carve hollow things, and then you can take your workpiece to a tool store (or maybe an art shop, but usually carving tools are at small tool stores) and look at the specialty carving tools.
picrel is the ones I have, they're enough to make tobacco pipes (minus drilling the stem).

>>81776069
thats interesting. i dont smoke so im not sure what id make. a whistle seems too difficult. what do you create with a whittling?

>>81775417 (OP)
I am in the same boat anon, just not as rich as you think but still wealthy. This is a position very few others could relate to and i know the guilt of feeling like a loser despite being privileged. I also assume you are fed up of the constant family drama and conflicts that come naturally with such amounts of wealth. I think you need some time to find out what you really want - for me it's stability and peace, i grew up with constant drama and am sick of it, you really get to see the ugliest parts of humanity when money is involved. I don't know what your goals are but maybe the best course of action would to just try and become independent by focusing on your career and live quietly. You probably know it better than me but showing off wealth never brings anything good. And try not to feel guilty for being privileged, just take it as it is without worrying too much about semantics and how you are perceived. Wish you all the best anon.

>>81776061
>have you made friends with the mouse?
no lol, there's a mouse infestation in my building so my landlord has been on my ass about it. I tried shooing it out the building but also put out live-capture traps.
>>81776076
a spoon, but that requires hollowing... I know, knitting needles and crochet hooks. beyond that... camping pegs, to fasten a tent to the ground. pegs for use in the garden, to label herbs.
a whistle isn't a bad idea.
also, some of your relatives may smoke.

>>81776104
>I know, knitting needles and crochet hooks
oh that could be a nice habit to pick up too! if i could make hats and socks and scarfs for my family

>>81776111
welll make the needles and hooks as a first project then :^) one thing at a time. maybe you have relatives that could teach you how to crochet or knit, or who'd be willing to critique the tools you made.

I'll drop a schizo buddhist video bc you probably don't come across this naturally and it's just some 12 minute thingy:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dGsEduacoGo

>>81776297
interesting vid
>>81776136
yeah i think i might ask around for a lesson. great idea