Anonymous
7/10/2025, 4:54:07 PM No.81778583
TLDR: Male solidarity and community is incredibly fragile yet strong at the same time. This is one of the reasons men today are miserable.
These are mostly my experiences. Sorry if this is worded poorly.
When it comes to solidarity, men have a problem with it until it's to put someone down or exclude them. I've watched guys come together, set aside their differences, just to make fun of or exclude another guy. Not to say that women don't do it too, but women, they have a basic "girl code". Watch out for each other, never date your friend's ex, never fight over boys, never leave another girl with a creep, in a room full of men, without a pad or tampon if you have one, the basics. But it's like men don't have that sort of code, it's every man for himself. Does guy code exist? Guys will make fun of their friends to the point it can't even be considered a joke anymore, put down their friends to impress girls, chase after their friend's girl whilst, or after they were dating, it's crazy to me.
I also notice that women have a stronger (?), or more uplifting community than men. What I mean is that, when a girl goes through something serious, maybe a breakup, her friends are there to cheer or support her. All it takes is one message to the group chat, and her friends are running to comfort her, tell her that he "Ain't shit" or "wasn't even all that", take her out to eat, to the club, you get the idea. But with men, you don't see the same behavior, why? Maybe a quick word of encouragement, but then nothing else.
This is one of the reasons why single women are happier than single men. Yes, it is easier for a woman to get into a relationship, but she still has community and support, friends who she can lean back on without the fear of them calling her "gay" or sensitive or whatever, and I think this is something men need to work on within themselves.
These are mostly my experiences. Sorry if this is worded poorly.
When it comes to solidarity, men have a problem with it until it's to put someone down or exclude them. I've watched guys come together, set aside their differences, just to make fun of or exclude another guy. Not to say that women don't do it too, but women, they have a basic "girl code". Watch out for each other, never date your friend's ex, never fight over boys, never leave another girl with a creep, in a room full of men, without a pad or tampon if you have one, the basics. But it's like men don't have that sort of code, it's every man for himself. Does guy code exist? Guys will make fun of their friends to the point it can't even be considered a joke anymore, put down their friends to impress girls, chase after their friend's girl whilst, or after they were dating, it's crazy to me.
I also notice that women have a stronger (?), or more uplifting community than men. What I mean is that, when a girl goes through something serious, maybe a breakup, her friends are there to cheer or support her. All it takes is one message to the group chat, and her friends are running to comfort her, tell her that he "Ain't shit" or "wasn't even all that", take her out to eat, to the club, you get the idea. But with men, you don't see the same behavior, why? Maybe a quick word of encouragement, but then nothing else.
This is one of the reasons why single women are happier than single men. Yes, it is easier for a woman to get into a relationship, but she still has community and support, friends who she can lean back on without the fear of them calling her "gay" or sensitive or whatever, and I think this is something men need to work on within themselves.
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