how do you get a gf as a cluster A

Try to be more outwardly kind. Say hi to people, make, ask to pet their dog or something like that. Tell them to have a nice day.
Just be kind and more open to social contact for a while and eventually some girl will notice your positive vibes. Then once youve reeled her in you dump all your trauma on her from being alone for so long.
You'll get to complain to someone who at least kinda cares. She'll likely be weirded out but now you know you're not hopeless and you dont have carry that weight of loneliness anymore

>>81829159
i am already quite kind
since i'm a ppl pleaser

>>81828746 (OP)
A coworker basically glombed onto my shit and kept asking to hang out all the time, and I told her I prefer being exclusively alone (kinda schizoid), but she kept pestering me for my dick so now we are in a "situationship" as the kids would call it

>>81829189
People pleaser is a passive coward role because you dont like confrontation. What im talking about is active kindness. Where you go out of your way to have a nice chat with someone that will brighten both your days

>>81829205
must be nice
people hate me irl

>>81829159
>youve reeled her in you dump all your trauma on her from being alone for so long.
can't tell if this is a joke or not
i'm always itching to do it

>>81828746 (OP)
Just as a helpful reference for anyone who isnt familiar with the lingo see pic.

>>81829159
what if she leaves

>>81829229
Don't be mean to people pleasers we have childhood trauma

>>81829159
>and eventually some girl will notice your positive vibes
How many years does this usually take because I've been waiting for this step for almost a decade

>>81829205
>glombed onto my shit
fuck a bitch that do this i'm tryna be alone fr