Thread 81832642

my bf is emotionally manipulating me and i am financially dependent on him.
Should i just start ripping of welfare and moving out instead?

>>81832642 (OP)
Let me guess, he wants you to put out?

>>81832659
Put out what?

>>81832642 (OP)
the "emotional manipulation" in question:
>he doesn't want you to go to parties and clubs and vacations by yourself
>he expects you to have sex with him

>>81832642 (OP)
>my bf is emotionally manipulating me
In foid language this translates to "he disagrees with me" and/or "he is setting clear boundaries and sticking to them"

a job. OP. what you need is a job.

>>81832642 (OP)
idk i stay in my room and dont talk to anyone but yeah you shouldn't sit around and be abused

maybe it's best to confide in a friend before packing it all up and leaving or maybe trying to communicate with your bf..... but if he's really a big abuser that could be an invitation for more abuse

i don't envy your position but idk maybe setting some boundaries is a good start

>>81832666
>>he doesn't want you to go to parties and clubs and vacations by yourself
I never did this in the first place
>he expects you to have sex with him
This is a common fighting matter though
>>81832671
no its rather he doesnt respect my boundaries i said i wanted to wait with sex till marriage.. this all feels like a big mistake desu i shouldnt have moved in with a man im not married to

>>81832642 (OP)
>my bf is emotionally manipulating me and i am financially dependent on him.
"emotionally manipulating" I'm sure all he did was disagree with you, Now you are crying and don't know how to act. And why are you here crying about your bf on the incel board? maybe be a good partner and talk to him you mentally ill whore.

>>81832642 (OP)
>>81832671
>my bf is emotionally manipulating me
"I don't want you doing stuff I'm not comfortable with" how terrible what a cruel manipulator POS he should sit by and have you go to nightclubs on a "girl's night out" and get fucked by random guys
>and i am financially dependent on him
GOOD. Women SHOULD be dependent on men. That's literally what being a housewife is, you stay at home and be a NEET in exchange for having his kids. Any relationship where the woman is an equal to a man is one where she walks all over him

>>81832684
Lmao so how are you crying about a male wanting sex? Why else would he want you as an girlfriend if I was him I would leave you. You are some wannabe femcel crying about a IRL bf. please kill yourself

>>81832684
>i said i wanted to wait with sex till marriage
are you religious and are you a virgin? if you're neither you're not worth waiting for

>>81832684
>i said i wanted to wait with sex till marriage.
what the fuck why do you retards believe in this christ cuckery when youre in r9k

>>81832664
Have sex esl-chan

>>81832681
im currently enrolled in university and no i am not studying muhh psychology bs subject
>>81832683
i have no friends well only one but she lives 6 drive hours away... talking about it with my bf would only cause more damage

>>81832684
>desu i shouldnt have moved in with a man im not married to

>>81832684
Living with someone full-time puts you in a marriage like relationship already.

>>81832686
i already talked with him ab it and he said i dont have the right to complain about anything since i live under his roof
>>81832688
yes he also said he expects me to carry his children but we are not married and he has no intend to
why pay for the cow when u get the milk for free
>>81832693
im not a femcel and never claimed so
>>81832694
i am religious but not a virgin anymore

>>81832730
yes but he can kick me to the curb anytime, and he also wants kids without being married and i can already see the misery thats gonna bring

>>81832698
>talking about it with my bf would only cause more damage
maybe... but maybe not and it's exactly what you need, depends if you see him as malicious and irredeemable or if you think he's salvageable, but maybe trying to fix him is toxic in its own right

relationships still aren't equal, and it's likely just normalized that ur bf controls you physically, mentally, financially, cuz thats how it was in the old days.... only thing that changed in modern times is women can make (more)money on their own now, but that doesn't apply to you, not yet at least

so yeah, you got options

>>81832742
>and he has no intend to
Then he's trash and you should leave him, and not be dependent on a man again. I will pray for you tonight regardless

>>81832763
God's totally gonna save this bait

>>81832757
i think what would definitely greatly benefit you is a support group of other 'housewives'
just a group you can bounce ideas off of and support one another as you all collectively get abused by your husbands to varying degrees because that's the way things are

being a NEET is a deal with tradeoffs at the end of the day, and he's not wrong for wanting some level of control for the work he puts in and what he brings to your relationship -- obviously this can be taken too far which you shouldn't put up with if it does, BUT empathy is a two-way street and you need to understand his perspective if you want him to understand yours

Find a job OP, or some sort of occupation. If you're not having children you should be doing something

>>81832757
if i started arguing with him he would kick me on the streets, i can only leave very quiet and perhaps if i found cheap gov housing we could start dating again perhaps but with respecting my boundaries
>>81832763
being 100% dependent on anyone even the gov is the worst
>>81832823
i understand that he wants some level of control but its going to far
>>81832890
im in university when im finished i have the opportunity to earn more then him if i wanted to

>>81832918
>im in university when im finished i have the opportunity to earn more then him if i wanted to
Then keep doing that and talk/solve your problems with him. We're not in your relationship

>>81832642 (OP)
How tall is your emotionally manipulating boyfriend?

>>81832942
i cant talk with him about it
>>81833040
5f8inch

>>81833069
>i cant talk with him about it
Sounds like that's the first thing you have to solve then

>>81833077
You arent the smartest under the sun huh
he will kick me out if i do

>>81833087
Then go back with your parents you dummy, or find a part time job and sustain yourself. How are you studying anyway if you're not workin

(You) are the one subjecting yourself to a shitty situation. If he's an abuser, then leave.

>>81832642 (OP)
Just fucking kill yourself dumbass foid, all you dunb bitches have victim conplexes and never shut the fuck up.