why are guys so bad at sex? - /r9k/ (#81844659) [Archived: 259 hours ago]

Anonymous
7/16/2025, 3:06:53 AM No.81844659
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it's literally so easy to eat a girl out and finger her. guys just want to go straight to piv and that doesn't do a thing for me lol.
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Anonymous
7/16/2025, 3:07:51 AM No.81844665
>>81844659 (OP)
sounds like you're unhappy with your choices, sorry about that.
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Anonymous
7/16/2025, 3:08:08 AM No.81844669
>>81844659 (OP)
Pussy eating causes cancer. Why do you want to kill your bf? Stop being evil.
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Anonymous
7/16/2025, 3:08:30 AM No.81844676
>>81844659 (OP)
haha you had bad sex and it wasnt with me. ha ha
Anonymous
7/16/2025, 3:08:37 AM No.81844677
>>81844659 (OP)
my normies friends are all like this i personally dont get it. the only reason i dont pay for a hooker right now and lose my khhv status is that i think i would enjoy foreplay more than sex itself
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Anonymous
7/16/2025, 3:08:50 AM No.81844681
Didn't read, post tits or fuck off
Anonymous
7/16/2025, 3:10:04 AM No.81844694
>>81844665
?
>>81844669
u virgins aren't at any risk of hpv. just take your shot and make sure ur both clean if u fuck a lot.
>>81844677
foreplay is sex just normie guys are retarded
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Anonymous
7/16/2025, 3:12:59 AM No.81844713
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>>81844659 (OP)

What do you mean? I'd fuck foids like this because they want it but not necessarily because I enjoy it myself. Just say you want to get dominated and taken like some cavebitch in 100,000 B.C. Men are out here constantly leading in everything, including the bedroom which is supposed to be the thing we enjoy and our reward (sex). It's hard to enjoy sex when foids always require their psychology to be very specifically played into with very specific dominant acts in order to get wet and cum.
Anonymous
7/16/2025, 3:13:47 AM No.81844718
>>81844694
>foreplay is sex just normie guys are retarded
I think normies are bad at sex in general desu
normie women will make fun of a guy for not jack hammering them
feels like both normie men and normie women have retarded expectations from sex, their common sense is fucked. that explains why women cum so little
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Anonymous
7/16/2025, 3:14:10 AM No.81844719
>>81844694
You chose to have sex with a man (men?) and you're unhappy about it. You made a bad choice. At least you own up to it.
Anonymous
7/16/2025, 3:17:14 AM No.81844750
>>81844659 (OP)
it's not that easy and there is some skill and basic anatomy involved. most guys don't even know how to fuck well and get all butthurt from direction or gods forbid toys come into play. I've literally had other girls so damaged from these experiences they had to cope by falling back on pain fetishes while thinking they're the problem and lash out because of it. it's like girl shut up. I just want to make you cum hard and your pussy in all its messy glory is beautiful
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Anonymous
7/16/2025, 3:17:47 AM No.81844757
>>81844750
how do i become a sex god like you bro
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Anonymous
7/16/2025, 3:17:49 AM No.81844758
>>81844659 (OP)
Great at sex, bad at making money and moving out of my parents` house

that`s life
Anonymous
7/16/2025, 3:18:12 AM No.81844762
>>81844694
Pussy can't be clean it's right next to the butthole
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Anonymous
7/16/2025, 3:22:19 AM No.81844805
>>81844659 (OP)
>it's literally so easy to eat a girl out
YOU STUPID FUCKING BLABBERMOUTH CUNT
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Anonymous
7/16/2025, 3:22:23 AM No.81844807
>>81844659 (OP)
i'm scared of pussies and sex feels better?
idk i'm a virgin though
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Anonymous
7/16/2025, 3:23:50 AM No.81844825
>>81844694
>just take your shot
vaccines cause autism
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Anonymous
7/16/2025, 3:24:06 AM No.81844826
>>81844807
just close your eyes pussy is prob tasty
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Anonymous
7/16/2025, 3:24:23 AM No.81844829
>>81844762

That's why women wipe front to back and not back to front so the shit particles don't enter the vagina and give them an infection.

Word of wisdom, don't eat your girlfriend out unless she's showered and you know she cleans her buttcrack with soap. A man ate his girlfriend out just after she had diarrhea and he suffered severe health complications.

https://youtu.be/e3gh219UJQc
Anonymous
7/16/2025, 3:24:52 AM No.81844837
>>81844659 (OP)
>women literally never communicate what they want during sex
>they proceed to constantly complain about guys not making them cum
maybe FUCKING TELL US what you want done for you in what way?? you stupid fucking bitches
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Anonymous
7/16/2025, 3:25:31 AM No.81844841
>>81844762
are you okay? is this really what virgins think?
>>81844805
i fucked 2 of my female friends lol i know.
>>81844825
can't get any worse then
>>81844837
i really don't want a basic tutorial every time i fuck a new guy
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Anonymous
7/16/2025, 3:26:47 AM No.81844855
>>81844841
lmao then stick with one guy you dumb fuckin whore
Hopefully you catch AIDS or something gd
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Anonymous
7/16/2025, 3:27:49 AM No.81844865
>>81844841
>i fucked 2 of my female friends
Awful, bisexual women are evil
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Anonymous
7/16/2025, 3:28:16 AM No.81844876
>>81844659 (OP)
I've never had trouble giving girls at least half a dozen orgasms it's literally not difficult, even with piv if you're not a dicklet
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Anonymous
7/16/2025, 3:28:29 AM No.81844882
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>>81844659 (OP)
I'M ACTUALLY FUCKING GREAT AT SEX. DON'T WORRY. YOU'LL FIND OUT.

DON'T FALL ASLEEP TONIGHT.
Anonymous
7/16/2025, 3:28:37 AM No.81844884
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>>81844865
all women are bi all women are evil?
Anonymous
7/16/2025, 3:28:54 AM No.81844888
>>81844757
it has nothing to do with being a sex god. it's just about doing a little research and being gentle and attentive. listening to their breathing and moans to either focus or switch things up. being with them in the moment and not just drifting off into some porn fantasy in your head. not being afraid to get some lube, blood, or a pube in your mouth. sex is messy and some girls will even pee a little when spasms and contractions happen. squirting is also a thing some people are ick'd by. a little reassuring dirty talk and pussy praise can go far as well
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Anonymous
7/16/2025, 3:29:50 AM No.81844897
>>81844659 (OP)
My ideal scenarios is fingering and eating a girl out until she squeezes my head with her thighs, and then I'm humping for like a minute tops before I bust the biggest nut of my life.
Anonymous
7/16/2025, 3:32:22 AM No.81844923
>>81844888
fembots is this good advice or is this nigga just going through the sex dunning kruger?
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Anonymous
7/16/2025, 3:32:39 AM No.81844927
>>81844855
>only eat 1 cereal brand for life
no
>>81844865
how
>>81844876
they're faking it lol
Anonymous
7/16/2025, 3:33:49 AM No.81844936
>>81844659 (OP)
We are porn brain rotted.
Anonymous
7/16/2025, 3:36:20 AM No.81844960
>>81844923
that's the thing. There is no singular way for every girl and one thing guys are horrible at it putting aside their ego to ask does this feel good
Anonymous
7/16/2025, 3:39:25 AM No.81844984
>>81844659 (OP)
some just don't know how to do it or don't know how to get in the mood
I did the same because I'm a retard
Anonymous
7/16/2025, 3:43:32 AM No.81845012
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>>81844659 (OP)
my end of highschool / post highschool GF I went down on a lot. It was nearly a staple part of our buildup to penetrative sex. We were both healthy, fit, and ethnically compatible (german/ english + irish ). There's a pheromone component there were alien ethnic combos are just not going to feel the same pull.

She also had a tendency to starfish and was very difficult to please. One time I was tongue motoring her clit and entrance for like 10 minutes straight. My jaw was tired. Every muscle in my face ached. I took over with my hand for a split second just to ask, "should I keep going?"
And she just did that scoff sound and sarcastically said. "YES"
But then immediately stopped me like I'd ruined it.

We had a lot of sex... she blew me a lot and took in the mouth (but eventually started spitting) too. But maybe the fact my parents subjected my dick to the jewish mutilation ritual prevented a certain natural satisfaction in our relationship that eventually killed it.

Fast forward some years to when I was dating a chinese grad student she would pretty much go into clenching spasms moments after entering her - but we (both ways) didn't have that hungry mutual oral game.

>t. failed normie
The girlfriends where I ate box, no one taught me, and I wasn't asked. I was just drawn to it and did it (though frequent blowjobs did play a large part in making me feel obligated). Are you fit, are you healthy, are you young (fertile), and do you have raw ravenous lust for your partner in quiet moments just by catching his scent? Are your hormones functioning properly (no birth control, good diet, generous quality animal fats and proteins or at least an understanding of how to supplement them)?
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Anonymous
7/16/2025, 3:44:27 AM No.81845021
>>81844659 (OP)
it's not my fault she's on ssris which destroy her ability to feel good
Anonymous
7/16/2025, 3:46:55 AM No.81845042
>>81844659 (OP)
i will not go near a foid's yeast infected hole with my mouth or fingers. she can have something equally unsanitary near her
Anonymous
7/16/2025, 3:48:09 AM No.81845050
>>81845012
what im getting from this is that i need to find a guy thats very easy to please so i can maintain a proper long term
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7/16/2025, 3:51:29 AM No.81845073
>>81844659 (OP)
Remake image with her sitting on foids face
Anonymous
7/16/2025, 3:54:30 AM No.81845095
>>81844841
I'm not a virgin I have lots of sex
Anonymous
7/16/2025, 4:07:01 AM No.81845213
>>81844826
it's prob not tasty. most things are not tasty
>>81844888
what do they want you to get at?
Anonymous
7/16/2025, 4:20:23 AM No.81845333
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>>81845012
(cont)
>>81844718
>>81844718
pigs have it. horses have it. drunk teenagers have it. really drunk adults that shouldn't be having it have it.
I'm thinking the general obsession with sex while fewer and fewer people have access to intimacy has elevated fucking to the status it just doesn't deserve. It's not playing the violin. Thing goes into the thing and they move around.

It seems like this then makes a large part of the satisfaction a consequence of expectations: men looking for a brand new 10/10 reserved princess that becomes a cockslave in the bedroom, women wanting to get slammed into the mattress by chad with the keys to a coveted life. These usually are not reasonable expectations and lead to dissatisfaction with the sex you have.

The only approach I consider is >>81844888
Commitment is is about re-ordering your thoughts to become someone whose instincts align with making your partner feel loved. Yeah, underlying attraction is necessary, but the impulse just can't and wont hit the same forever. We shouldn't give sex a pass as if it is so special that it can't be tamed.
I think men have a stronger affinity for this phenomenon as evidenced by the frequency that their that their fetish wiring goes off the rails. It's an evolutionary adaptation to make men want their aging wives.
And we're at peak coddling of the women's lizard impulses at least in public sentiments.
Better sex has to come with deliberate exchange and communication.
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Anonymous
7/16/2025, 4:23:55 AM No.81845360
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>>81844659 (OP)
When I had the sex with the last girl she told me that she liked to be fugged from behind while I rubbed her clit with my fingers and grabbed her booba. Is this something most women would prefer?
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Anonymous
7/16/2025, 4:50:48 AM No.81845598
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>>81845050
You misunderstand me, but I didn't explicitly mention it.
I was, and probably still am a consummate pre ejaculator (at least to my expectations).
It's a frequent consequence of being circumcised. Either there is over desensitization of the penis in sex or (my case) a hypersensitivity of the scar-line. Hypersensitivity isn't really the right word, though. Between my learning of the subject and personal experience it's probably more of a deep trauma memory that turns that ring-remnant of the removed male g-spot into an itch that I'm desperate to have comforted/pleasured. It can become like a trigger.

I had talked to friends, probably with the similar issue, that would say they jerked off before visiting their girlfriends. This might factor in to the routines of developed foreplay because a lot of the time I either wouldn't last long inside her or already came from oral and would proceed to massage and fellate her for a solid half hour until erect again and, this time ready to put in tour of pounding. Did the whole thing become forced... was this a case of mismatched expectations? Should I have just made our sex about tearing her clothes off, blasting away inside her within a couple minutes and crying out triumphantly, "AWHH FUCK UR SO HOT"

I think I was pretty easy to please and in general men seem easy to sexually please. Do stuff to their cocks, the more eager and intimate the better. For my failed relationship I developed a complex about whether I was good enough then got thrown for a loop when later sex partners had little problem orgasming without a whole lot more thrusting (some years lessened the trigger).

What should you be getting from all this?
1) healthy + chemistry and getting oral shouldn't be hard
2) getting on the same page can require being able to talk through some obstacles.
Anonymous
7/16/2025, 5:06:32 AM No.81845727
>>81845333
I wouldn't need additional fetishes even if my partner was older to stay interested. Outside of making love, for me it's more about trying to find the best ways to make each other cum hard while moaning our brains out and the connection and intimacy that comes with it. Sex for me should be fun and mutual and even if someone is more submissive or service minded they're still getting something out of it. Not a chore. I enjoy making people cum too. Not everyone feels that way though and it's fine. I'm just not going to really mesh well with those types of people who only want to be used then try to form relationship around it past fwb. No shame to them. It's just not how I learned to have sex growing up or formed deeper intimate connections with people.
Anonymous
7/16/2025, 5:10:32 AM No.81845753
>>81845360
That would be a combination of asking them or reading body language. Different strokes for different folks and erogenous zones tend to be the same for everyone. There can be psychological reasons they don't so find out your partners boundaries
Anonymous
7/16/2025, 5:14:36 AM No.81845791
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>>81844659 (OP)
>why are guys so bad at sex?

presumptive assumptive misandrist political lesbian begging the question question, gg go next, also fux to your passive aggressive demoralizing kys. lol jk.
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Anonymous
7/16/2025, 5:16:01 AM No.81845803
>>81844659 (OP)
Have you ever considered that people dont give that much of a shit if you get off or not? What makes you so special that someone should care
Anonymous
7/16/2025, 5:17:20 AM No.81845817
>>81844659 (OP)
A lot of us are virgins and foids now want us to be sexmachine. Roasties are truly interesting creatures arent they.
Anonymous
7/16/2025, 5:18:11 AM No.81845829
I like fingering. And various teasing and stuff. I learned from an old porno dvd that had bi girls teaching sex to the viewer. It was like a genuine rpg treasure event when I found it.

Also I'm not eating women out. I know how but fuck that you can get 4 orgasms before I piv without it.
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Anonymous
7/16/2025, 5:21:09 AM No.81845858
>>81845791
nah lots of guys are bad at sex no cap. when they said they don't want every time to be a sex ed lesson it was one of the most poignant things in this thread. i don't mind it that much myself but it can be a bit of a turn off from distraction of the moment
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Anonymous
7/16/2025, 6:41:32 AM No.81846500
>>81845829
well I hope you find a girl who doesn't enjoy receiving oral because most do and dislike one-sided partners
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Anonymous
7/16/2025, 7:05:02 AM No.81846656
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>>81846500
I don't like handjobs or blowjobs, women fucking suck at it.
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Anonymous
7/16/2025, 7:16:49 AM No.81846734
>>81846656
meh. I've known plenty that were amazing at it. loosen up on the death grip and find a girl that will spit on it
Anonymous
7/16/2025, 7:26:04 AM No.81846809
Can't believe the guy wants to feel good instead of just licking your foul smelling pussy kill yourself whore
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Anonymous
7/16/2025, 7:30:03 AM No.81846836
>>81844659 (OP)
I will never do oral.
Anonymous
7/16/2025, 7:41:10 AM No.81846910
>>81844659 (OP)
No one wants to touch your mutilated dick, tranny. Even if you are a foid, I hope you'll get an STD from a particularly bad experience and will be left with no husband who'll want to touch you.
Anonymous
7/16/2025, 7:43:55 AM No.81846928
>>81846809
Thats not even a real human. God is writing most of the posts. He pretends to be a woman online, because its a way to sexually assault us with words. Long story, hes very undercover here. He is serial sexual abuser lol. Sounds funny almost. If you call the police on a guy who isnt physical, dude theyll throw down. We spend like hundreds of millions of dollars on churches dude but the possibility that hes actually also raping people is too far. The people in this world are so retarded. Obviously he rapes. Imagine youre omnipotent, the first thing youd do is rape.
Anonymous
7/16/2025, 7:57:08 AM No.81847016
>>81844659 (OP)
The depressed plapping is your fault, you reap what you sow foid
Anonymous
7/16/2025, 8:28:48 AM No.81847229
>>81844659 (OP)
It doesn't help that women never say shit about it in the moment.
Sure, some guys get turned off by being told what to do, but they are the stupid ones.
I don't want them faking anything. For me, I'd be good at kissing and massage. I can even get escorts wet.
But it's tough for me to perform well, as I can't get more than a semi - seems I can't get fully aroused without some real desire from my partner - and I can never cum with escorts. If only a non-escort wanted to fuck me and actually did so, so I could have a chance to get good at it.
Wish I had a chance to be a good lover. If only women would actually take me to bed, and let me make them tingle and throb, and get them soaked.
TFW still incel as fuck in my late 30s.
Anonymous
7/16/2025, 9:58:45 AM No.81847764
>>81845858
>nah lots of guys are bad at sex no cap.
>why are guys bad at sex?

fail to see the relation between your reply to my reply to this thread, learn english. shifting the goalposts.
Anonymous
7/16/2025, 11:29:52 AM No.81848215
>>81844659 (OP)
Not like I have any experience in the matter but don't girls just get off to the idea of the guy they are attracted to rather than the actual physical act of sex itself?