Men and weakness - /r9k/ (#81852941) [Archived: 228 hours ago]

Anonymous
7/16/2025, 9:04:22 PM No.81852941
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Femanons, if your boyfriend had a moment of weakness and cried, let's say for any serious reason: a breakup, depression, the death of a family member, etc.

Would you feel he is lesser? Would you be less attracted to him?

I want you to answer honestly. Not what you think is the right/righteous answer in the eyes of public opinion, but what you actually would feel and think. Bonus points if this is not just an hypothetical and it's something you've experienced at some point in your lives.
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Anonymous
7/16/2025, 9:09:04 PM No.81852999
>>81852941 (OP)
It depends on the reason hes crying and how much. If hes usually a manly, regular guy and happens to cry for a serious reason I would of course care for him and it wouldnt change my view of him. But if he cried because his hockey team lost I would definitely laugh.
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Anonymous
7/16/2025, 10:35:41 PM No.81854066
>>81852999
you sounds like a bitch, piece of shit.
Anonymous
7/16/2025, 10:55:07 PM No.81854244
>>81852941 (OP)
actual femanon and yes my bf has cried in front of me many times. he actually looks beautiful and hot when he cries, but seeing him cry also makes me cry. never been less attracted to him from him crying.
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Anonymous
7/16/2025, 10:56:20 PM No.81854256
>>81852941 (OP)
No and no, I know because my boyfriend has shared troubles with me before and it made me understand him more which in turn made me love him more.
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Anonymous
7/16/2025, 10:57:09 PM No.81854260
>asking women anything
NGMI
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Anonymous
7/16/2025, 11:01:17 PM No.81854308
>>81854260
>listening to troon whining
NGMI
Anonymous
7/16/2025, 11:07:35 PM No.81854380
Of course not? What kind of retarded question is this?

People cry during traumatic events and in other news the grass is green
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Anonymous
7/16/2025, 11:11:12 PM No.81854416
>>81854244
>>81854256
Reminder that we'll never get this.
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Anonymous
7/16/2025, 11:12:45 PM No.81854430
>>81854416
I met my boyfriend on r9k
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Anonymous
7/16/2025, 11:12:58 PM No.81854432
>>81854416
You could get that if you actually go for someone in your own league (so single moms if you're an incel)
Anonymous
7/16/2025, 11:13:50 PM No.81854440
>>81854430
thank him for me
Anonymous
7/16/2025, 11:14:20 PM No.81854445
Personally, I would get the ick
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Anonymous
7/16/2025, 11:26:04 PM No.81854564
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Don't be afraid of emotions.

It's what makes us human.

Be afraid of NO emotions.
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Anonymous
7/16/2025, 11:28:45 PM No.81854594
>>81854445
>AGP incel pretends to be a woman
As always, easy to detect.
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Anonymous
7/16/2025, 11:30:10 PM No.81854609
>>81854564
Being human is overrated
Anonymous
7/16/2025, 11:35:14 PM No.81854662
>>81852999
>>81854244
>>81854380
>>81854256
I got the news I have a brain tumor last month and I've been crying a lot. I feel that if I was with a girl, she would drop me the moment things go sour and showed any weakness. I don't think it's a female only thing, the guy I considered my best friend (of 7 years) already abandoned me through this when I needed him the most.

I think the overwhelming majority of people are inherently self-serving and will cut you off the moment you have a hard time. Also I think it scares them to see someone who might have brain cancer and serious neurological issues so early at 27.

A lot of things will have burned behind me as I get through this tunnel. I hope I meet someone for once, once I get to the other side. I'm tired of being lonely.
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Anonymous
7/16/2025, 11:58:21 PM No.81854867
>>81854662
Sorry to hear that anon, I hope everything goes well. I agree that most people are self serving, and that a heavy topic like this could scare them.

It's hard to have hope and belive that people care, the same happens to me all the time. But I guess you have to believe that there are people who can care, even if you can't see it right now.
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Anonymous
7/17/2025, 12:07:04 AM No.81854946
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>>81854867
>But I guess you have to believe that there are people who can care, even if you can't see it right now.
There are, just very few, because it takes strength and effort to become that.

>>81854662
I wish that you make it through anon. I wish I had something more comforting to say. Do crazy things you wouldn't have thought of doing until now: skydiving, climbing a mountain, etc
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Anonymous
7/17/2025, 12:08:50 AM No.81854963
>>81854946
I can't. I've already had brain surgery (biopsy) and I need to sit home and heal. All I can do is pray it's benign.
Anonymous
7/17/2025, 12:11:47 AM No.81854985
>>81854946
>There are, just very few, because it takes strength and effort to become that.

Wish it was easier to believe.
Anonymous
7/17/2025, 12:14:00 AM No.81855005
>>81854662
It might be an unpopular opinion but I understand your friend who left you. Just reading your post gave me bad vibes. I feel like living with you while you are dying must be something really sad. I wouldnt want to have contact with you anymore either.
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Anonymous
7/17/2025, 12:26:23 AM No.81855129
ez. i'll play again any time
Anonymous
7/17/2025, 12:27:03 AM No.81855137
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>>81855005
Love and true friendship isn't conditional on the other person delivering you "good vibes" only, anon, unless you're a completely self-serving person. I guess that friend wasn't a good friend, after all. Your opinion will indeed be unpopular because it reveals a purely transactional point of view to relationships that is against human dignity.

It's completely normal that when facing possible death due to an illness someone becomes depressed and starts to radiate negativity. He needs a therapist and family support, not abandonment.

I think it's a blessing in disguise, as hard situations separate the wheat from the chaff. Situations like these are also opportunities, in the sense that they allow to form bonds and gratitude that will last for a lifetime
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Anonymous
7/17/2025, 12:33:12 AM No.81855184
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>>81852941 (OP)
The ol' ball n' chain is always supportive when I cry, which happens multiple times a week. In fact, I cried yesterday, when her bvll Jaquan only came inside her pvssy 3 times instead of the usual 5. It was devastating
Anonymous
7/17/2025, 12:38:17 AM No.81855232
>>81854594
>>81854594
>Asks women for an answer
>Gets an answer he doesn't like
>Accuses of being a tranny because he didn't like the answer

typical moid
Anonymous
7/17/2025, 12:39:21 AM No.81855245
>>81852941 (OP)
No it would be cute I hope to see a future bf cry
Anonymous
7/17/2025, 1:32:27 AM No.81855763
>>81855137
I wasn't going to respond to the post because I figured it was someone trying to say something inflammatory to get (you)s.
>Love and true friendship isn't conditional on the other person delivering you "good vibes" only, anon, unless you're a completely self-serving person.
Agreed. He had grown distant from me a few years ago and was cheated on by his girlfriend of many years during that time. I wished I could have been there for him so bad, but he only established contact again after the fact, when he found himself alone and in need of rebuilding his social circles.

>It's completely normal that when facing possible death due to an illness someone becomes depressed and starts to radiate negativity.
I haven't even been that bad! Everyone tells me how positive I am through this. I'm holding onto the hope that it's benign as best as I can. But even if it isn't, and it's full blown cancer, I'm going to get through this. No way I'm dying at 27.
>He needs a therapist and family support
thankfully I have both. My parents are great.
>I think it's a blessing in disguise, as hard situations separate the wheat from the chaff.
I agree. I'm mourning the loss of my most important friendship, it hurts, because I really liked that guy, but I have to face the truth, he was a fair-weather friend and the weather was nice for a long time. There's a part of me that wants to reach out again, because it's sad to lose someone you've known for so long, but I don't think I can handle it in my current emotional state. Our last conversation he literally told me "I don't see how it's relevant that you're going through this" when I had been going to the ER daily for seizures following my brain surgery because we had a minor squabble over the fact I "ditched" him to play a video game with someone else (which I ended up going to the ER due to the seizure 5 minutes into the gaming session). Just cannot believe the friend I had would be so heartless and lacking in compassion.
Anonymous
7/17/2025, 1:44:57 AM No.81855867
>>81852941 (OP)
Not a femanon, but I think my story may be interesting. It's a very simple story, I ended a small relationship a few years ago, due to mental problems I had, one time I remember being so sad that I started crying in the living room of my house, where my mother was, hoping that she would give me the slightest support, even saying a worthless motivational phrase like "everything will be okay" would have helped me, the only thing he did was ignore me and when my father arrived, she told me to dry my tears because my father had arrived. Another situation was at a time when I had recurring panic attacks, I didn't do the least to help myself, but at a family party, my cousin fell ill with a panic attack and she really made an effort to help.I hope these stories are what you wanted to know, Op