Thread 81870527

How did you personally cope with turning 30? I'm 26 now and I know I need to steel myself for the inevitable. It really does seem like the point of no return - its approach is forcing me to contemplate both my own mortality and every choice I've made up to this point.

>>81870527 (OP)
i have a weird superstition about numbers so I was quiet honored to have reached 30

>>81870527 (OP)
the average 30 yo is a numale manchild. 40 is the new 30, that's when you need to have your shit together.

>>81870527 (OP)
I didn't, I just forget about my age most of the time and when I remember I'm in my 30's I'm depressed again.

>>81870527 (OP)
I turn 30 in two months and I'm not coping, I'm spiraling.

>>81870527 (OP)
Yeah, 30 is rough. It's basically impossible to turn things around if things have been shit for you up to that point.
I'm closing in on 40 now and have been NEET almost half that time. Turned out I was never going to make it, as an autist. Still incel as fuck too.
If that's not bad enough, the family I grew up with, the only people who loved me, have all died.

>>81871509
Bullshit, there are dozens of 30 year old or older first time students in universities who get good jobs afterwards.
If you don't abuse your body with alcohol, you have 85 or more years to live, it doesn't really matter if you have your life figured at 20 or 30 (and you basically never figured it out, but let's say "achieved milestones"), 40 gets a bit harder, but as a general rule, as long as you are younger than 35, except for being an elite athlete, nothing is over.

>>81870527 (OP)
34 here
I started turning my life around at your age because I felt the same impending doom
Still not sure it was enough

>>81870527 (OP)
What's wrong with turning 30? My 30s are based, way better than my narcissistic wound anxious 20s. Fuck being young, that shit sucks. Being in your teens and 20s is atrocious.

>>81871509
Yeah, it gets extremely harder and harder to turn your life around the older you get. I'm 42 and in the same boat. So OP needs to turn his life around as quickly as possible or else he is a loser for life.

>>81872201
>or else he is a loser for life.
Most people are losers for life, it's not that big of a deal desu. It's the self-awareness of it that kills yall. If you look around most people are also total fucking losers and fuck-ups, they're just too dumb or too deep in cope to be aware of it.

I'm 30 years old and I went through my quarter life crisis when I was like 23. It's really not a big deal. I'm a neet but I came to grips with who I am and my personality a long time ago. I recently read event post I wrote when I was 20 years old and I still have a lot of the same social problems except I'm just more at peace with everything. I don't let anxiety and fear of missing out ruin my mood so much anymore. I yam what I yam

>>81870527 (OP)
I play hearts of iron 4 all day and hang out with a very small dog. It is Joever for life progression but I do love hearts of iron 4.
>>81872155
That is nuclear level cope. Unfathomable levels of cope

>>81872259
Not him but how is any of that cope
I agree with him. Most of my 20's and all of my teens were super anxious and miserable

>>81872268
The anxiety and misery is due to unfulfilled potential. Yet the potential is still there. Turning 30 and beyond is a recognition that things will never change or improve. You have already physically and mentally peaked and missed out on irreplaceable experiences. That is why it is cope. I am also too much of a coward to end my life but at least I am not in such deep denial that I believe my 30s are better despite statistically being worse in every conceivable way

>>81870527 (OP)
I like my thirties so far. By now you're pretty much locked into your life. Normies stop trying to push you to improve and they don't care what you do anymore. Even if you make a big life change, or have some sudden success, it isn't impressive for them because you're just about where you "should be" in their minds. One of the nicest things is people quit asking why you're not seeing anyone. Another benefit is if you have a hobby they consider "childish" they assume it's nostalgia or at worst they don't care because it's your time and money. It's not all bad.

>>81872259
I don't think it's coping, my 30s are objectively better than my 20s. I've been playing Victoria 3 though, the new update really fixed the games economics.

>>81872300
I have been meaning to get into Vic 3, I had been reading about the economics change on the reddit so thank you for mentioning it.

>>81872292
>The anxiety and misery is due to unfulfilled potential. Yet the potential is still there.
Potential is overrated then. Fuck the grind. I'd rather be happy and content and do my own thing than have anxious potential.

>>81872292
For me it was because of external factors. My life is comfier now because I'm not around people that make me miserable all the time

>>81872310
It's shocking that no one taught us even one lesson about this, about being happy and life and wisdom.

>>81872310
Do you have enough passive income to retire? If not then logically you have to continue working for the machine to survive which I perceive as the white girl industrial complex with a continuously degrading body. I like your enthusiasm because it is easier to live that way than to be pissed off like me but just offering my honest perspective.
>>81872311
That is valid and I am happy for you. My life has gotten immeasurably worse as I approached and passed 30 and the fact that I will never have kids or a family has taken the joy and adventure out of many things.

>>81872331
>Do you have enough passive income to retire?
No, but I like my job quite a bit and it pays me well enough and has enough benefits to be content. I could honestly do it forever until my brain craps out, at least, though I wouldn't mind a 4 day work week and more work-from-home.

i was told i'm going to get wizard powers when i turn 30 why would i not want that