Thread 81903291

I hate being old
I am too old to get a gf and too old to make friends
It's over

>>81903291 (OP)
well? you can't just drop this nuke unverified, how old are you?

>>81903291 (OP)
Yeah, same here motherfucker. I don't know, I guess this is just the circle of life. Some of us fuck up too much, and for too long, and even if we manage to succeed late in life, it's hard to feel like it matters now. Maybe in the next life. I hope we all get to talk in the waiting room before reincarnation or hell, and chat and commisserate about our worthless lives and find some company.

>>81903291 (OP)
how old are you, anon?
i just turned 27 a few days ago and i'm seeing a 19yo

>>81903334
>>81903380
>how old are you?
24
>>81903335
I just wanna disappear forever

>>81903291 (OP)
I am 40 years old. I would give up all my money to be your age.

>>81903840
nigga you're still young
besides, dont put your self-worth based on others
you set your own self-worth

>>81903840
nigga im 24 too and i dont think its over at all. how can you be old when you arent even old enough to rent a car in the usa? i wouldnt say its over until like 35. admittedly i also have no friends, but its because ive always been a sperg since childhood diagnosis and sat in my room playing pokemon and watching anime (before it was suddenly cool to do so, my childhood was lonely at times). im getting off topic, what im trying to say is that as much as i hate normalfags the one thing theyrr right about is that if you dont try at all, youre succumbing to the lies we all tell ourselves. i have faith in you, do what you will with this information.

>>81903921
why my age and not like 20?
>>81903931
>>81903936
all the girls my age have like infinitely more experience than me
i am like a toddler compared to them

>>81903291 (OP)
Not to be flippant or dismissive of how you feel but you're never too old to make friends or find love

>>81904047
you are too old if you have 0 experience in the matter at such an age

>>81904008
>toddler
well then its time to grow up
go out and get some experience, anon
>inb4 no money
get a job
>inb4 i hate working
fuck me then, what do you want? do you even want friends? do you even want a gf?

>>81904072
>go out and get some experience, anon
go out where? Do what?
besides no girls would even want me because i have no experience with them.

>>81904083
forget the girls for now, focus on yourself first
>go out where? do what?
how the hell should i know? i dont live your life, *you? live your life - *you* know what you like, *you* know what you want

baby steps, man - think on it and just go slow

>>81903931
>dont put your self-worth based on others
worth in general is based on how much ofhers want something. an apple may be $1 worth simply because that is how much buyers are willing to pay.
>you set your own self-worth
if I was to set my worth to infinite, saying I am the greatest person to ever exist, nobody would care or take it serious. your worth is not something you set.

>>81904094
>forget the girls for now, focus on yourself first
if i focus on myself then suddenly i will find myself being 40 years old, a virgin and without any gf or wife.
>how the hell should i know? i dont live your life, *you? live your life - *you* know what you like, *you* know what you want
I feel like you don't reallly have any advice to offer at alll...

>>81903291 (OP)
Perspective kid. Just appreciate being alive. Glass half full. Just wait till 30.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dkmIMOh67IE

>>81904147
dude i dont know *how* you live, where you live, what you do for a living, etc.
i'm not gonna tell a fucking cripple to go clubbing, i'm not gonna tell a college drop-out to go work at a firm

focusing on yourself means exactly that
you dont have a degree? go to college - college isn't just about getting an education, its the people you meet, the memories you'll make - you're still young and dumb so go do dumb shit (but not too dumb)

>>81903291 (OP)
Nigga, I'm 33 and make new friends every time I go to the local game store.

>>81903840
>24
I'm 32. Fuck yourself kid

>>81904177
i am already in college but there are barely any women here
>>81904194
i don't want superficial friends
>>81904343
we're basically the same

>>81904355
what the fuck kinda college has "barely any women"?

nowadays, the trick to getting a gf is through your social circles
if you're serious, go out and make a few male friends - be friends with Chad too if you can, vibe with them and eventually they'll ask you over if they have a party or whatever
>no superficial friends
what kinda friend do you want? someone who's always about philosophy? history?

>>81903840
>24
You will realize your stupidity in 10 years. At 24 you can turn your life around easily. You're basically choosing to fuck up your life if you do nouthing.

>>81904355
>We're basically the same
I used to think that but no. No we're not. If you're skinny start working out now. You don't have to get roided like a retard but it will help you a lot. Just do it. And talk to as many women as you can. This is the prime of your life

>>81904498
could you say the same for someone who just turn 29 aka me

>>81904434
because i chose the wrong profession for that that's why
>if you're serious, go out and make a few male friends - be friends with Chad too if you can, vibe with them and eventually they'll ask you over if they have a party or whatever
there aren't any chads in my group unfortunately
>what kinda friend do you want? someone who's always about philosophy? history?
I just want deep connections

>>81904508
where do I even find women to talk to?
>>81904498
literally how

>>81904536
>wrong profession
what, you dont like your major? too late to change now, eh? well, just give it a few years maybe you'll grow into it
>deep connections
you can get this with *almost* anyone but before you dig for diamonds, the first thing you have to is dig

no one's gonna tell you about their deepest desires, their goals, their views on life, what they love, what they hate on the get go - you have to *build* that connection
it takes years, both on your part and theirs

>>81904612
>what, you dont like your major? too late to change now, eh? well, just give it a few years maybe you'll grow into it
there's also the issue that there are no women in the major but yeah
>you can get this with *almost* anyone but before you dig for diamonds, the first thing you have to is dig
not in my experience

>>81904625
>no women in his major
damn, so now you have to actually *gasp* go outside! oh, the horror!
>not in my experience
well i dont know your experience so i dont know how you approach someone, how you talk, how you compose yourself, etc.

from this thread so far, i can tell you're just a shy, timid guy - maybe skinny, maybe skinnyfat - highly likely brown, slim chance of being white
how do you rate yourself in terms of overall looks? what's your fashion sense like? do you groom yourself? gym, skincare, perfume, etc.?

>>81904665
>damn, so now you have to actually *gasp* go outside! oh, the horror!
go where?
> maybe skinny
i am pretty lean ig
>highly likely brown
i am white
>how do you rate yourself in terms of overall looks?
6/10 maybe
>what's your fashion sense like?
pretty bad, i just dress in black usually
>do you groom yourself? gym, skincare, perfume, etc.?
yes
not at the moment
the only skincare thing i do is that i wash my face with face soap every time after i shave

>>81904685
so a 6/10 lean, white guy who dresses in all black (why? because of your music taste?)
you sound decent already - aim low and go for a sub-5 gf
>inb4 no!
then you better put in the effort and make yourself a 7/10 or 8/10

>go where?
how would i know? it all depends on the kinda girl you're looking for, the kinda folks you vibe with

imagine a female-version of you, where would she hang out?
imagine folks who think like you, who enjoy the things you do, where would they hang out?

>>81904721
>why? because of your music taste?
i just like it, idk
>then you better put in the effort and make yourself a 7/10 or 8/10
how do i do that?
>how would i know? it all depends on the kinda girl you're looking for, the kinda folks you vibe with
what if i want someone who's like me?
>imagine a female-version of you, where would she hang out?
probably at home lol

>>81903380
Based, I started seeing an 18yo when I was 27 and we've been together 4 years now.

>>81904812
dude, i can't keep feeding you these things
this isn't advice anymore, you want me to hold your hand and do your thinking for you

>>81904095
>your worth is not something you set.
Your self-worth *is*. Notice that anon didn't say
>you set your own worth
but
>you set your own self-worth
That's a difference, and not some mere wordplay. It also doesn't mean signalling to others that you are the greatest fucker around, acting like an arrogant twat.
It just means you can look at the man in the mirror and forgive his mistakes.

>>81903380
>>81904843
how did you guys do it? I'm 27 and KHHV.

>>81904875
Well what else am i supposed to do there is literally no way for me to meet women

>>81904518
Yeah. Obviously it gets harder as you age but as long as you haven't crossed into your 40s you can reinvent yourself.

>>81904553
Literally talk to people and meet them. Get out of your comfort zone as often as possible, or you will pay a price higher than anything you can envision.

>>81905580
Where fo i find people to talk to?