Why do you care about relationships so much?
I am a 23 year old friendless virgin who never had a girlfriend. Apparently this is the appropriate way to introduce yourself around here, but why? I'm just like that because I never cared enough to look for a relationship.
But 99% of the people here talk like this is the greatest pain a human can bear.
What are you so scared of? Of not having anyone to care for you when you're like 80? You'll probably not even be aware of your surroundings because of dementia by then.
All this whining is really pathetic.

>>81927576 (OP)
it hurts knowing all the affection i could be giving, is going to waste
someone could be feeling better from me, but instead i rot inside

>>81927576 (OP)
When I don't talk to anyone I'm stuck in my mind
It's not a fun place to be

>>81927594
You could give your affection to other people by giving to charity or volunteering. The people you'd be helping would probably feel much better from it, too.

>>81927595
So isn't just 4chan enough?

>>81927576 (OP)
Once you get close to 30 all your friends will be married with kids. You're gonna be left alone, forced to watch from the sidelines as you try to fill the void.

>>81927576 (OP)
You will care, eventually. At your age you still look and feel young and feel like you still have time.

>>81927576 (OP)
i think we are lacking something op, that others have that make romance so important to them. we are the strange ones, and idk if we can ever understand it

>>81927740
Well I don't have friends, so that won't be a problem...
Jokes aside, I don't really see how that is enviable. Discarding the high possibility of divorce and that kids are a nuisance, having to share space and time with another person sounds like a burden.

>>81927822
I won't deny I'm still young and will change, but what do you mean with "still have time"?

>>81927847
I did make this thread to try to understand it a bit better. What I think so far that makes it important for them is:
1. Conformism, that is, they don't want to be the "weird one". Can be solved by just not caring, I guess?
2. Self-benefit, that is, they actually just want to have sex or use the other person as a therapeutic object, to "fill the void". Can be solved by coping through other means, in fact it's probably much better if you do so because I have a suspicion that the kind of person that seeks relationships for self-benefit will naturally have bad relationships.
3. Dependence, that is, being unable to sustain basic needs by yourself, especially in old age when your kids are supposed to take care of you. Maybe. Can be solved by taking care of your health or isolating/killing yourself in old age like people have done since ancient times.

I just don't see the big deal of dying alone.

>>81927576 (OP)
I never cared to look for a relationship (or sex) either. I'm a friendless dateless relationshipless KHHV at 37 and okay with it.
In the old days, we used to call those who wanted out of our situation (make friends, lose virginity, get a gf) "failed normalfags".

>>81928165
>but what do you mean with "still have time"?
I mean that since you're young you don't feel the windows of opportunity closing yet. You still have potential so you take time for granted. At your age it's somewhat easy to feel content with entertainment and forced social settings such as school or work. It's possible that you're lagging a bit behind your peers but it's unlikely that you're some sort of asexual aromantic oddity. There are plenty of threads here of late 10s early 20s anon claiming to have transcended the need for a lover. It's a phase, make no mistake.

>>81928165
i think #2 is the closest to a "rational" answer, they want to fill a void. its not one we have tho, so its not possible to understand completely

>>81927576 (OP)
im the exact same, holy shit. so many people here make this their entire personality but ive literally never given it a second thought.

>>81928241
The expression is not weird to me, I have been here since 2015 I think? I could be wrong but it was probably replaced by "incel" in 2018 or so. (Which is a term I hate by the way, alongside its variations and "chud" because I feel they did not raise naturally but were astroturfed, but I digress)

>>81928250
I see, but I have been like this since forever, but I guess only time will tell.

>>81928341
We might not have that one, but maybe we have voids in other aspects of life. For example, I think I have a career related void, which is at least temporarily fulfilled, which makes me happy and makes it harder to have empathy for people with negative feelings.

>>81928358
I suppose it's "natural" or "normal" to be that other way (by definition), but it's so prevalent here it got on my nerves.
I just feel that if they didn't care so much about it and instead focused in other aspects of life they wouldn't suffer as much. Like, your romantic life is a failure no matter how hard you try? Then maybe you should try moving on an do something else with your life. But what do I know.

>>81927576 (OP)
i didn't care either when i was 23, which is why i'm all alone now in my 30s
video games and other media kept me happy and i used porn
none of these things are interesting anymore, the only thing that seems like it could give meaning is other people and the lack of it is becoming unbearable.
perhaps you should take this as a warning

>>81928513
>We might not have that one, but maybe we have voids in other aspects of life
yes, thats how i try to relate to them. i have felt a platonic void, and i have a void for which i will not fill for some time. i wish i could fully understand them, though, and extend proper empathy.

>>81928513
>but I guess only time will tell.
Time will tell exactly what >>81928608 and I told you, I promise.

>>81927576 (OP)
>Why do you care about relationships so much?
Personally, I don't
I've always lived a life of solitude, I'm used to it - it's a double-edged sword but I've made my peace with it

One thing I notice is that I'm not built for short-term stuff - think hookups or folks I talk to everyday for like 1-2 weeks
I'm built for that long-term bond - like, talking once in awhile every few weeks, spending time with each other on special occasions, that sorta thing

I can't be with someone every day at every hour, I don't that sorta relationship - it just makes me feel trapped

>>81927576 (OP)
I just want someone to talk to. I have so many thoughts and stuff but nobody to tell them to except strangers on the internet. I don't need to kiss a girl or have sex, I just want to watch movies with one and cuddle and talk.

>>81927576 (OP)
I don't. I hate socialising.
I just want an affectionate sex-partner, who is attracted to me, that I can fuck a lot.