>>81953767 (OP)You have no idea what you're fucking with. These girls are not for the faint of heart.
You probably think that they're some kind of super anxious/clingy manic pixie dream-girls but that's the tiniest minority of presentations (and those ones get bored of you in 2 weeks if you don't jestermaxx) for the most part they are as avoidant as ice and won't even converse with you until you become their favourite person which even if you are kind and have rizz will take weeks or sometimes months.
...and even once they 'open up' they are usually 10x more anxious and avoidant than other girls. The anxious pleasedon'tleaveme side of her is something only "we" get to witness and a side you never, ever want to see BTW since it means 'something is wrong'.
...and even if you succeed in becoming her therapist, jester, lover and father all at once she will constantly doubt. Doubt, doubt, doubt. This lack of trust is probably because she was mostly likely (from my experience and stats) raped or abused by the ones she trusted as a girl.
They are not clingy girls if you want that just a love-starved autistic or fat girl: the girls with a legit BPD diagnosis are usually traumatized (and have attempts).
...and even if you do thread the needle and do everything right and they try their best...they will still regularly crash out and fuck everything up during their rehabilitation process.
In my case I am currently dating(?) a BPD girl I met in the psych ward a month back (also BPD LULL). I wish I could like normal girls but there was a girl when I was 11 and she was 17 and my brain is now fried. AMA
Loving a traumatized and broken girl isn't for the faint of heart my friend. I do it because I am a healer, and this is the way I live, and have always lived. And even so...I'm not even sure if what I am doing is the right thing.
Keep in mind these girls choose you, just like a hungry stray cat choosing an owner; not the other way around.
Be careful what you wish for.
