Thread 81959094

i wonder how many people have been fooled into thinking they have bpd or are insane (even though they're correct) because the other person didn't want to break things off maturely and decided to resort to gaslighting to make them feel responsible for it

>>81959094 (OP)
ironically it literally makes the other person more bpd

>>81959160
it's far more extreme than bpd when they don't have remorse for it and insist on it because there's no proof

>>81959094 (OP)
Why do vulnerable narcissist females pretend to be BPD?

>>81959328
bpd is just failed narcissism (they can't decide if the other person is at fault or they are and thus are on the border) while narcissism is thinking you're in the right no matter what, often people with bpd can grow into narcissists if they don't heal
bpd is kinda a meme nowadays thus it's easy to miscategorize

>>81959094 (OP)
this is exactly what happened to me... did we date the same person......

>>81959462
Wasn't really looking for your opinion

>>81959517
i never dated her but we were extremely close and she told me she never was interested in dating (which i sadly later found out was a lie too) so i thought things were going perfectly between us until randomly she decided to do what she did
i hope she's happy but she didn't have to overcomplicate things like that, i've decided to be more wary of getting close to people when you can sense imaginary "KEEP OUT" signs for certain topics around them instead of being able to discuss them like adults, wbu?

>>81959731
>her
That explains it.

Get back at them by actually going insane

Just being an avoidant. Form of self sabotage from getting what she's always wanted.

>>81959731
which part of telling someone you're not interested in dating is over-complicating things or gaslighting them? sounds like she was pretty clear to you but you can't just take no for an answer

>>81959094 (OP)
I can only imagine that it happens way too often for comfort
My ex almost kind of did this when she cheated on me, lied to me about it and all, but at some point she did admit I wasn't really BPD or anything. I might have some form of OCD though.

>>81960974
do read everything after that, i was able to accept that, she just insisted it wasn't personal and that she was never interested in dating anyone which was an unnecessary lie
we remained friends for years and and she overcomplicated things by not being able to tell me that she wants to break things off and gaslighting me when i confronted her about her change in attitude towards me which was to push me away, she wanted me to believe everything was fine even though it wasn't and i ended up feeling dragged around by believing her

>>81959094 (OP)
Happens a lot. Hell most people's first abuser, gaslighter, bully is their own parents. Usually the toxic people we mistakenly tolerate have a similar personality to our parents who normalized that behavior and downplayed how problematic it is.