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>the average man doesn't put that much effort in
but I do, more than any woman i know, and I frequently get ignored, talked over, or condescended to at best, and outright insulted, denigrated, and made to feel intrinsically inferior at worst.
>well you're not owed a girlfriend
and equally you're not owed any social infrastructure that allows you to date, date safely, or date securely. just the same, anyone who ghosts you, rejects you, stalks you, harasses you, or cheats on you simply sees the apparently monumental amount of effort you put into how you present yourself, how you socialize, the kind of company and hobbies you keep, and your intrinsic value as a human being and completely disregards it, simply because they don't believe you're owed it.
see how fucking stupid that sounds? social model of disability: it is not the disabled individual's fault for being incompatible with society given their best efforts, but society's failure to accommodate that person and their disability.
the issue is lonelyfags don't burden society the way cripples do, so there's far less incentive for us to change our patterns of behavior. as long as the economics of attention, affection, worth, and respect are as skewed as they are nothing will change.
