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Anonymous No.82084165 >>82084286 >>82084317 >>82084356 >>82084430 >>82084699 >>82084753 >>82084769 >>82084811
How do you even make friends online anymore?
It feels like everyone is in a clique that's so tight-knit that you'd feel like an outsider even if you tried getting to know them
Anonymous No.82084186
erm sorry, you are not gentry, therefore i am unable to divulge that information to you
Anonymous No.82084286 >>82084318
>>82084165 (OP)
You have to be like an apex predator and pick off the weak ones straggling outside of the herd
Anonymous No.82084317 >>82084323
>>82084165 (OP)
By posting your discord tag RIGHT NOW
Anonymous No.82084318 >>82084344
>>82084286
So I have to find other outsiders and try to start my own wolf pack...?
Sounds like hard work, but I guess I have no other options
Anonymous No.82084323 >>82084330
>>82084317
>post discord tag
>get spammed on /soc/
yeah, no thanks
Anonymous No.82084330 >>82084338
>>82084323
Post protonmail then
Anonymous No.82084338
>>82084330
Not op but here: anony.1262@proton.me
Anonymous No.82084344
>>82084318
No. Literally ambush them from the trees and lock your jaw around their jugular until the warm spill of blood fills your mouth. Drag body back into tree and give lots of mouth cuddles
Anonymous No.82084356
>>82084165 (OP)
Most of the cliques r just satan talking to himself. He thought it looks cool basically. They dont even have souls, they are omnipotent. They also probably dont enjoy talking to eachother that much, thats why they show us their cliques becuz, satan likes to show us power n authority n sexual denial. Which is what he uses his clones to do. Most of it is just pretty boring tho becuz, u cant break a mind like that. The real way he mindbreaks is thru rape and electrocutions.
Anonymous No.82084402 >>82084418
I usually talk to people in these threads. If someone decides I'm cool and I decide they cool, I give them my email, and from the email we exchange Discord tags
Anonymous No.82084418 >>82084466
>>82084402
Did you make friends through that or did it stop at online acquaintances?
Anonymous No.82084430 >>82084462
>>82084165 (OP)
i add people from 4chan, i have befriended a few people this way and its comfy. sometimes it also doesnt work out, but the times it does is worth it
Anonymous No.82084462 >>82084510
>>82084430
on r9k or did you go to places that were dedicated to making friends?
Anonymous No.82084466
>>82084418
Had a couple penpalls that we went back and forth for a bit. Met someone last week but we ain't messaged in a couple days so who knows if it's gonna keep going.

Most of my friends I met through other friends, and most of those guys I met in the Army.
Anonymous No.82084510
>>82084462
i have made friends on several boards! i dont go to places dedicated to making friends tho, it never worked out when i did:(
Anonymous No.82084567 >>82084618
I wish I could make friends from here
Anonymous No.82084618 >>82084635
>>82084567
What kind of friend you want, anon?
Anonymous No.82084622 >>82084628 >>82084670
i dont know what a friend would look like anymore
i have no idea why anyone would want to talk to me and i dont have anything i want to talk about with them
it all seems like a burden
i dont want to bother people and i dont want to be bothered
i think im unfixable
Anonymous No.82084628 >>82084640
>>82084622
U should go for a Latina girlfriend. And give her 3 kids.
Anonymous No.82084635 >>82084677
>>82084618
Someone to talk about anime with, play some games, someone who isn't overly needy and can hold a conversation
Anonymous No.82084640
>>82084628
Plap plap plap. Quedar embarazada!
Anonymous No.82084670
>>82084622
>i have no idea why anyone would want to talk to me and i dont have anything i want to talk about with them
That's my issues as well. I've been without any friends for so long that I can't find the confidence in myself that anyone would want to engage with me and therefore can't be bothered trying
Maybe someday the loneliness will subside, but it seems to only grow and grow as time passes
Anonymous No.82084677 >>82084690 >>82084712
>>82084635
>talk about anime
I don't watch much anime. I've seen and enjoyed a couple but I can't stand a lot of the genres. I have a burning, seething resentment for all Mahou Shojou and also Naruto

I play some vidya, but it's most Hunt: Showdown and Insurgency Sandstorm right now. What do play?
Anonymous No.82084690 >>82084765
>>82084677
>mahou shoujo
why though its cute
Anonymous No.82084699 >>82084746
>>82084165 (OP)
>you'd feel like an outsider even if you tried getting to know them
thats something everyone feels when trying to make new friends anon, it's not something new or exclusive to people like us. i agree that it has become harder, but its because no one wants to commit to friendships anymore. no one cares enough about each other. everyone is stuck in their own little bubble and closes everyone else outside. if you want to make friends, you need to have enough strength to pop other people's bubbles.
Anonymous No.82084712 >>82084765
>>82084677
I love magical girl anime, tragic. It's cute and wholesome and sometimes it's dark and mysterious.
As for games, not a ton of multiplayer ones, but I'd like to find ones to play with others. I just got Core Keeper and really enjoy things like Minecraft
Anonymous No.82084726 >>82084747
I don't know! I have a great start I think with someone that posted their disc on here today but I'm worried I'll ruin it.
Luckily she gave me a lot of great convo starters so I'll hit her up again soon and ask her about them. Hope she doesn't unadd me before then I'd love a chill online friend
Anonymous No.82084746 >>82084840
>>82084699
>you need to have enough strength to pop other people's bubbles.
Any wisdom you could share about how to do that? No matter how much I try being close with others, it feels so shallow and forced
Anonymous No.82084747
>>82084726
>she gave me a lot of great convo starters
That sounds promising. Good luck!
Anonymous No.82084753
>>82084165 (OP)
That's the neat part, you don't! But really it's nigh impossible to find a person you can relate to literally anywhere.
Anonymous No.82084765 >>82084776 >>82084870
>>82084690
>why though its cute
>>82084712
>love magical girl anime
Honestly the legitimate critique part of my brain turns off when I see it. It's just... offensively fuckin gay. I also hate slice of life shit. The list of anime I like is something like
>JoJos Bizarre Adventure (Seasons 1-3)
>Devilman Crybaby
>Berserk (Golden Age)
>Cyberpunk: Edgerunners
>One Punch Man
>Black Lagoon (Love/hate relationship with it)
>Akira
>Cowboy Bebop
>Neon Genesis: Evangelion

>not a ton of multiplayer ones
I used to not do multi-player, but one of my Army buddies recently got back in contact with me and got me into some.

As far as single player games though, you ever hear of Starsector? It's one of my all time favorites
Anonymous No.82084769 >>82084807
>>82084165 (OP)
It occurs to me that I indeed don't really make online friends any more from fora and I think a reason is just that they ban people so easily now so I can't show off a personaliy that attracts people any more.

All the old friends I made from weird places like Ellegirl.nl clearly sent me personal messages because I wished cancer onto everyone there.

God, Ellegirl.nl was the shit. I remember that place. No way modern fora don't ban you in a second for wishing cancer onto people for studying sociology.
Anonymous No.82084776 >>82084783 >>82084870
>>82084765
Holy normalnigger taste
Go back
Anonymous No.82084783
>>82084776
>normalnigger taste
What can I say, I'm not really a fuckin weeb
Anonymous No.82084807 >>82085259
>>82084769
>I think a reason is just that they ban people so easily now so I can't show off a personaliy that attracts people any more
That's the thing really, you can't just be yourself and find like-minded peeps bc of mods being sensitive pussies who hate anyone who slightly steps out of line
Anonymous No.82084811 >>82084824
>>82084165 (OP)
It's easy if you play the same game(s). That being said, I never had luck with internet "friends" outside of that context, and even then it depends. I made countless Discords for people I met online at THEIR request, but it always ended with me deleting both them and the Discord. I gave up on fake internet stuff long ago. It's only good if you casually play stuff together.
Anonymous No.82084824 >>82084860
>>82084811
Welp, if games is the only thing that connects you to a person, it's usually meant to fail sooner or later. I have learned that the games someone plays have little to do with their personality.
Anonymous No.82084840 >>82084942
>>82084746
>Any wisdom you could share about how to do that?
i dont really know anon, there's no secret method to make friends. genuinely care about them, keep trying, everything is a bit forced at the start and it doesnt feel right, it's okay.
its harder to find the right person rather than connect with the wrong ones, so, if after a while they dont seem to care as much, try someone else i guess. or you could just keep them as buddies, not every relationship has to be a close one.
Anonymous No.82084860 >>82084877 >>82084942
>>82084824
Dunno, I never met anyone online who didn't have some kinda selfish agenda. Like this Belgian guy kept bitching about how he's lonely and nobody cares about him, so we'd talk every day and even play some games together, but he would only spend time with me when it served him. If I needed to talk to him or something, he'd give me maybe 5 minutes before leaving. So I ghosted him, even though he gave me 200 EUR on Steam. I also deleted that Steam account.
Anonymous No.82084870 >>82084895
>>82084765
I do agree with >>82084776, you do kind of have normie taste, but anime is not for everyone.
>As far as single player games though, you ever hear of Starsector?
I am a PC gamer, I don't want to have to emulate it, and it doesn't look like my style.
Anonymous No.82084877
>>82084860
Oh and to be fair, I tried confronting him about it several times but he always had excuses. Basically he could never be wrong, and it was me who was being unreasonable. So yeah, a huge red flag.
Anonymous No.82084895 >>82084901
>>82084870
Brother it is a PC game. Sold for Mac Windows and Linux.

Anyway, it ain't everyone's cup of tea so I get it. I just like to mix my space trucking with big stupid space battles.
Anonymous No.82084901 >>82084916
>>82084895
My bad, google says it's a console game.
Anonymous No.82084916
>>82084901
Google is queer. Anyway, what genres you into for single player?
Anonymous No.82084942 >>82084989
>>82084860
Self-centered shits like that make me seethe so much
Good on you for ghosting him anon
>>82084840
>genuinely care about them, keep trying
The genuine part just is hard
If you can't build rapport from the beginning, it feels like it's doomed to not happen
Anonymous No.82084989 >>82085029
>>82084942
>The genuine part just is hard
i know anon, but you cant expect to receive without giving something first. it's a risk you need to take. you will be disappointed, you will be hurt, you'll probably meet awful people, its just how it is. but when you find the right person that treats you right then i believe all the effort and pain will be worth it. so dont give up!
Anonymous No.82085029 >>82085111
>>82084989
>but you cant expect to receive without giving something first
I agree but if what I can give isn't genuine, it would just mean I'm faking it and it doesn't feel right either. It feels like I lead them on and I find that to be quite the callous thing to do
Anonymous No.82085089
>How do you even make friends online anymore?
I don't know and I don't care.
Unless I get to have sex, I couldn't give a shit about making connections.
Anonymous No.82085111 >>82085167
>>82085029
>if what I can give isn't genuine
what makes you say it isnt? what do you consider genuine care? also, relationships are not something that can bloom in a matter of days. it takes time. it takes time to start genuinely caring too because, of course you won't care about someone you know almost nothing about. it's a process, it's not something you just decide to do.
>It feels like I lead them on
if it ends up in being genuine later on then i dont see the issue.
Anonymous No.82085167
>>82085111
>what do you consider genuine care?
If I think to myself "I'm genuinely curious what his thoughts about this are" instead of thinking "I have to ask him a question so he thinks I'm interested"
>relationships are not something that can bloom in a matter of days. it takes time
Yeah, you are right about that. Maybe my problem is that I compare these new acquaintanceships with people that have already known each other for years and that's why I'm unable to see it as something that can evolve into genuine care later on
>if it ends up in being genuine later on then i dont see the issue.
IF
Anonymous No.82085259
>>82084807
Yeah it's actually crazy how many boards changed so quickly due to the need to keep advertisers happy.
You could just call people faggots on myanimelist and gamefaqs in 2010 with no issue and that's a sure way to get banned now because every occurrence of "faggot" means ads sell less or something.