Thread 82102152

im genuinely worried that i might never be able to have a healthy relationship with someone because i become so obsessed with the person i love that it feels like i could die if they dont talk with me

it sucks that no one has ever really felt that way about me

>>82102152 (OP)
>tfw no yandere gf with super obsessive mental disorder problems

>>82102152 (OP)
What is their name?

>>82102152 (OP)
i would fucking kill most of my relatives that i love for this

>>82102269
Oh but it's hard anon. Staying up late nights convincing them you don't hate them while they try to gouge away at their flesh in penance. The delusions, the paranoia, the accusations, the non-stop instability. The complete detachment from reality. It's a complete mess.

>>82102290
i have a TON of love to give and all i want in life is to take care of my own little retard

>>82102303
It's not about volume of love, it's about ability to deal with the sheer insanity and navigate the delusions in such a way that it doesn't trigger them worse while also not reinforcing their worldview too hard. What do you do when you find them hacking their leg to bits because they thought you were mad at them? What do you do when it happens again and again and again despite all your best efforts to make it stop? There's a constant fatigue to this kind of relationship and no amount of love or effort can make that go away.

>>82102332
well i am smart and know when to not push their buttons as to not trigger this kind of thing. i want to do a psychiatry residency after medschool i think i am fit to handle this type of crazy.
>There's a constant fatigue to this kind of relationship and no amount of love or effort can make that go away.
Ok but love can motivate me to keep taking care of them. my love is bottomless and it will power me until shes fixed

>>82102169
i wish they could love me as much as i love them but it's never going to happen
>>82102179
god i wish
>>82102250
secret

>>82102350
>until shes fixed
She will never be fixed. I know a few women like this and even in their 40s they're still just as crazy and self destructive. Maybe it is the thing for you, but you really shouldn't go into it thinking that you can fix them at all. The best you can do is be a moderating influence but it really requires you to approach everything with a minimum of emotion.

>>82102389
Does your name start with the letter M?

>>82102404
yeah i am ready for the duties and responsabilities that come but i genuinely also i think i can be a highly positive role model for them. these women just need proper love and guidance and love sex

>>82102465
Well good luck to you anon. I prefer being friends with girls like that because they're more fun when they don't expect you to be the world for them. Might be a better way for you to find one, start as friends and move from there? Women like that post here from time to time, they usually sound completely insane so look for that lel

I have never had any kind of romantic relationship

>>82102493
yeah but i think they only end up talking to the abusive guys who want to use them only as sex objects might not even be their fault desu

>>82102152 (OP)
That's how I feel with my ex, been more than 10 years since she left me tho so each day has been nothing but pain. She moved on and didn't think of me while I'm stuck thinking of her all the time and his happy she must be, and I'm near the breaking point of ending it.

>>82102526
How happy she must be*

>>82102512
From my observations that's not quite the case. It's that these women give off a certain vibe that abusive men are drawn to and they're very susceptible to the kind of strong, confident advances that an abusive guy will use on them. If you look up revictimization that's basically what's happening, almost every one of these women has some kind of PTSD. You have to approach them with that in mind, be accepting of them, persistent even if they're not immediately receptive, but not so persistent as to be harassing them. It helps to just talk to them here over the course of a few days/weeks. You'll have to learn to recognize their writing style though. Alternatively, make a mental illness thread or a yandere thread and look for them in there. Keep doing that for a while and you'll get some hits as long as you have basic social skills.

>>82102565
thank you anon very good advice

>>82102389
yeah no one could ever genuinely feel that way about me but good luck i guess