Thread 82110659

what is it like to have "bros", a "squad", or "the boys"? Is it fun? Is it nice? Do such groups really exist how I think they do?

>>82110659 (OP)
actually lucked out and got one, we are all kinda losers(at least me anyway). but its my 2 friends from HS and their family.
My friends older brother hangs out with us too its pretty fun yeah.

>>82110681
Can you speak freely and do stuff without worrying it will all be used against you at some point behind your back?

>>82110760
Not the guy you are replying to but yes, basically all that. I can't fathom saying the things I say and doing the stuff I do around anyone else but the bros, and we trust each other pretty well. There's 4 of us

>>82111255
That sounds so nice. I wish I could ever have that

>>82110659 (OP)
i had a squad where we smoked weed together

>>82110760
im the original guy by the way.
Yeah I can speak freely about whatever i want essentially, I just try not to be rude because we all respect each other and my friends mom is super nice to me.
I've never had anything i said to them used against me we've been friends for 10 years almost.
We don't do any macho shit talking to each other either, occasional teasing because we know each others weird ass fetishes and other stuff but we don't dick measure ever.
We mostly play card games and chill at LGSs all day. It's really nice if i didnt have it i would kill myself over not having a gf and otherstuff honestly i would have killed myself in HS if not for them.

>>82111293
We all met online when younger. If you try to develop relationships with people online that you find interesting and do stuff with them regularly, you can nurture something line that too. We've met up numerous times irl since despite coming from different places.

>>82110659 (OP)
I had an amazing group of friends in high school and we called eachother "the boys." I lost contact after going to college, starting my career and my family but they helped shape me into who I am today. Miss those guys.

>>82111302
Sounds fun
>>82111338
It all sounds lovely I am glad you have it and hope you always do
>>82111340
I was raised by vipers and I have only known much friendship with vipers, i will never have it. i can never relax with anyone or i know i will pay for it
>>82111356
Maybe you could find them again

I pity the "men" who never got to enjoy having bros, a squad, or the boys to hang out with. Just imagine having multiple friends joking around having a good time discussing what's going on coming up with plans and ideas. Imagine being able to walk into any room with your boys and all the loners and smaller groups just immediately give you space and respect because there's more of you, its like you dominate the room. Its a great confidence boost. Like I think that when incels lament about not having girls or the confidence to get girls i would bet that they never had bros to form a squad with and that just killed their ability from the get go to ever feel confident or secure. Like I can't even imagine what I would have done if I didn't have my broa there to talk about girls with and teach me the tricks of the trade early on. Telling me who the sluts and the good girls were and how to approach, etc. I'd probably be a completely different person lol.

>>82111356
man that sucks, i almost lost contact with my friends but we stayed on discord and stuff so we kept as close together as possible up until now because we are together again.
>>82111376
its nice, you can only have it when you've been friends for a long time i think otherwise its not really possible unfortunately. i do wish i made long standing female friends too but it was never really in the cards. i won't make anymore real friends like that in life i don't think so im just enjoying things day by day

>>82111376
I don't know you so I can't say anything about your situation. But be aware that trust isn'r something that comes quickly, especially if it's people you've met online. We've known each other for over 10 years now, and I'd say we only really starting trusting each other closely in the last 3-4 years. Building up proper trust takes that long, or even longer, and it's a gradual process, but once you have it it's priceless. I can only hope for you that you'll be willing to try.
Captcha: M8HPY

>>82111415
All I have or ever had are female friends, it sucks and I hate it I cannot ever trust them truly, worse yet they imprinted themselves onto me and I will thus always be someone nobody can ever truly trust
>>82111472
It is over and it is okay I accepted it a long time ago

>>82111490
Sorry to hear that bro. Wish you strength and happiness

>>82111490
lol, thats the reason i never made any. women are just very flaky and unreliable. you can't build a genuine bond with them most of the time its like walking on glass.
my friends only gf was a psycho bitch that tried to rip our group apart.
>not all women
eh whatever i think a percentage out there are real but its too small for me to take a risk at this point in life. how old are you? it takes a good bit but it can work.
My friend A was friends with me first we just were dumbasses in class and stuff friend B we both hated each other at first and always argued.
Eventually we just clicked into place when i spent more time with B and hung out with him until his mom picked him up afterschool.
You could just be friends with one other guy you don't really need a "squad" per se.
one of those overmasculine dumbass friend groups full of macho bros isnt that much better than a group full of snake women doe

>>82111513
Thank you and you too
>>82111564
I am 22, I don't think I can change much anymore. One single friend would be great but I don't have a good track record trying that

>>82111627
im only a little older than you...if you've fully accepted being alone i'd say cut off the people in your life making you feel untrustworthy and embrace being a loner its not great i was a loner for a long time and i think my weird behavior i have now is the result.
but if you can try it i think you should, its not like trying to get a gf, its much more sensible i guess. You literally can just be yourself this time and make a single friend you would just have to put some effort in and watch out for snakes.

>>82110659 (OP)
are you really a girl? hanging out with people is a lot of fun! you get to go to parties and not have to worry about anything because people will support you.

I've had two GFs and I'd trade every experience with them to have had a male friend group in my teens and 20s. I'm a socially stunted freak now.

>>82111678
To be myself I have to be a horrible human being because I am horrible
>>82111726
No I am not a woman!
>>82111769
Same but I have never had a girlfriend or any interest in one, I'd sacrifice every friendship with women I have ever had my entire life for a small male friend group

>>82111769
why doe, you didn't feel anything when you were with them?
Im not saying i wish i was you i would never trade my friends for a gf because it doesn't seem worth it for 10 minutes of sex every now and then yeah i know that's not all a relationship is but thats pretty much all it boils down to when separated from a friendship desu

>>82111780
>No I am not a woman!
what do you mean? why did you post that tranime pic then?

>>82111800
I did, both were great for a while. To be honest it would be a lot to lose to give that up. But I lost so, so much never having actual friends. And you can be really lonely even with a gf when you have absolutely no friends outside of them. I understand some of you with male friend groups have felt intensely lonely from nogf too, neither are a replacement. I truly believe not having the experience of a male friend group, or at least friends of any kind, destroyed my prospects in life

i look down on people with 'friends', these idiots don't even have friends, they have butt buddies who they mutually ego stroke with. most your 'friends' would back stab you and wouldn't sacrifice shit to save you, if you have good examples of them actually helping you, then that's fine, but most peoples friends are fair weather only, yet they believe they actually have real friends lol

>>82111803
because Osaka is funny I like her deadpan expression

>>82111803
KYS Jakshit

>>82111848
Osaka loves BBC for real.

>>82111849
Nobody on /r9k/ talks about tranime thoughever. This is more of a sex advice board.

>>82111834
i don't feel any tfw nogf anymore, i definitely feel IMMENSELY horny but i don't care about a gf anymore i used to be really romantic but that time is over. I could maybe romance a girl but honestly she would have to be putting in more effort than me at that point otherwise i dont care.
I understand they don't replace each other but i like having friends more better im more comfortable.
Im a loner basically when we aren't hanging out but i feel so secure in the fact i will always have my friends to hang out with at the end of the day.
That i feel is 100% better than a performative relationship which 99% of them are.
>>82111845
mine literally dragged me from the depths of suicide so i'd say i'm good, their mom makes really good food so thats a bonus
>>82111780
thats a tough one, i consider myself a bad person too because the environment i grew up in demanded it of me, but obviously making friends helped me curb it...a little i still do what i have to sometimes

>>82111882
>thoughever
Thanks for confirming, Jakshit. Also nice reading comprehension

>>82111895
>reading comprehension
autism

such a mundane thing is totally alien to you for some reason