Thread 82156596

Why cant I form a relationship with anyone my age apart from men who are twice as old as me willing to show interest to date me because Im virgin

>>82156596 (OP)
I'm probably older than you bu-
>virgin
Oh never mind

if you can't even get gay men interested, it's completely over

>>82156596 (OP)
That's a actually a good question, why are you not? Aren't there desperate virgins in all age brackets? How come you meet these old men, and not young men?

>>82156596 (OP)
How many solar revolutions have you completed?

>>82156620
Men never approach me irl but approach my friends ive been rejected several times so ive given up . Its easier to find people with similar interests online so I go onto forums or soc but its always old men who are only interested

>>82156681
How old are you and what do you look like? Provide a robust physical description at once.

>>82156681
What are your hobbies, could you not find a partner that way? How young are you exactly?
I can understand there being a lot of pump and dump elderly men on soc and other forums just pumping out contact forms to every single female they see.

>>82156692
Im 19 I have pale skin brown eyes brown hair bangs slim
>>82156708
Im a depressive slop I dont have much hobbies I stay at home most days unless its for college or to go to the gym most guys my age go out partying I was the antisocial one

>>82156596 (OP)
Maybe because you hang around sites and places that have always been of another generation thats not yours you stupid zoomette. Thats like me going to a retirement home and complaining all the bitches are 3 times my age and widowed. No shit. Go find a boyfriend on TikTok or whatever your kind uses. Just fuck off.

>>82156728
What college do you go to? I can show up and impregnate you.

>>82156728
>Im a depressive slop I dont have much hobbies I stay at home most days unless its for college or to go to the gym
Too bad you live in America. I do have a few hobbies and could help you find some.

>>82156740
I dont I lm in Europe
>>82156729
I like forum based sites but obviously 4chan isnt the only one I use i find most social medias boring like instagram tiktok whatever

>>82156728
What do you want in a relationship (if that's even what you want).
I want to encourage you to not let people abuse you in your search of happiness. I know it's common to tell people to settle, but there's one thing you should never settle on, and that is the way people treat you.
Do not let some abusive person use you up as an object, just because you want love (if that is what you want).
I'm 100% sure that there are men at your age that are in similar situations and which you could enjoy your time with, so don't give up. You're still very young, and you really should not have to worry about settling. As for now, just try your best to be social with people your own age, maybe join a book circle or a board game group or something.

>>82156596 (OP)
Why do you hate 30+ men?

We just want to be happy, too.

>>82156764
I dont hate them I find it depressing how theyre the only ones interested simply because Im young and virgin I want to experience a relationship with someone my age so I can grow old with them and not someone whos closer to dying than me

>>82156596 (OP)
>twice as old as me
Why would you want that?

>>82156752
>I dont I lm in Europe
Oh, I was thinking by college you meant university. You should get hobbies though. This is the only time in life when you can actually properly get into them unless you become a housewife and don't immediately get pregnant. Time is precious afterwards. Do you want to chat elsewhere? I have to sleep very soon as it's 2am and I have to go to work.

>>82156764
You have to consider, that most of the 30+ men that approach her are probably dark triad creeps who've spent a decade+ pumping and dumping young girls, not the lonely virgin 30+ men that we are.
>>82156781
Yeah, it kinda sucks desu.

>>82156758
Ive tried to but I just cant find anyone I can click with I struggle to make friends because of how different we are I grew up chronically online so I have "niche" interests which can only be found on the internet

>>82156791
Hey, don't stress her out, she's just 19. There is plenty of time for her to get into hobbies and shit.
>>82156796
What are your niche interests?

>>82156795
agreed its the reason why theyre approaching I know a girl whos 20 and she was engaged to a 37 year old some girls like that but for me personally its just a no she ended up divorcing him too the maturity difference didnt work out plus he knew her when she was 17

>>82156752
Ah so you come here to bait some 30 year old to pump and dump you. Whatever have fun. When shit gets weird remember I told you to fuck off to your generations sites or apps or whatever.

>>82156596 (OP)
>tfw too old to date a virgin woman as a virgin man

>>82156818
This hurts so bad. I'm 34 right now and still a virgin. 35 next March.

I guess I have to settle for a late 20s/early 30s girl at this point. I don't even care about the virginity that much anymore. I just want to be loved and love in return.

>>82156811
>the maturity difference didnt work out
Which kinda leaves old ass losers like me in an impossible position. I can't go with girls my own age because I'm mentally still a fucking child, but I can't go with young girls, because that's just fucking weird.
I'll guess I just gotta cope and keep being forever alone for the rest of my life.
God, why did I have to miss out on young love with all its freedoms, where things didn't matter and you could just be together for the hell of it.
Now I'm old, and for a relationship to work I'll have to actually have something to build it on, and a future for it to go into.

>>82156808
I like the ideas of human history and migration such as the Neolithic period culture and ancestors , I like reading Nietzsche which yeah hes the most popular philosopher yet no one I know knows him or his work irl ( Im nihilistic myself ) , I like listening to trance and edm oldskool , I love visiting museums and art galleries specifically war museums with tanks and guns . this definitely doesn't sound niche at all but where Im from no one is fond with most of this

>>82156814
So is 4chan a 30+ website?
>>82156818
There has to be some virgin women around hookup culture ruined the idea of sex after marriage but most conservative Christian women are pure for the least

>>82156808
>There is plenty of time for her to get into hobbies and shit.
Depends on how she spends her time. A lot of people here end up doing nothing because they thought they had plenty of time. I'm not asking her to do everything immediately, but that she needs to plan ahead.

>>82156814
Dude, relax.
>>82156818
Yup, shits sucks. I guess we just gotta be oofy doofys and take some sloppy seconds (more like sloppy 500ds), but I'm not gonna do that. I'd rather die alone.
>>82156837
Do you also get baby panic or whatever? It's not like a woman would ever date me either way, but I'm afraid of women my age, because they want to settle down and start families, and I feel like I'd be a jerk and waste a girls time if I entered into a relationship with her, knowing that I'm in no way ready for that (and probably never will be).
>>82156845
Could you perhaps go to your local museum and hear if they have any social clubs or stuff for people that are interested in such subjects? What are you studying at university, have you considered maybe taking a course in any of these subjects, might be a good place to find similar people?

>>82156791
I wouldnt mind chatting depending on your age lel I used to have hobbies like art cooking exercising playing the violin but my depression has practically consumed me and I dont find the same joy I used to when I had those hobbies they became dull to me

>>82156862
>So is 4chan a 30+ website?
Yeah, pretty much.
I mean, too be fair, there are a lot of zoomers here as well. But they come and go, and the old farts such as us stick around, because we never grow out of ut, we never leave the nest, unlike most young people who maybe only visit for a year or so.
>There has to be some virgin women around
The issue is that there's a lot of abusive and manipulative men out there who manage to eat up these women before any of us can even get close to them. Also, Christian women aren't the best choice. We're romantics and losers, not necessarily religious puritans.

>>82156862
>but most conservative Christian women are pure
(nta) False. Also I'm not a Christian myself.

>>82156870
I study science right now and its an empty class , most people there already have their friends from high school and dont bother with socialising . I dont have any museums in my city apart from nature ones which ive visited countless times , most of the museums Ive gone to where when I was abroad or in a different city .

>>82156905
I'm just curious, where do you live?
That sucks, are there no communities online for these interests where you could perhaps find someone that is also from your area?

>>82156905
Ive gone to were* stupid typo

>>82156885
I'm old but I look young, so you can pretend I'm roughly your age :) . I used to play a brass instrument too, but recently I've just been playing the piano. I would like to see if I can help since I studied psychology. My discord is henry_the_survivor and everyone can add me if they just want someone to chat too.

>>82156870
>Do you also get baby panic or whatever?
I don't know what this means, but I really don't want kids. I think raising kids is annoying and just want a long-term partner. No marriage.

>>82156818
>>82156837
I know that feel bros. I'm not a virgin by choice, I tried to date in my 20s but I couldn't get a date. I didn't have my shit together career-wise until my late 20s and that still wasn't enough, and I age really slowly, I had acne into my late 20s, and now I'm 33 and I still can't grow a full beard (I think it'll be a few more years but it's still somewhat sparse on the sides), and apparently because I was a late bloomer I'm just not allowed to date women who are at the same stage as me in terms of relationship experience.

>just date women in their 30s
Even if we put aside the waning fertility issues they don't want men like us. We don't have the necessary experience to be the kind of men they want, they're looking to settle down with someone who has all the relationship stuff figured out, they don't want inexperienced men.

>>82156916
Im from Rutland it has a population of less than 45k its awfully small well thats what makes it peaceful in some aspect but still

>>82156939
>Rutland
Oi!!!
Best of luck to ya, ladie!

>>82156930
I dont care what you look like appearance is the least of my concerns I just want to experience being with someone whos my age just like everyone else sorry if that sounded blunt and rude

>>82156959
Please understand, our types are desperate, we don't mean anything by it.

these relationshit simulator results say you hate relationshits

>>82156968
your types would also leave me once they take my virginity and realize we have nothing in common apart from being a sex bot

>>82156976
If I were to leave we wouldn't be able to start a family and raise children together.

>>82156976
Maybe... Maybe not. I'd like to believe that I would not just leave a woman after taking her virginity, because I'd like to believe that I wouldn't even be intimate with a woman that I didn't already love.
I'll be honest friend, I deeply admire that you're protecting your virginity, and I hope you keep at it. I hope you save it for the man that you love and that loves you, and that deserves to be the one to share such an important and intimate moment with you, and I hope that he is a virgin as well and didn't waste his first time on some whore.

P.S. I can't speak for the other anon. But my interest in women is not to just only sleep with.

>>82156986
Point is theyre only interested because Im a young woman whos a virgin , understandable but theres no use in being in a relationship then . Ones working full time the other is busy studying how would that work? Alongside maturity , aging it would just be a ridiculous relationship . Being with someone simply because theyre a virgin isnt a real relationship its just a fetish

>>82157016
I wish there were more anons like you you sound very genuine and I hope you achieve your goals in life . Hookup culture has ruined relationships and trust even I wouldnt want to get with a man who has a body count of over 3 even though 1 is still too much for me , it goes to show how easy people are and how they have no self respect with themselves

>>82156959
Sorry, should have made it clearer I just want someone to talk to. Not looking for a relationship with you at all because I would prefer someone closer to my age too. I only mentioned that nearer the end and that was quite vague.

>>82157019
>Ones working full time the other is busy studying how would that work?
Uh, the same way any relationship works? Do you think if two older people get together they don't have jobs or something? Or if two younger people get together they don't have education systems to be in? It doesn't make sense.

>Being with someone simply because theyre a virgin isnt a real relationship its just a fetish
That's not why I want to be with someone it's because I want to be with someone who's at the same life stage as I am. Personally virginity isn't a strict requirement but I couldn't date/marry a woman who's had a lot of experience because she's at a different stage in life from me. Most if not all women my age have been dating for years and we cannot relate to one another whereas late teens / early 20s women are far more likely to be at the same stage of life as me, in terms of relationship experience.

>>82157048
You dont get it at 30 years old youre expected to start a family which I want as well when I reach 30 years of age , studying and work will get in the way of a relationship exam pressure and all the other stuff . Im not saying its impossible and not achievable but itll be hard to maintain along side sexual life and social life

>>82157057
I'm not really sure what you're saying. Are you saying you don't want to date at all until you're done with education? Because that doesn't seem specific to having an older partner.

>start a family which I want as well when I reach 30 years of age
You shouldn't leave it that late, though. I wish I'd started a family in my early 20s. Would have gotten my career going a lot sooner if I had, and I would prefer to have had kids already.

>>82156976
NTA, but, wrong. am 36, was married to a girl from here for years that was way younger.

She cheated on me, which sucks, and I broke it off after that. Currently kinda with another girl from here that's 18

>>82157178
Thats just gross, dude.

>>82156933
dating millenial women is just severe settling
even when you take out the age thing, studies are showing that zoomer women are far less promiscuous than millennial women are (or were)

definitely gotta snap up a cute 22-28yo foid soon-ish

>>82157178
>another girl from here thats 18
So youre just proving you have a fetish for virgin girls whilst not being a virgin yourself oh how the jokes write themselves

>>82157260
she wasn't a virgin tho.

>>82157231
why? We were good friends for a bit, got along really well, then met up and seem to enjoy each other's company. I've been pretty much living with her for 5~ months out of this year.

>>82157284
You obviously have a fetish for younger women because theyre stereotypically more pure if she wasnt a virgin why dont you date someone your age instead of younger women?

>>82157303
>why dont you date someone your age
Millennial women are awful.

>>82157303
>if she wasnt a virgin why dont you date someone your age instead of younger women?
Honestly? Idk.
Too be fair, I'm not dating anyone, but for some reason the few women who I ever actually conversate with (before they get boyfriends or whatever and move on) tend to be 5 years younger then me.
Also, it's scary with women my age. They got their life together, they got ambitions, they want to start families. I'm still a neet, and have no hopes of ever being anything else... I would just waste the time of a woman my age.

>>82156728
sounds like you should be perfect for an older man then, they wanna mentor you. no one else is gonna want that, fix your own shit first if you want to date a young man.

>>82157986
Shut the fuck up. There is literally nothing to fix you fucking faggot!

>>82157303
the only reason why I'm dating my current GF is that we clicked really well?

I don't tend to click with people my own age, but I'm not opposed to dating a hag.

>>82157057
>start thinking about family when uts already too late.
Many such cases.
Enjoy the cats. No men will pick you after who knows what your bc and baggage will be by then.

>>82156728
well do you have friends? online ones don't count

>>82156596 (OP)
Same as you but 23 year old guy, well i used to be but gave up long ago.

>classic "WHY DOES THE BOARD FULL OF VIRGINS WANT VIRGINS???" slop

you're all stupid and OP is a man

>>82158944
No and I dont really consider the ones I have online as friends either
>>82157551
understandable then

>>82156596 (OP)
Try talking to women retard
>>82156862
>website made 20 years ago
all the 40 year olds are on /a/

>>82159004
OP being a man is the premise
>>82159004
you gave up on aging?

>>82159213
You really should be trying to get friends. Not having friends can surely not be good for your psyche.
How come you don't have any friends?

>>82159254
The ones I had in high school were very toxic and just overall made me the anti social person I am today . I made a previous reply saying how I cant find anyone with similar interests as me who doesnt bore me since I live in such a shitty small town. Every teenager here just goes to the club drinking in their own friend groups

>>82159281
Can you vent a bit about how your highschool was?
Do you have any thoughts of moving? It does not seem like the place you live is good for you.
I'll be honest, at first the statement about people "boring" you sounds very toxic, but if it's true what you say, and it's just a town full of country bumpkins who like to go out drinking, then I can understand.

>>82159293
My high school revolved around switching from friend group time to time kt was full of gossip and drama always attention centred and male centred . I was practically the back up friend where people would turn to if they had a favour or wanted to use me as their own personal therapist . After lockdown I became more distant and it just got worse from there on , drama with girls surrounding men and being two faced for instance I was close with a girl whod just party all day and have threesomes at 14 . Theyd never invite me to any social events and just exclude me . I remember hiding in the bathroom stalls listening to music on my mp3 player because of how much I hated being with them

>>82159354
Oh yeah, lockdown... I didn't consider that that was a thing for your generation. That sucks.
>threesomes at 14
YUCK.

>>82156752
>Europe
France? If yes I'll go on a date with you.
I am 25 and look decebt but I have severe PTSD which is the latest ick apparently

>>82159403
just marry a veteran then

>>82159230
Gave up on relationships.

>>82159403
>thread about old men only wanting to date me and no one my age
> hey I'm 25 !
Kek

>>82156728
>fell for the ol' "never go outside and meet people" blunder
lol everytime it's the same fucking "I've tried nothing and I'm all out of ideas" ahh behaviour

>>82159403
Watch out guy! She's English! Your kinds mortal enemy!

>>82159586
That tip obviously doesn't work when the types of people you meet by going outside aren't the types you enjoy being around either way.
Sure, I could go to a bar and meet people, but the people there are drunks, and I'm a absolutist, so what's the point?
I could go to a club, but wait, I don't like dancing or loud noises and wild places, and the people there like that kind of stuff.

You just need an Asian man in your life

>>82159586
My town litterally has a population of 45k like I havent said that enough everyone knows everyone here and finding people with similar interests is near impossible when you dont party and get drunk all day

>>82156596 (OP)
>Why do the young idiots in my age bracket just want to use me for pleasure(non committal fun) and discard me instead of committing their life to me (hard responsibility)

Because young people just want to have fun and don't know the value you carry. Really they're doing you a favor.