Thread 82159260

F 19 online dating M20 hes my first boyfriend and I love him deeply we've been dating for 6 months but he's becoming more distant and I don't know what to do . Hes stopped telling me gm and gn he rarely texts me anymore and says it's to do with uni which I understand since hes stopped playing games on steam and asks me for help from time to time. Before we would be talking all day , calling all day , playing games spending time with each other. I don't want to believe we're falling off as I truly love him and he says the same to me but I don't know how I can keep coping. We were supposed to meet this October but can't until he gets his uni sorted . Should I keep going, realistically can we work out? I don't want to lose him

He says he hopes we can meet but there's no specific date . Realistically if we do last it won't be until next year

>>82159260 (OP)
don't you have parents you could ask this sort of thing to?
>>>/adv/ is where i'd direct you if you were serious
since you're probably part of the pernicious transgender spam this board has been suffering, I'll instead advise suicide
>>>/lgbt/

>>82159260 (OP)
You have to take things to the next level, not meeting someone for 6months will automatically do that.
What are you guys plans for actually making this relationship real?

>>82159260 (OP)
online dating lmfao might as well date with rock

>>82159271
my parents are very strict and conservative they practically made me anti social which is why I never grew up socialising getting into relationships and having friends . His parents know about me but dont support it since they think I might be a distraction towards him because of how stressful his uni has been lately .
> adv
its dead as usual and not many good advice given >>82159273
we want to meet and have intentions on doing so we just don't know when is possible due to the circumstances given . Before I dated him I told him we might not be able to meet until 2 years which he said he doesnt care about and will be there for me. I'm committed to make this last since I really love
>>82159290
Hes still a person behind the screen who I love
him

>>82159323
>due to the circumstances given
What are these circumstances?

>>82159260 (OP)
Drop that little low test faggot and get you a real man. I got a dirty early 30s cock with your name on it sweet cheeks. Strong musk rn from lack of a shower too

you need to fly to him ASAP and cling to him like a leech 24/7 until he proposes to you

>>82159260 (OP)
Why ask this in a board of incels? are you retarded? Also if this a long distance relationship then i dont blame him, probably found a real hole to creampie.
>t. 23 year old guy

>>82159358
hes studying medicine ( in a different country with a one hour time difference ) and tells me about how he keeps retaking exams since hes failing them and how it puts pressure on him . He spends 10 hours everyday revising which he didnt before and I feel guilty knowing I was partially to blame for his slack. I wake up hours later than him when hes his busiest so I dont get to talk with him much apart from the occasional sweet messages we send back and fourth. I live with my parents and share a room with my sister so whenever we call I need to be alone or muted so our relationship doesnt get exposed since my parents are schizos . Overall we just havent been communicating much as we did in the start of our relationship which makes it feel distant and the fact I cant talk with him much

>>82159260 (OP)
>F 19
>M 20
Why are you typing like you're on reddit?

>>82159383
This is the least incel board on here and we're on 4chan
>>82159394
Honestly the age part was irrelevant for me to add but it shows we're both students and young so first love yk

>>82159393
Why do you not move out? Why do you not visit him?

>>82159260 (OP)
You're retarded for dating someone over the internet and also he's in uni. Find real people around you to make meaningful connections before it's too late, but you'll end up sad and lonely when you eventually break up anyways because you're a foid and women are stupid and clingy retards. First loves suck ass

Ahahahahaha he found a better girl

>>82159426
>find real people
wow thanks that sounds so easy as if I dont go to college myself
>>82159423
I live in the uk and I dont have a job the prices of houses let alone apartments are extremely expensive and my parents are wealthy and want me to live near them . I cant visit my boyfriend either since we've not exchanged personal details and he lives in a Slavic shithole

>>82159415
>This is the least incel board on here and we're on 4chan
Okay, regardless men like path of least resistance, and since university has lots of slut phase girls, then you can connect the dots. Theres a reason guys dont want their partners going to these cesspools.

>>82159437
Can't you get a council-house or whatever they call them? You know, get the government to pay for you?
>Slav boyfriend
Look, you do you, and I'm not gonna tell you your love is wrong or anything, but how in the hell did that happen and what were you thinking?

>>82159439
he could just break things off with me if that was the case I trust him enough to not cheat on me and I know hed just break up instead of wasting both of our times. Also hes busy with studying he doesnt have the time to be talking with other girls hes not desperate for a relationship

>>82159452
>hes not desperate for a relationship
Who said anything about relationships? You mentioned he is slavic am i too, and would be fucking these girls if had any chance while pretending with you that im studying kek.
>hed just break up
Why though? Possible future EU card and sex while also getting some right now.

>>82159449
Council houses are given to people who have an income of less thag 24k a year I think I live with a wealthy family so that wont work lol you also need like 2 years of work experience to get a job which I have but I cant get one anywhere sadly
>how the hell did that happen
This made me giggle we just met on a chat site and clicked off from there , our cultures are slightly similar too since Im caucasian

>>82159415
You seem to view this relationship as just that - a first love. I wouldn't worry too much - it likely won't last

>>82159459
Just because youre a Slavic douche bag who admits to cheating doesnt mean my bf is the same. Again hes busy with studying he doesnt even leave his house let alone have the time to cheat. He tells me about all the times hes had ex girls contact him . I trust him is that hard for you to grasp?

>>82159479
>admits to cheating
Sweet summer child. Its not cheating if its long distance, you might aswell just be chatgpt.

>>82159483
and you guys cry about women dating men for looks and say theyre more likely to cheat more -_- sorry for loving someone who showed that he cares for me when I was suicidal

>>82159485
>you guys cry
Im not most guys here and still a virgin, I would still "cheat" on yo dumbass if i was him as you are basically as real as chatgpt to me. I wouldnt waste my time dating girls these days anyways. Maybe you see it differently cause your young, but chicks my age are already over.

>>82159493
maybe thats why youre still a virgin

>>82159498
No. Woman loved me more than ever when i was thinking like you. Could get laid with fags like you if i tired. I simply dont, gave up already cause this love shit is gay and fake. And nice touch that you admit that the only value of a woman is sex. Otherwise why use virgin as a insult.

>>82159498
Youre mentality is what makes you a virgin youve never felt loved thats why you act like the way you do . Keep self projecting this is why youre miserable , even if my boyfriend is a said cheater I wouldnt regret dating him because I loved him

>>82159507
Thats fine, Then even if he cheated you would still love him, whats the point of this thread? You either are insecure that he wont stay thus admitting you dont trust him, or you just answered it. I gave you a real possibility of what could happen.

>>82159534
Because I know hes not cheating retard youre self projecting

>>82159547
Love is a strong thing lad. You cant truly know it because you arent even in the same country as him and he is not wearing a gopro to livestream his entire life. If you trust him that much and he is truly that. The question is pointless as he wont leave you.

>>82159561
the thread wasnt about wether he is going to leave me or not it's if I should continue with it because of the distancing and uni , how realistic it would be for me and him to last long . I want to protect my peace than having false hope on a relationship that I dont know will last or not. I know hes not cheating because we still call for hours and he sends me gifts just not as much as we used to. Ive spent hours helping him with assignments and he talks to me about them again hes studying medicine

>>82159260 (OP)
Can't you get a small job and save up and fly out to him? I know the job market is pretty bad but there are some shitty jobs for women to do. I'm in the UK too and have a long distance gf in the US, she fell in love with me, I had forgotten what that was like it had been so long, but dam its difficult to get there even though I have some small money, they don't want us to leave the country. I'd say hold on to your love of him and carry on making an effort, if he can't appreciate that there is something wrong. I'm actually in a similar situation to you with my egf, she has become distant and is about to go to college (rip) so I'm thinking shes gotten over it, it was nice having someone even if they are far, I am still fighting for it and putting in an effort though but I think its pretty much over for me. As for the personal details bit that seems odd that you don't know where he lives or anything. All in all I wish you the best with it, don't give up just yet but don't rule out cutting your losses, especially if you find another good man. Be 100% honest and open with your ebf and ask if he has gotten bored of the idea of the both of you, if he hasn't and it seems genuine keep going with it.

>>82159479
>let alone have the time to cheat
Now that's real cope. I don't want to plant seeds of doubt in your head, and I don't think you should worry about it. But for most people banging on out takes next to no time.
How many ex-girlfriends does this guy have, btw?

>>82159589
You said on the last part on the thread "I don't want to lose him" Meaning you dont want him to leave. Any online relationship is not bound to last. Its why when i meet people even off this forsaken site i tend to meet them irl and have a good time. You also think im projecting but this is experience since i work in office job with many female co workers. So the kind of stuff i said is quite common. Why just not ask him why he is not doing as much as he used to? I see with lots of girls in the same spot as you simply expecting him to read your mind. The real reason might be because he is locking in to finish the med school. Its very obvious to him so he thought no words are needed. Also honeymoon phase is a thing.

>>82159485
I care about you if you're suicidal as well, that's not love.
I'm glad you two love eachother, but don't come up with stupid explanations for what love is, it's not that complex.

>>82159590
Thanks I really appreciate it especially how we're going through very similar situations so it's easier to understand. Money isnt an issue for any of us and about personal detail hes just worried about having his information leaked since hes had bad experiences with his ex gfs who cyber stalk him. We have each others phone numbers and know which cities we live in just nothing personal like address. When we do meet up eventually (hopefully) none of that will become an issue. I just hope me and him can go back to spending hours with each other after all of his uni stuff is done. I do ask him regularly if he needs to break or distance and he says he doesnt want to. I start college soon so maybe I'll become distant myself .

Have you had sex? Do you want to?

>>82159616
he only has one which he didnt really consider a relationship since it was less than 2 months of dating and she was an American girl , all she would do is send him nudes he told me when he cammed up with her shed hide her face since she would edit it with filters and how her body was fat kek. Besides that I didnt meet him to date him we were just casual friends and I opened up about killing myself and how my life at home is so depressing since my parents raised me anti social so I practically grew up on the internet. He confessed his feelings to me and we hit it off from there, hes told his friends and family about me which I know is true since his friends leave retard comments on my steam now and then so I do trust him. Hes very open whenever I ask him
>>82159626
yeah the way I worded it sounds like hes with me to prevent me from killing myself but the day before I was supposed to he confessed he liked me and how he was worried for me he sounded really genuine then on the day I was supposed to he spam called me and I just gave in and he was crying on the phone saying how much he loves my presence and that Im precious to him . It doesnt sound healthy but Ive gotten better now and he still checks up on me regularly to see if Ive been smoking weed or cutting

>>82159634
It sounds like you will be ok as long as you both hold on to your love for each other. You could say to him to keep on saying gm and gn though that could be a baseline thing you both do to show each other that you are in each others hearts, it's silly but just a small thing of importance you can both have as a gauge of how much longing you both have for each other. It's not bad for you to get busy also, it's like your love is getting tested to see if either one of you will give up, if you give it your all and it still doesn't work out then you can leave with no regrets and you can be left with the bittersweet memories to remind you what life is.

>>82159686
>all she would do is send him nudes
Disgusting whore. I spit on her and her likes!
Also, it's fine for you to not like your lovers ex, but you have to consider that maybe it's not so nice of him to talk like that about her.
Dude, how the fuck do you smoke weed in your overbearing household?
I don't know man, it makes perfect sense now that you're with a slavic guy.

>>82159699
I smoke it in college lel my boyfriend surprisingly hates smoking and drinking which isnt typical for a Slav but it is whag is it
>like your lovers ex
hes not shit talking his ex to make me feel better shes genuinely disgusting .she cyberstalks him and has made 10 numbers just to contact him . She'd talk about how he wants him to rape her and stab her all that weird e girl edgy stuff

>>82159730
Wow, your boyfriend actually sounds based.

>>82159737
Yeah hes really chill and is a music nerd owns vinyl collections likes vintage movies its better than the guys here who just drink and go clubbing all day thatd why I have so much trust in him . Hes not the type of guy to cheat on me without breaking up hes genuinely pure

>>82159260 (OP)
He got tired of you. Can't say he's cheating or not, but the chance is there. You learned about the honey moon phase, good job.

>>82159260 (OP)
>females
>loving men
lol

>>82159790
Theres been men in here condoning cheating and telling me to leave him and stop being loyal lol just say youre gay

>>82159260 (OP)
where are you from? do you shave? do you swallow cum and piss? do you do anal? do you cum quick? how often do u wanna fuck?

>>82159260 (OP)
Its completely possible he still loves you and is just focusing on developing himself and his future to be a better man for you. Dont take the doomers words as gospel, though of course its still a possibility that hes fallen out of love. Id say just support him and try not to let those feelings change how you treat him.

>>82159793
You're gonna have to rephrase that, so I can understand it.

>>82160423
She's mad and has no argument so now she's calling you gay, saying nobody would want you, in an attempt to make you as mad as her.