Oh anon, did you actually spend months again daydreaming about spending your life together with someone who just gave you a little bit of attention and then forgot about you and had sex with someone far more attractive than you that very night?
You don't actually do that right?

>>82170649 (OP)
i did this with a girl from vrchat despite having only hung out three times
but we hung out all night, that has to mean something right?

>>82172017
Slightly less pathetic than people who do it when being asked for directions and nothing more.
Ever spoke after that?

Hard projecting again?

>>82170649 (OP)
damn you caught me

>>82170649 (OP)
Why do this to people?

>>82172369
Hmm, did I strike a nerve perhaps?
I wonder why that is?

>>82172389
Because if you actually do this and spend months fantasizing about someone you know nothing about and get mad about someone you know nothing about having sex with someone you deserve all the mockery coming for you.

No sympathy, no quarter.

>>82172347
been looking forward to our next meeting but we dont see eachother (in vr) on a regular basis
cant say ive had this experience with a meaningless tiny interaction like that though lmao, that must be hell
actually scratch that i saw this one cute goth cashier at a goodwill and couldnt stop thinking about her for a week

>>82172428
It's so hard to actually remain smug and mock someone when that person actually honestly confronts you and talks like a human being I have to say.

Wow, it's almost like people are actually right and people would have more sympathy for incels if they didn't lash out and made it someone else's problem.

But this was months ago right that you talked? As in it was about months daydreaming and that kind of stuff or was the months daydreaming response just hyperbolic.

I mean even I at one point for whatever reason was passionately arguing calling each other a faggot and stuff on IRC with someone once and once just said "I find you extremely attractive by the way." and got a "Likewise" response back. I think we both knew we both were getting aroused by insulting each other and we became decent e-friends after that for a few years I guess.

>>82172466
im having a bit of trouble comprehending your post but ill try my best
>But this was months ago right that you talked
actually it started earlier this week
>was the months daydreaming response just hyperbolic
just fyi im not OP
>I think we both knew we both were getting aroused by insulting each other and we became decent e-friends after that for a few years I guess.
having a mutual bantz bro like that seems cool, but was it really a sexual thing? i'd take that kind of thing as a joke in the moment

>>82172411
There are a lot of delicate deperate people here who can't help it. Why add to their suffering? You just dig them deeper into their head.
>No sympathy, no quarter
That's unnecessarily mean.

>>82172515
You misapprehend, I'm the original poster and you said "I did that with a girl" so that implies it was months. But apparently that was hyperbolic. That's all.

But I guess I got the impression from that response that this was all a long time ago but basically it's all quite recent and you'll probably talk again and genuinely had a connexion?

>having a mutual bantz bro like that seems cool, but was it really a sexual thing? i'd take that kind of thing as a joke in the moment

I'm fairly certain it wasn't, like I said we became e-friends for a few years after that and yeah we met up twice. It was fairly sincere.

>>82172545
Anon, these people are vile. Saying "I can't help it" can be said about any vile behavior.

They ruin this website and many places on the internet. They literally come into unrelated threads and start insulting people for having their life better together than they do. They don't get to play the victim here.

Im in the middle of this now but I have hope this time. I completely realize it could be in my head.

Over the last few months the conversations with the woman who cuts my hair have gotten a lot more personal, and last month she switched salons and called my works call center to get ahold of me and tell me where her new place was. Now this last appointment I went to at the new place we ended up talking about her family camping trip, that shes glad to have her house to herself again because a family member was staying with her a few days, and when I talked about trying a new restaurant that I thought was good she asked what Ive tried there so far and then tells me shes been there a few times because its close to where she lives.

I keep telling myself this is just normal conversation and I need to not be weird, but I hope Im wrong.

>>82172637
oh, i see
>you'll probably talk again and genuinely had a connexion
i dont know, i have zero experience with women online or off
we seem to "vibe" but theres an voice in the back of my head saying; im looking way too much into this and she probably just likes to chat
>I'm fairly certain it wasn't
>It was fairly sincere.
wait so which was it? you guys were attracted but in a not sexual way? just platonic?

>>82172698
i know that feel man
at least for me, having no sensible reference of whats "normal conversation", stuff like this seems like it could turn into a date or deeper connection at any moment
just need to remember most people are just talking about random shit to fill the time and air

>>82172733
That's exactly where Im at. Im good at having work related conversations, but when its personal Im pretty lost. I wouldn't talk about that kind of stuff with someone I didn't like in some way, and we used to only really talk about what's going on with my job ect. But now that she seems to be talking more about her own personal life and through our conversations I have a pretty decent idea of where she lives I cant help but think you wouldn't share that stuff unless you at the very least trusted that person.

I dont want to get ahead of myself, but I have a glimmer of hope.

>>82172714
I mean it wasn't a joke, we actually had sex and well, we were pretty explicit and obvious during the online stage that we were attracted to one another, Like what I mean is:

>>82172698
>>82172714
Like not to sound bragging but what I mean is this overthinking of "Ohh, I hope I'm not reading too much into this" is just alien to me. Or rather I guess, maybe I'm just not reading anything into things or don't bother when people aren't explicit. Who knows, maybe I'm the autistic one and just don't read "subtle signs" but I also don't feel I really need to as in my experience people are just explicit enough that you can't miss it all the time, as in they just that they wouldn't mind having sex with you or are really interested in it. And no, I don't think my experience is the abnormal one but yours is.
>>82172733
>>82172778
Like this.

>>82172778
well to be fair, calling you at your work just to tell you where she moved is kind of a lot for just an acquaintance
at the very least youre a "good friend", but we both know the well documented phenomena of the friend zone

>>82172793
you are bragging, just not in a direct way

>>82172809
Yeah well that's one of the other reason you people are obnoxious. You people are always like "muh bragging" when people just talk about normal sexual experiences as a normal human being.
Yeah a mad sour homeless person would also complain about "bragging" when someone just talks about having bought a nice new plant for his room but people just do that you know.

>>82172793
I know my experience is the odd one out. I want to ask her out so I can get an answer and move on, but I only ever see her at her job and since its at a salon all of her coworkers would overhear me doing it. It just seems rude. So instead I just scratch my head and hope to run into her in public one day so I can ask her out.

>>82172796
Yeah calling my work does stand out. I am a client of hers so I totally understand retaining a customer, its just that it feels like more effort than being purely that. Plus part of the reason I like her is that she doesn't have any social media presence, so I sort of doubt the whole friend zone thing. If anything my own inaction is the only thing keeping me from either dating her or being rejected.

>>82172809
To be fair, theres some stuff in all of our lives where just joining the conversation sounds like bragging.

>>82172830
>you people are obnoxious
my man youre the one getting annoyed at people sharing thoughts on how tricky navigating social situations is, and saying "uh actually its not. you just ask for sex and get it duh, you are not normal"
what you are doing is the equivalent of saying "why doesnt the homeless guy just buy a house lol"
retard

>>82172833
>So instead I just scratch my head and hope to run into her in public one day so I can ask her out.
well, maybe one day the conversation will organically shift to "hey lets go to that new restaurant" or "see that new movie"
i dont think its that weird to make casual plans like that in earshot, especially nowadays where dating apps have normalized it
>she doesn't have any social media presence
this is really rare and yeah i agree its an admirable trait, it feels like the current culture is too universal sometimes so meeting someone "unplugged" is a breath of fresh air

>>82172845
No I'm not. I'm in no way offering you any advice. I'm simply saying why it was obvious from my perspective and why we live in different worlds. Someone keeps asking me "Are you sure it was obvious?" and I simply realized from the post what the difference in our experience was. I wasn't in this loop of overanalysing everything to wonder whether it's mutual and I never had that, it was obvious because the blatantly, explicitly and clearly told each other we wanted to have sex and eventually met up to do so, that's all.

>>82172894
>No I'm not. I'm in no way offering you any advice.
and you missed the point entirely
you might actually be autistic

>>82170649 (OP)
Yes, and I have been thinking about her everyday for the last 10 years. One day I think she will go for me, I just gotta keep talking with her and become really successful

>>82172886
I plan to try and bring it up naturally next time we have an appointment. It feels like I sort of missed an opportunity to do that last time when we were talking about it, but Im dense and cant read subtext in the moment. Even if I do have the wrong idea, I dont think she could blame me for thinking there was more. She had mentioned at one point early in the year that she hates it when clients ask her about her life, and when I said thats basically all I do she just laughed and said it was fine.

I fully admit Im an idiot when it comes to interactions beyond "work mode" or customer service talk. Im just frustrated because when I was younger there were more places and opportunities to meet people thay were acceptable to just say what you wanted.

>>82172987
man i'd say just shoot your shot, it sounds like you have a good thing going
>there were more places and opportunities to meet people thay were acceptable to just say what you wanted.
im probably way younger than you and it sounds like a totally different world when people describe how they would meet up before the internet and apps
i think its been described as the disappearance of "the third place"

>>82173100
Ive heard people talking about third places before and I agree thats probably part of it.

A big part too is that dating apps have contributed to this idea of compartmentalizing human interaction into a specific place where its okay, and slowly it stopped being acceptable in a lot of other contexts. Im 30, so Im not super up there, but I definetly noticed a shift during covid where it stopped being as acceptable to ask people out in various places (yes I know, its blown out of proportion with people online.) At work is a big no, so now I could either put myself through the annoyance of getting 1 match a month on some dating app, or I can hope my limited interactions with people in real life leads somewhere.